Dh's family is driving 15 hours to BILs house to visit. They made good time and are about 2 hours away. They are arriving 30 min ahead of what they thought but no set time was confirmed.
BIL just called them and told them not to come inside til afternoon. He told them to sit in the driveway until it's noon. They aren't working.
I find this so odd, I would never tell my family to sit in my driveway til it was OK to come in.
Yeah that's weird! Do you think maybe they are cleaning the house and are embarrassed for them to see the state that it's in? It would still be weird but that's the only excuse I can think of for wanting them to wait outside. I hope they bring food and drinks to them outside while they wait.
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Yeah that's weird! Do you think maybe they are cleaning the house and are embarrassed for them to see the state that it's in? It would still be weird but that's the only excuse I can think of for wanting them to wait outside. I hope they bring food and drinks to them outside while they wait.
I was thinking this but this trip has been planned for months, not a last min thing they need to tidy up for. Plus its his mom, she will cook, clean and do everything for him and his wife.
There is some speculation it is at the wife's request as he would gladly have his family clean before he was married. However his wife doesnt clean or cook.
That's really weird and rude. I'd be so pissed after driving 15 hours to have to sit in the car for an extra 30 min.
Does he have a reason?
He just told them now that it was bc he didn't have food to feed them lunch. They were planning on stopping to eat anyways. He still wants them to sit outside. We are headed there this evening. This should be a fun weekend..
That's really weird and rude. I'd be so pissed after driving 15 hours to have to sit in the car for an extra 30 min.
Does he have a reason?
He just told them now that it was bc he didn't have food to feed them lunch. They were planning on stopping to eat anyways. He still wants them to sit outside. We are headed there this evening. This should be a fun weekend..
What?!? So so weird. How do you not have food when you've clearly had warning they are coming? But if they've already eaten, why can't they come in? The whole thing is odd and seems like there is a different reason. Maybe his wife doesn't like the family or has some hang-ups about cleaning and hosting?
IL's drove 4 hours to come to our place over Thanksgiving 2 years ago. I expected them around 3 pm because the day before my husband told me they were leaving at 11 am. Instead they arrived at 1 pm. I didn't tell them to wait in the driveway because my husband would have never listened to that, but I said hi coldly and went in my room and shut the door. They sensed something was up and made up some excuse about having to run to CVS or McDonald's or something and came back in an hour. I was mad at my husband for telling me their ETA was 3 pm and then not updating me that they actually left much earlier which is why they arrived at 1 pm. It's like I needed to mentally prepare for them to come and them showing up early threw me off. I was also nearly 7 month pregnant at the time, but that wasn't really an excuse.
I wouldn't do it again now because I have a daughter and it would be wrong to pull stuff like this and set a bad example for her. Now I would have to teach her that we are supposed to get really excited when family shows up way earlier than expected because wow, what a treat! Even if inside I'm dying.
Post by waterchurch on May 23, 2015 10:47:52 GMT -5
I've been really tempted to say this. But more like when my dad who lives 2 hours away shows up 2 hours early. I've never actually told him to do it though.
That's really weird and rude. I'd be so pissed after driving 15 hours to have to sit in the car for an extra 30 min.
Does he have a reason?
He just told them now that it was bc he didn't have food to feed them lunch. They were planning on stopping to eat anyways. He still wants them to sit outside. We are headed there this evening. This should be a fun weekend..
But he has two hours heads up to order a pizza? Can they use the bathroom? His own mother. Geez
My husband and I had a friend do this to us....we arrived and they said to go do something for about 30 minutes. I was confused, so we sat there and laughed about it, played on our phone, debated about going home.
When we were finally "allowed" to come inside it smelled like weed. I guess they didn't want us to know and hoped it would air out more.
They didn't question why BIL told them to do this? I mean. I don't like my ILs and they have never been early for anything ever. Still. Road trips are always off on timing. You knew they were coming frigging let them in and order a pizza.