Statistically smamistically it happened to her friend's kid. Hard to erase that. When you experience it, then it will shape how you respond in the future.
Bull. My oldest had a freak accident at 2 and wound up with a concussion. He needed therapy to regain skills and had migraines for months after. I could separate that what happened was a rare thing and didn't put him in a bubble afterwards. Crazy rare things happening doesn't affect how I live my life.
This is the kind of shit that pisses people off. Just because you choose not to let something bother you doesn't mean that those of us who do are abnormal or dealing in an unhealthy way. Get some empathy.
Bull. My oldest had a freak accident at 2 and wound up with a concussion. He needed therapy to regain skills and had migraines for months after. I could separate that what happened was a rare thing and didn't put him in a bubble afterwards. Crazy rare things happening doesn't affect how I live my life.
This is the kind of shit that pisses people off. Just because you choose not to let something bother you doesn't mean that those of us who do are abnormal or dealing in an unhealthy way. Get some empathy.
I never said there was something wrong or abnormal with people who reacted different. I can definitely empathize with being afraid for your child when there's something serious going on, no doubt. Mama2 was saying when I experience something like that then I would respond differently in the future. That isn't true for me. That isn't a dig at others who do change their response moving forward just that it doesn't always happen that way.
This is the kind of shit that pisses people off. Just because you choose not to let something bother you doesn't mean that those of us who do are abnormal or dealing in an unhealthy way. Get some empathy.
I never said there was something wrong or abnormal with people who reacted different. I can definitely empathize with being afraid for your child when there's something serious going on, no doubt. Mama2 was saying when I experience something like that then I would respond differently in the future. That isn't true for me. That isn't a dig at others who do change their response moving forward just that it doesn't always happen that way.
Really, though? What you went through with your child's concussion has had no impact on your parenting? Not the things that you allow him to do or the experiences you give him, but say he takes a header off some playground equipment. With the experiences you have had, you are not going to watch him that much closer? Be on even higher alert for the signs and symptoms that you experienced once before that may alert you to a problem? Because that seems unavoidable. That's parenting - you experience and learn things as you go along that inform your future parenting. It doesn't mean you walk around on high alert forever, but you now have memories and responses that are engrained in who you are.
I never said there was something wrong or abnormal with people who reacted different. I can definitely empathize with being afraid for your child when there's something serious going on, no doubt. Mama2 was saying when I experience something like that then I would respond differently in the future. That isn't true for me. That isn't a dig at others who do change their response moving forward just that it doesn't always happen that way.
Really, though? What you went through with your child's concussion has had no impact on your parenting? Not the things that you allow him to do or the experiences you give him, but say he takes a header off some playground equipment. With the experiences you have had, you are not going to watch him that much closer? Be on even higher alert for the signs and symptoms that you experienced once before that may alert you to a problem? Because that seems unavoidable. That's parenting - you experience and learn things as you go along that inform your future parenting. It doesn't mean you walk around on high alert forever, but you now have memories and responses that are engrained in who you are.
Oh of course I watch for symptoms and am more fearful without a doubt. There's a difference between being vigilant and monitoring symptoms and rushing my kid to the pedis office every time they bump their head to have them immediately examined though. I mean my friends niece has cancer but I'm not rushing my son to the pedis office everytime he has growing pains to make sure it's not bone cancer. Their experiences although they tear at my heart don't make me fearful that my child's minor, common ailments are something far more threatening. I will continue to follow the recommendations I've given by three different ENTs as well as my own doctor and my child's pedi and will still continue to echo their sentiments when others ask for advice on ear infections even though there's a one in a million chance it's life threatening.
Really, though? What you went through with your child's concussion has had no impact on your parenting? Not the things that you allow him to do or the experiences you give him, but say he takes a header off some playground equipment. With the experiences you have had, you are not going to watch him that much closer? Be on even higher alert for the signs and symptoms that you experienced once before that may alert you to a problem? Because that seems unavoidable. That's parenting - you experience and learn things as you go along that inform your future parenting. It doesn't mean you walk around on high alert forever, but you now have memories and responses that are engrained in who you are.
Oh of course I watch for symptoms and am more fearful without a doubt. There's a difference between being vigilant and monitoring symptoms and rushing my kid to the pedis office every time they bump their head to have them immediately examined though. I mean my friends niece has cancer but I'm not rushing my son to the pedis office everytime he has growing pains to make sure it's not bone cancer. Their experiences although they tear at my heart don't make me fearful that my child's minor, common ailments are something far more threatening. I will continue to follow the recommendations I've given by three different ENTs as well as my own doctor and my child's pedi and will still continue to echo their sentiments when others ask for advice on ear infections even though there's a one in a million chance it's life threatening.
There's the condescension we so know and love. Growing pains=bone cancer, and a crazed trip to the pedi. Yep, that's exactly what I said and exactly the point I was trying to make. Good grief.
I am not arguing with the advice you were given by your pedi. Nor am I advocating that a child be "rushed to the pedi" for every bump, bruise, or sniffle. I was suggesting that one get in contact with their pedi when there are concerns of an ear infection. For me, that means I send him an email detailing my kids' symptoms and asking his advice on what to do next. If he says wait and see and stay in touch, fine. If he wants us to come in to get looked at, fine. But I do believe that your medical professional should be involved when you have a medical concern. That does not have to mean rushing to a clinic or even the use of antibiotics. My point in the anecdote with my friend is that even minor illnesses can turn bad quickly, and kids can be unreliable in their presentation of symptoms, so best to get a doctor involved, whether that's a note sent or a trip in. If you are comfortable with the way you have handled these types of illnesses in the past, then great. Keep on keepin' on. But there is no need to discount and belittle the experiences and responses of those who handle it differently.