I'm so livid right now

[katfco]

My mom called me this morning to tell me my brother and SIL had blocked her on Facebook and to ask me to let her know if anything major happened in their lives. 

Backstory: my SIL claims to have been brought up by religious fundamentalists who tried to sell her into an a.rranged m.arriage (periods because they google the heck out of themselves) and she escaped by tracking down her identification, which her mom had hidden. There is zero evidence this is true. Yes, she grew up in a religiously conservative home, but nowhere near religious fundamentalism. 

Except in her mind, all conservative religion=cult. I think she might actually believe she did have to escape all this stuff. I think she's convinced herself and my brother of it. So yesterday, she put up another post about how she grew up like the D.uggar cult and is so glad to have escaped it. I guess my mom got tired of her equating her background with a cult and publicly called her on it. 

So now, my mom's blocked, and when I looked today, it looks like I'm blocked, too. I went on Dh's facebook page and, so far, he's not blocked. And my SIL had made a post in which she says, "Another one bites the dust. Eating pizza with (my brother) to celebrate." 

They cut my mother out of their lives for daring to question them and bragged about eating pizza to celebrate it!! My mother is the least toxic person alive, and people are congratulating them. She's put up with so much of their crap, and now they've set themselves up like the tragic, put-upon heroes in a flipping Bronte novel. 

And I was having such a good day, too. 

[charmediamsure]

She sounds like a peach.

My H cut his mom and sister out of his life and was happy about it, but they are total looney tunes.

I'm sorry you are dealing with this hopefully she will grow up.

[shevacc]

I'm sorry . Your poor mom. I hope you can still stay in contact with your brother at least.

[katfco]

May 28, 2015 19:58:09 GMT -5 charmediamsure said:

She sounds like a peach.

My H cut his mom and sister out of his life and was happy about it, but they are total looney tunes.

I'm sorry you are dealing with this hopefully she will grow up.

Thanks. She's a piece of work. The thing is, she might actually have convinved herself it's true. They're both fairly immature and narcissistic, my brother has Asperger's and she claims to have Asperger's/autism also. People who have Asperger's or autism are often almost impossible to convince something they believe isn't true. She's convinced my brother he was neglected as a child. 

[katfco]

May 28, 2015 20:11:58 GMT -5 shevacc said:

I'm sorry . Your poor mom. I hope you can still stay in contact with your brother at least.

Well, I'm blocked, so if I wanted to contact him, it'd have to be via DH. 

[shevacc]

May 28, 2015 20:16:07 GMT -5 katfco said:

May 28, 2015 20:11:58 GMT -5 shevacc said:

I'm sorry . Your poor mom. I hope you can still stay in contact with your brother at least.

Well, I'm blocked, so if I wanted to contact him, it'd have to be via DH. 

I just meant through phone/email. Do you talk with him other than on FB?

[jenbelle]

I'm so sorry. Hopefully your mom will be able to stay in contact somehow. Hugs.

[mlkgls]

I'm sorry.

[dojo]

Any chance at all that her comment was unrelated to the blocking?

[imimahoney]

I'm sorry.

[kkfeb04]

I'm sorry K!

[katfco]

May 28, 2015 20:19:30 GMT -5 shevacc said:

May 28, 2015 20:16:07 GMT -5 katfco said:

Well, I'm blocked, so if I wanted to contact him, it'd have to be via DH. 

I just meant through phone/email. Do you talk with him other than on FB?

He and I have little contact; he's very self-involved--example: he never commented on the fact that I had a baby and he had a new nephew--and to be honest, I get really tired of his "poor me, my life stinks, we've got no money" shtick. 

I feel badly for them, because he's disabled and can't work, but she's anxious to also be disabled and unable to work--unless the reason she can't work is because it's someone else's fault, depends on the day. 

[katfco]

May 28, 2015 20:22:49 GMT -5 dojo said:

Any chance at all that her comment was unrelated to the blocking?

Not in the slightest. She clarified in her comments who it was they blocked and previously my brother had made a post saying, "I don't care who you are, never call my wife a liar." 

[katfco]

May 28, 2015 20:20:13 GMT -5 jenbelle said:

I'm so sorry. Hopefully your mom will be able to stay in contact somehow. Hugs.

She has his new phone number, but I doubt he'd answer. 

[dojo]

katfco that truly sucks

[jenbelle]

May 28, 2015 20:27:45 GMT -5 katfco said:

May 28, 2015 20:20:13 GMT -5 jenbelle said:

I'm so sorry. Hopefully your mom will be able to stay in contact somehow. Hugs.

She has his new phone number, but I doubt he'd answer. 

Devastating, I'm sorry.

[katfco]

This isn't the first time he's gotten in a snit like this, so there's a chance it'll pass, but honestly, I don't care right now.

[lolaburns]

Our SILs should get together. They are similar peoples.

I am also blocked on FB by SIL. Why I don't know.

I am 10000% committed to not raising a psycho daughter who will turn into a jerk DIL and SIL.

I'm sorry, Kat. It sucks. She doesn't deserve you guys and in a way I'm glad you don't have to see the toxic junk anymore. I hope your brother comes to his senses and realizes how important family is. Big hugs to you.

[christidee]

Wow. That's pretty intense. Hopefully they come to their senses. I'm sorry.

[katfco]

May 28, 2015 20:33:33 GMT -5 lolaburns said:

Our SILs should get together. They are similar peoples.

I am also blocked on FB by SIL. Why I don't know.

I am 10000% committed to not raising a psycho daughter who will turn into a jerk DIL and SIL.

I'm sorry, Kat. It sucks. She doesn't deserve you guys and in a way I'm glad you don't have to see the toxic junk anymore. I hope your brother comes to his senses and realizes how important family is. Big hugs to you.

Thanks.

One of my biggest worries is that they'll continue to develop this story they have in their heads of their traumatic childhoods and end up publicizing it. This topic is such a hot button issue right now.

[sunshineluv]

May 28, 2015 20:27:18 GMT -5 katfco said:

May 28, 2015 20:22:49 GMT -5 dojo said:

Any chance at all that her comment was unrelated to the blocking?

Not in the slightest. She clarified in her comments who it was they blocked and previously my brother had made a post saying, "I don't care who you are, never call my wife a liar." 

I really hate this, I feel really sad for your mom. Sorry katfco!

[lolaburns]

Oh gosh, k. I'm so sorry that is awful. I feel so bad for you guys. Does her mother know about all of this?

[katfco]

May 28, 2015 20:43:50 GMT -5 lolaburns said:

Oh gosh, k. I'm so sorry that is awful. I feel so bad for you guys. Does her mother know about all of this?

Yep. None of us knew they'd even given an interview until my best friend happened to see someone share it on Facebook and she contacted me to give me a heads up.

[lolaburns]

Ugh my heart breaks for her. I can't imagine being accused of something like that by my child and it not being true. I would be broken.

[katfco]

May 28, 2015 20:49:52 GMT -5 lolaburns said:

Ugh my heart breaks for her. I can't imagine being accused of something like that by my child and it not being true. I would be broken.

Yeah. They gave her first and last name, city, etc. and said she tried to sell her for 25K. 

[bean47]

I'm sorry, that's just terrible.