Do your April kids treat you and your H differently?

[vthokie]

Like, are they good for one and not for the other. I feel like I already have a teenager (hence the name three-nager I guess) a is so defiant with me. Sassy, smart ass, lots of arms crossed "no"s. LOTS of whining and screaming. H gets some of this, but not nearly as much. My thought is because I am with her more because of H's schedule. I'm so tired of being frustrated with her, especially when H just has to swoop in and everything's hunky dory again.
Do you get different attitude than your SO does?

[Deleted]

I definitely get the worst of her behavior. I think it's partially I'm with her more and partially he's more strict so she knows she can't get away with as much.

[thedahliharpa]

From H, yes but D favors me. She plays "hard to get" with DH.

[vthokie]

I guess it's weird because she favored me forever. Now H is the bees knees and I'm just that annoying person who won't do exactly what she wants in a timely manner

[mcburglar]

I'm the one he wants if something is wrong but he behaves better for Dh and likes playing with him more.

[honeybee503]

Yes. She is much more trying with H. I think it's because he isn't home as often as I am, and she wants to see what he will let her get away with.

[kkfeb04]

She knows that Daddy is wrapped around her finger.

[fryjack2]

Very much so.

They will not settle for H if they wake up in the middle of the night.

They always want me for everything

[earlybird]

Yes. L wants me for everything, which can be frustrating. However, she is also very free with cuddles, kisses, and "I live yous" with me. H has to work for them.

[dojo]

Yes - I am able to take him from a 8-10/10 on the tantrum scale down to calm in usually less than 10 minutes whereas DH can never get him to take a breather.

H also confuses some of the things DH says and does with him as him being in trouble. The other day H spilled his bubble-maker and thought he was in trouble with DH even though DH didn't say or do anything out of the ordinary. H came to me upset and wanted me to come outside with the two of them.

Conversely, if DH says something and means business, H listens whereas it might take me more effort to get him to pay attention.

[laurack]

She favors me and generally behaves worse for me. She knows h is a bit more no nonsense and I'm the weak link so she takes advantags of me a bit. She only wants me to put her to bed because she knows I will read and sing more than he will

[jsillyfun]

She is pretty much the same with us both but If Dh is home she tends to want him more bc she sees him less. She only wants me at bedtime though. He's a little stricter but it doesn't make her listen any better lol.

[lauranicole91]

She's behaves better for me than Wes. I'm the hard ass. He is too inconsistent and gives in a lot.

[lolaburns]

He knows he has H wrapped around his finger. He tends to gravitate to H when he is home because he generally never sees him 5 days a week.

He always comes running to me when he has a bobo, though.

[katie]

If she wants to go outside or play, she will always try H first. Everything else is me. And if it starts with H somehow she always wants mommy.


eta- for behavior, we handle her so differently it's hard to tell. H gets bent out of shape about things way quicker than I do. But she's sassy to us both. 

[carawestt]

Lincoln is equally sassy and difficult with both of us.

[thedahliharpa]

May 28, 2015 18:55:48 GMT -5 vthokie said:

Like, are they good for one and not for the other. I feel like I already have a teenager (hence the name three-nager I guess) a is so defiant with me. Sassy, smart ass, lots of arms crossed "no"s. LOTS of whining and screaming. H gets some of this, but not nearly as much. My thought is because I am with her more because of H's schedule. I'm so tired of being frustrated with her, especially when H just has to swoop in and everything's hunky dory again.
Do you get different attitude than your SO does?

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[imimahoney]

Actually no. I think he can behave well with both of us but also be a raging terror. Just depends on his mood.

[shevacc]

DH lets her get away with a lot more so she's more of a handful for him. But she definitely plays us differently to get what she wants.

[mlkgls]

Yes, to an extent. He's always had a mommy preference, even now that DH stays home and he'll calm down much more quickly and easily for me. He's also more likely to listen to DH when he breaks out the stern "you're in trouble" voice.

[tennisgal]

He has been on a daddy preference for about 6-9mos now....which, sometimes, I'm ok with because I can just say "he wants you, what can I do?" But sometimes, it's pretty annoying that he won't let me do any.thing for him. I think part of it is that MH plays with him more.

[mscatra]

May 28, 2015 19:39:38 GMT -5 lauranicole91 said:

She's behaves better for me than Wes. I'm the hard ass. He is too inconsistent and gives in a lot.

Same thing here!