I hate that this is a thing now

[imojoebunny]

I have a friend who looked like that after she had her babies. She had some condition that made her throw up constantly throughout her pregnancy, hyperemesis. It was a real concern for her health and her baby.

It sounds like this woman is obsessive about exercise, and views it as her job, and has good genetics. I like the way she takes credit for it completely, like everyone could do this, if they just worked out 7 hours a day, and ate 1500 calories.

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May 26, 2015 12:39:30 GMT -5 aspentosh said:

May 26, 2015 12:32:28 GMT -5 @this said:

No one is saying she can't wear a bikini. 

What she doesn't have to do is go blasting to the media about how she got there by taking a class that involves the word "sculpt" in the title the entire time she was pregnant. Again, not realistic for most women while they're pregnant. (Nor should it be?) 

She knew the comments that would follow. She knew that this particular picture especially would bring on a wave of "Good for yous!" and "That's how you do it!" and "Way to bounce back!"

Also her husband is also blabbing to media outlets about her body. Which, in itself, is enough for me to abhor posting the picture.

I'll admit to skimming the post, but did she post it or did her husband? And I have no idea what the media outlets are doing. I was simply talking about this photo. 

Would you be more upset (irate? annoyed? I don't know the right word here!) if she had good genetics and didn't have to work her ass off for her pregnant and postpartum body? I am trying to understand your position on her working out during pregnancy. That's not a bad thing and a lot of people do it. They're just not famous and therefor don't have the same platform she does. 

I don't know. Maybe I should be more upset but I am also hopeful this won't make people think 6 days after you have a kid that you should look like this. I think people know better and hence the fascination with this "anomaly". 

I agree with this. If you look at losing the baby weight as a continuum, she is obviously at one extreme end. Using common sense, most people are going to cluster in the middle somewhere.

Is it a bad thing to want to stay in shape during pregnancy or lose the weight as quickly as you can? I feel like we have a lot of threads on here by people who raise these topics and don't get flamed for it. Maybe I am confusing it with the other place.

[laurack]

working hard to get back your figure is NOT the same as wearing a white bikini 6 days pp, having photos taken and publicised when you don't look like you gave birth at all.

I mean it doesn't even matter if it was just.. a flattering angle.. or photoshopped or whatever. Doesn't matter. It's what she is/they are choosing to present to the world. This is the picture you want the world to see of how motherhood is for you at 6 days post partum.

It just.. it isn't right.

[boxerdog]

May 26, 2015 12:24:10 GMT -5 aspentosh said:

And no, I can't see myself in a bikini 6 days PP, but why does that mean she can't wear one?

It's not that we are saying she can't wear a bikini, its just that, let's face it, no one is just hanging around in a white bikini 6 days PP just for funsies. She put it on for the (probably sole) purpose of taking a pic of her body, which she then put up on social media.

If women can't catch a break with the body ideals obsession a few days after giving birth, when can we?!??!

eta: or, basically everything @this is saying

[cincodemayo]

Yeah, I don't like it. I was trying to think that maybe I'm just jealous that I don't have the discipline to work out all the time and put a bikini on or whatever, but it's really not that at all.

This is silly of me to say because I'm sure women can take care of their body, and their bikini, and their hair and makeup AS WELL AS their newborn child in order to get the perfect Memorial Day shot, but why not just spend some time cuddling the kid you just bore and get out of here.

[laurack]

yeah this is a magazine cover you don't see a lot

"Celeb X opens up about how round and gelatinous her tummy still is and how much her nipples and vagina keep bleeding. Read all about her first joyous weeks of motherhood inside!"

[marina007]

About a year and a half ago there was a huge outrage at home over a similar (but even more extreme imo) photo. I remember being 2ish weeks pp at the time and it genuinely made me feel terrible (also - omg hoping my DH wouldn't see the photo and get "resentful" - #hormones).

I completely agree that this adds so
Much pressure on the individual- of course she's proud- I sure would be, but I still think this emphasizes that the value of a woman correlates to her hotness- not her smarts, emotional abilities, job etc.

Eta: link to footballers wife photo: m.nydailynews.com/news/world/soccer-wife-post-birth-pictures-criticized-article-1.1533715

[Deleted]

I will never look like that, much less 6 days/ 6 weeks/ 6 months after having a kid. And I'M fucking OVER caring about it! My blood pressure is great, I was able to walk 27,000 steps today (we're in Europe doing s lot of walking tours), and while my feet hurt, my body feels fine. So you know what? I'm tired of caring!

[halfpint]

May 26, 2015 12:49:54 GMT -5 laurack said:

yeah this is a magazine cover you don't see a lot

"Celeb X opens up about how round and gelatinous her tummy still is and how much her nipples and vagina keep bleeding. Read all about her first joyous weeks of motherhood inside!"

 I want to read this article. 

[aspentosh]

May 26, 2015 12:49:54 GMT -5 laurack said:

yeah this is a magazine cover you don't see a lot

"Celeb X opens up about how round and gelatinous her tummy still is and how much her nipples and vagina keep bleeding. Read all about her first joyous weeks of motherhood inside!"

There is obviously something here, but again... celebrities are on the cover. Not usually the average joe. So how does one fight back against that? I wish there were a clearer answer.

That being said, it does happen. I remember reading this article about Olivia Wilde a couple months ago.  

www.shape.com/celebrities/interviews/olivia-wilde-gets-real-about-her-body-after-baby

"On the first weeks of motherhood: "First of all, you haven't seen your vagina in months, even though it's all her fault you're in this situation. Now that you can finally confirm that she is, in fact, still there, she isn't the gal that you remember, and would rather you back off and give her some space (and an ice diaper) for the time being, thank you very much.""

"On her exercise philosophy: "I believe in a world where mothers are not expected to shed any physical evidence of their child-bearing experience. In that same world I believe there is space for exercise to be as much a gift to your brain as it is your body. I don't want to waste my time striving for some subjective definition of perfection. I'd rather rebuild my strength while dancing my ass off...literally.""

So the articles exist, but because they don't seem to shock and awe people as much (even though she is still jaw-droppingly gorgeous), I guess it doesn't get the same screen time.

[Yankees21]

Yeah, I hate this. Immediate postpartum is such an emotional time for most women, and now there are these unrealistic ideals being pushed on us. Blah blah it's her job, but she's posting it as something to strive towards, and it just seems wrong.

[patbutcher]

May 26, 2015 12:52:04 GMT -5 marina007 said:

About a year and a half ago there was a huge outrage at home over a similar (but even more extreme imo) photo. I remember being 2ish weeks pp at the time and it genuinely made me feel terrible (also - omg hoping my DH wouldn't see the photo and get "resentful" - #hormones).

I completely agree that this adds so
Much pressure on the individual- of course she's proud- I sure would be, but I still think this emphasizes that the value of a woman correlates to her hotness- not her smarts, emotional abilities, job etc.

Eta: link to footballers wife photo: m.nydailynews.com/news/world/soccer-wife-post-birth-pictures-criticized-article-1.1533715

holy crap. I looked at 7 weeks pg the way she did at 38 weeks. W.T.F

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May 26, 2015 12:46:37 GMT -5 @starry said:

Part of the problem is the other end of the spectrum isn't celebrated. Just the pretty aka thin.

This is true. This is a good point. I guess I feel like you can acknowledge that someone worked hard and looks good (aka saying "good for her") without criticizing other people for not prioritizing the same things or putting pressure on them to do so. I don't feel like they are mutually exclusive positions to hold. Like I said, I really don't think it's good for women to feel pressured to get back into shape right away. Just that I personally understand the desire to do so.

@this Do you think it's wrong for women to feel like it's important for their own sense of self to want to lose the weight and look/feel like their old selves as soon as possible? Or is it just that she posted the picture? 

I hope you know that I'm not trying to argue! I'm just bored waiting for DD to wake up from her nap and think this is an interesting discussion  

[thecatinthehat]

Umm I was still occasionally passing medium sized clots at that point. Wtf! I trully hate this stuff.

[Willis Jackson]

I can't stand that she's taking credit for it. This is 90% genetics. Come on now.

[Willis Jackson]

Remember this?



Here's Kourtney calling them out for photoshopping and making up the whole story.

[carolinagirl831]

Damn she must be 7 ft talk to look like that at 38 weeks

[vmars]

I remember fitting into a pair of prepregnancy jeans 12 months post partum and feeling pretty jazzed. I hope this is a prepregnancy pic they are trying to pawn off as post partum.

[oswin]

Sigh. I am curious what my body will look like 1 week pp. I don't think I have any pics of it from just after I had DD. This pregnancy I've been working out a lot, I've only gained 18 pounds so far (about 6 pounds less than I had gained this time last pregnancy), everyone tells me I'm only showing in my belly, and that my belly looks small for being 36 weeks. And yet I'm getting even more stretch marks than last time and my belly is a bit bigger than my first pregnancy - and my belly looked like shit after I had DD. So I'm expecting to look like shit again, and I don't care.

It's old, but here's a nice post with real pictures of postpartum bellies: www.babble.com/baby/what-our-post-baby-bellies-really-look-like/

[karinothing]

I worked out a ton in my first pregnancy and am working out with this one (although not as much) and i still gaine da lot of weight. But I think about it, if I weighed 100lbs like most of these women likely do before pregnancy, I would probably look like this post pregnancy.

[thebreakfastclub]

May 26, 2015 12:58:11 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

I want to like Olivia Wilde again, but I just can't after her weirdo ice BM bucket challenge.

I know - nobody can win with me! lol

She used to be my girl.

I think she tried a little too hard with her post partum statements.  She looks fantastic, so her "the struggle is real" running commentary rubbed me the wrong way.    

[ringstrue]

I feel bad for her. It probably took forever to set her up just so for this photo, then a bunch of Photoshop tweaking. It probably took a day or two. I don't wanna know what she had to wear under her bikini bottoms to get that shot but it probably wasn't OB approved. I get that she's *supposed* to generate positive comments or envy but I really just pity her.

This is why you go for the job that allows you time off and requires your brain cells and not your abs to be flat.

[Willis Jackson]

I want to post a picture of my 9 months post 3rd baby belly.

[Deleted]

There was still so.much.blood at that point. I don't think I was wearing real underwear 6 days pp. I had a stash of those mesh things.

I think this is dangerous. That baby shouldn't be in the sun. You should not wear a tampon or diva cup that early. It's not healthy to severely limit calories during or directly after pregnancy and a lot of exercises are not a good idea at either point. At least that bathing suit top is probably not going to cause plugged ducts.

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May 26, 2015 12:25:14 GMT -5 @this said:

May 26, 2015 12:20:24 GMT -5 CheeringCharm said:

I don't know, I think it is really normal for women to want to look and feel like their pre pregnant selves and part of that involves losing the baby weight. I don't find that desire to be problematic. What is more of problem imo is the pressure people put on themselves, and the pressure the media puts on celebrities in particular, to bounce back right away. So she's not helping with that. But otoh, she is apparently pushing some type of pregnancy fitness routine so I guess she can argue that this is part of her job. At least she admits that she worked really hard for that body. A lot of celebrities think it is more aspiration to have you think they are eating cheeseburgers every night and still look like they do, that they're just extra "lucky" that way.

Eh. I don't really care why she's doing it or that she's a celebrity. She's encouraging an ideal that's unrealistic for 99.9% of women. She has a platform and how she's using it is damaging to the majority of women IMO.

I would reiterate, not just unrealistic, but attempting is dangerous.

[teatimefor2]

I didn't even know this was a thing.

This is not reality people!!!

[bowies]

You plebes were bleeding 6 days pp? Geez, if you were really committed, you would have that figured out by now. Normal female anatomy is for the weak.

[lolo]

I hate it when men call women their 'champions.' Puke.

[rugbywife]

May 26, 2015 15:05:33 GMT -5 mr+ms said:

Huh, isn't it funny that none of these celeb/hot post baby bods get linea nigra? I remember scrubbing off the remnants with a washcloth about 9 mos pp. I know, I know, photoshop cures that, too. Maybe video footage would be more impressive, TMZ.

Wait a second, it can't actually be scrubbed off, can it?

[badtzmaru22]

May 26, 2015 15:08:37 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

May 26, 2015 15:05:33 GMT -5 mr+ms said:

Huh, isn't it funny that none of these celeb/hot post baby bods get linea nigra? I remember scrubbing off the remnants with a washcloth about 9 mos pp. I know, I know, photoshop cures that, too. Maybe video footage would be more impressive, TMZ.

I thought mine was never going away after E. Actually, I can still see it if I look really closely.

Mine hasn't gone away. I had DD in 2012, and it faded a little, but was still there when I got pregnant again late 2013. It didn't get very dark again the second time though, and it's still visible today. Scrubbing is definitely not getting it off, lol!