this place is dead!

[amaranth]

Seriously, someone needs to post something interesting.

Family drama?
Work drama?
Need help shopping?
Did you buy anything interesting you want to share?
Have any great new recipes or movies to recommend?

[luv2rn4fun]

I've got a few things...

1) DH wants to go to Palm Springs for one night for our anniversary, with C. This sounds like my worst nightmare (we would have a standard hotel room), although it would be nice to get away. I would honestly prefer to just leave C with someone overnight but that's not an option since my mom isn't feeling well.

2) I have so much anxiety over C's sleep. He takes such crappy naps and we still don't have a schedule which is driving me nuts. I emailed my OB yesterday because it's just not normal (I'm ok but I really hate the feeling of every noise waking him up or "is he going to wake up at 30 min again?")

3) I'm still wearing my maternity clothes even though I'm 5 lbs below pre-pg weight.

[anyastroud]

May 29, 2015 9:34:15 GMT -5 amaranth said:

Seriously, someone needs to post something interesting.

Family drama? My SIL wants to take my kid to some superhero reading group at the beginning if June. I want to tell her to fuck off. I hate her so much. She was all Butt hurt that she didn't get an invite to L's b-day party. We didn't invite her because she hates me and she is a judgmental Bitch.

Work drama? Nah Pretty quiet here. My boss was kind of being an ass yesterday so hopefully he is in a better mood today.

Need help shopping? I desperately need to replace my swimming suit.

Did you buy anything interesting you want to share? NO! I wish. I really to get a portable Disc golf basket, But according to DH we need to cut down on our "Frivolous" Spending. I call BS in that since he has been putting together his "Retro Gamming museum " stuff together since January. 

Have any great new recipes or movies to recommend? Movies: I finally watched maleficent. I loved it. I was disappointed with In to the woods.
Recipes: www.justusfourblog.com/2014/10/slow-cooker-turkey-breast/ This is very tasty and very easy. 

[MrsMB]

Thank you! We needed this today.

Let's see. I've got one.

My Grandather was trying desperately to get re-married within a few hours of my Granmother's funeral last year. (No exageration....he and my Grandmother weren't the picture of a loving embrace after being married almost 60 years.) Around Thanksgiving (several months later) he succeeded. I sent them a Christmas card. Grandfather wrote us one back signed "Name & New Grandmother." So...basically you're saying she's a replacement Grandma? No, thanks. I'll call her Betty. Due to a falling out with he and my Mom, my brothers and I just recently met her at my cousin's graduation ceremony. She was fine. NBD. But yes, I called her Betty. She didn't seem to mind...which, I appreciate.

[MrsMB]

luv2rn4fun Anyone else you might feel comfortable leaving him with? I hope your OB is able to provide you some resources to help lil man sleep

[luv2rn4fun]

May 29, 2015 9:59:48 GMT -5 MrsMB said:

luv2rn4fun Anyone else you might feel comfortable leaving him with? I hope your OB is able to provide you some resources to help lil man sleep

My dad and step mom but they aren't close to Palm Springs.  I'm hoping my OB has resources to help ME with C's sleep...yes he's a crappy sleeper but I need to be able to chill and roll with it.  He's sleeping better at night so who cares if he only naps for 30 min???  I think it affects me most because if he reverts then I'm the one dealing with a cranky, overtired baby...and mama!

[MrsMB]

((luv2rn4fun))

[estrellita]

I haven't had as much time to post now that I'm back at work! I'm so stressed right now about our money issues. We've barely been spending money but our paychecks we got today are pretty much going to be gone already with bills next week. I don't know what to do

[amaranth]

luv2rn4fun *hugs* I'm right there with you. I understand the toll a bad sleeper takes on the mom. It's a mental task to get through the day rather than just physical. I've finally had a solid month of decent sleep now. It took him 10 months but now he legit sleeps. Hopefully it doesn't take C that long to get with the program. On the up side, my H and I were talking last night how the odds are pretty high that the next baby HAS to be better! It makes trying again seem less daunting. M has been a bad sleeper, bad teether, and clingy since day one. Maybe we're just getting it all out of the way now

[luv2rn4fun]

((hugs)) estrellita Sorry finances are so stressful. Any chance you'll take your mom up on her offer to help out? What did you guys decide about moving in with them? Maybe let your parents but things you need for E (diapers, formula, etc...I'm sure they would love to and hopefully it wouldn't make you feel as guilty compared to buying food, gas, etc). Hope things improve soon.

[luv2rn4fun]

May 29, 2015 10:50:04 GMT -5 amaranth said:

luv2rn4fun *hugs* I'm right there with you. I understand the toll a bad sleeper takes on the mom. It's a mental task to get through the day rather than just physical. I've finally had a solid month of decent sleep now. It took him 10 months but now he legit sleeps. Hopefully it doesn't take C that long to get with the program. On the up side, my H and I were talking last night how the odds are pretty high that the next baby HAS to be better! It makes trying again seem less daunting. M has been a bad sleeper, bad teether, and clingy since day one. Maybe we're just getting it all out of the way now

((hugs)) right back at you friend!  I can't imagine doing this another 5 months (although his night sleep is so do-able).  I feel like if we ever went back to how it was 1 month ago I would literally break and cry all.the.time.  I don't know how I got through that and am so glad we sleep trained early to get to where we are right now.

I hope you are right...everyone says that and I'm taking a mental list of who has already signed up to help out if #2 is a nightmare   I think just the thought of doing this all over again, and so soon, is what keeps us from having sex these days (and I really really love my tie with C and get sad at the thought of taking any time away from him with another kid).  We will likely start TTC again in a few months...unless AF stays MIA then we won't until I wean C at 1 (really hope I don't have to wean him to TTC though...that will suck for both of us).

So, does that mean you guys are TTC again?  If so, wishing you guys the best of luck!  How exciting!!

[amaranth]

May 29, 2015 10:57:07 GMT -5 luv2rn4fun said:

May 29, 2015 10:50:04 GMT -5 amaranth said:

luv2rn4fun *hugs* I'm right there with you. I understand the toll a bad sleeper takes on the mom. It's a mental task to get through the day rather than just physical. I've finally had a solid month of decent sleep now. It took him 10 months but now he legit sleeps. Hopefully it doesn't take C that long to get with the program. On the up side, my H and I were talking last night how the odds are pretty high that the next baby HAS to be better! It makes trying again seem less daunting. M has been a bad sleeper, bad teether, and clingy since day one. Maybe we're just getting it all out of the way now

((hugs)) right back at you friend!  I can't imagine doing this another 5 months (although his night sleep is so do-able).  I feel like if we ever went back to how it was 1 month ago I would literally break and cry all.the.time.  I don't know how I got through that and am so glad we sleep trained early to get to where we are right now.

I hope you are right...everyone says that and I'm taking a mental list of who has already signed up to help out if #2 is a nightmare   I think just the thought of doing this all over again, and so soon, is what keeps us from having sex these days (and I really really love my tie with C and get sad at the thought of taking any time away from him with another kid).  We will likely start TTC again in a few months...unless AF stays MIA then we won't until I wean C at 1 (really hope I don't have to wean him to TTC though...that will suck for both of us).

So, does that mean you guys are TTC again?  If so, wishing you guys the best of luck!  How exciting!!

We aren't TTC yet, but since his first birthday is upon us we had a sit down to make sure we were on the same page. We are going to start in August/September depending on when that cycle falls. We decided to wait longer than planned for the same reasons as you just mentioned. We simply couldnt bear the thought of starting all over this soon. We just got our sex life back. I want to enjoy it more before another year of nothing. Lol. #selfish.

We are considering taking a vacation without M at that same time. I don't know when else we would have a chance.

[luv2rn4fun]

amaranth- LOL. My DH just said that he's looking forward to TTC again because of the sex frequency. I totally side-eyed him...so not looking forward to TTC or pregnant sex or no PP sex.

How long did it take you guys together of with M? Aug/sept sounds like a good plan! Will you take your vacation then to kickstart TTC? A kid free vacation sounds lovely (although I would totally miss C the time with DH would be very refreshing)!

Glad you guys have your sex life back...that has to help you feel a little more like your old self even with all of M's issues

[Blue Moon]

luv2rn4fun and amaranth I am here to commiserate with you both! I was in a constant state of sleep deprivation for 9 months. I tried everything to get B to sleep better (CIO, medicine (teeth), nursing to sleep, not nursing at all, more food, less food, sing, rock, send in H, pat, white noise etc) and nothing mattered. She slept when she was ready.. For naps, it wasn't until she dropped to 2 naps around 6.5-7 months that she became a good napper. She has been crawling around and pulling up on everything these past few weeks and I think she is just truly exhausted from all this sudden activity. Without any change in our routine, she spontaneously decided to STTN just shy of 9 months. I just tried to accept it during the worst of it and do whatever I could to get more sleep, including going to bed while the sun was still up often. one of my gfs sent me this link on one of my worst days and I laughed so hard I cried: www.today.com/parents/exhausted-new-moms-hilarious-take-expert-sleep-advice-goes-viral-6C9559908

[amaranth]

luv2rn4fun I believe M was conceived on our 9th cycle. I may be a month off. We are really optimistic it will be quicker this time so that the age gap is smaller. Finger's crossed!

If we went on a trip it would kind of kick start the TTC but mostly just be the only chance. If I have early labor again next time, a mid-pregnancy babymoon wouldn't be possible. Plus going when not pregnant sounds more fun. I think M would be okay for about 3 nights. He'll be 16 months.

Next time you ttc will you automatically do the baby aspirin and progesterone?

[amaranth]

May 29, 2015 11:35:55 GMT -5 @moonbeam said:

You guys are making me dread this . lol. Oh god. I already have a terrible time sleeping.

Our babies are the minority. Notice that katiek isn't joining in, and her baby is the same approximate age my nephews? They all are amazing sleepers and pop teeth through with barely a fuss. Don't be scared! And honestly, as cliche as it is, it's SO worth it! Lol. I'm planning to do it again. All the good moments outweigh the challenging ones. At least, by 8-9 months they do haha.

[amaranth]

Blue Moon so much sad truth. Lol.

[amaranth]

@moonbeam *hugs* I had several of those same fears. Thankfully in spite of being small I had a better than average delivery. My baby was a normal birth weight even three weeks early. Size means nothing! If any doctor tries to make you feel bad about size, find a new one.

You're not obligated to have a shower but I understand that is hard to decline. Could you suggest a couples shower so that your husband can be there to help mitigate any drama or nastiness? Those are super common in my circles.

[megkat]

May 29, 2015 11:35:55 GMT -5 @moonbeam said:

You guys are making me dread this . lol. Oh god. I already have a terrible time sleeping.

I'll chime in here for reassurance, lol. I have a magical unicorn baby who started sleeping through the night at like 4 months old. She's 13 months now and generally sleeps from like 8pm to 7/7:30 am. Every once in a great while she'll wake up in the MOTN, but I'd say it's maybe once a month, if that

DH and I joke that the universe gave us a magical unicorn baby to make up for the TTTC that we had

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Sorry for hijacking this thread, I had a mini-meltdown lol.

In other news, has anyone else seen these weird tiny red ants around? I saw some on the inside of my kitchen windowsill yesterday morning and got freaked out. Apparently they are clover mites and they love sunlight. They aren't dangerous and don't bite people, but it was unnerving to see them. My kitchen gets a lot of sun in the morning, so I guess they congregate around the window and found their way in.

[katiek]

Huge hugs @moonbeam! I have a friend who is super small, and her baby is huge and healthy and she had a great pregnancy! Also, Milo is a terrible sleeper, but he's responded well to sleep training, and he makes up for it by being adorable and perfect in other ways. Sleep deprivation is hard, but it's a pretty short period of time compared to the rest of your child's life You could also get a magical baby, which is what I'm hoping for next time!

[ewall]

My aunt just posted on FB that she gives Plexus to her cat!!!!! WtFuckery.

[ewall]

@moonbeam we have those bright red tiny bugs all over our front yard. No idea what's bringing them or even what they are.

Also, everyone survives the sleep deprivation one way or the other!

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May 29, 2015 13:00:40 GMT -5 ewall said:

My aunt just posted on FB that she gives Plexus to her cat!!!!! WtFuckery.

The weight loss thing?  That's really weird.

[anyastroud]

May 29, 2015 11:29:08 GMT -5 Blue Moon said:

luv2rn4fun and amaranth I am here to commiserate with you both!   : www.today.com/parents/exhausted-new-moms-hilarious-take-expert-sleep-advice-goes-viral-6C9559908

I can also commiserate with ya'll Baby #1 was awful colic gas ugh this article is the most accurate thing I have read. lol.

[ewall]

luv2rn4fun M still doesn't nap regularly or on a schedule. Maybe he does for daycare, but definitely not for us on the weekends. Oh well.

@moonbeam and plus also...it's totally normal and fine to be terrified. You can do it, we're here for you!

[awick14]

((@luv2run4fun))

((@moonbeam)) I am so sorry that your MIL is stressing you out. My MIL has been way better lately then she has been in the past, but now my SIL is being a huge bitch. "Are you pregnant yet? Are you pregnant yet?" And when I just left because I was pissed off she text me saying how sorry she was but she wants a niece/nephew and it's so not far that she doesn't have any and she hates it. I'm so lucky to have nieces and nephews. Ya that's a great apology bitch! Urg

I haven't been posting much lately, I have slept basically every waking hour when I have not been working since last Friday. (Well and other then some baking with a friend yesterday.) today I am starting to feel back to normal, I am so happy about that.

[amaranth]

awick14 your SIL sounds awful. SHE wants a niece or nephew? Well hell, I'm sure you'd love to give her one if you magically had control. What a bitch. Sorry you have to deal with that.

[anyastroud]

May 29, 2015 14:29:06 GMT -5 awick14 said:

((@luv2run4fun))

((@moonbeam)). "Are you pregnant yet? Are you pregnant yet?" And when I just left because I was pissed off she text me saying how sorry she was but she wants a niece/nephew and it's so not far that she doesn't have any and she hates it. I'm so lucky to have nieces and nephews. Ya that's a great apology bitch! Urg

What the actual fuck? Jesus Christ what a Bitch.

[wanderingenough]

awick14 - she sounds like the worst! i'm sorry you had to deal with that!