Mine is in July and I'm totally on the fence about going. I had a different experience than you, but, after 20 years, I'm not sure I want to see these people. I went to my 10 year and, with Facebook now, I feel like I'm pretty caught up on the lives of the people I would be interested in seeing.
I just had mine in May. My hs experience was completely different (all-girls and really no drama, everyone got along well), but it was SO fun to see everyone. Having FB was actually a bonus bc we all knew the mundane stuff (kids, husbands, wives, jobs etc.) so we felt like we all still knew each other fairly well.
My 10-year reunion was last year, and I didn't go because it wasn't worth the plane ticket, but I wouldn't have gone no matter what. Most of my classmates hated me and made it known daily, with threats and intimidation. I had the same bullies from elementary school all the way until graduation day. I doubt any of them changed much, and I have no desire to spend time with them ever again. Personally I don't think it's worth inviting the negativity into my life.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Mine is this year also, but I don't really have any desire to see most of people I went to school with. The ones I do care about are all FB friends and we keep in touch that way. Maybe it would be different if I still lived in my hometown and not on the other side of the country.
I went to my 10, but not 20 year reunion. The people I like weren't going and it was ridiculously overpriced. They did end up saying you could come in for free after 9:00, but I wasn't that interested.
If the events sound fun, and I was in your situation, I'd probably go for it. I'm at 18 years, so mine isn't too far away, but it seems like people have finally become adults capable of adulting.
I went to my 10 year, and people still hung out in their high school cliques - no one really spoke to anyone else. Even though I walked in feeling hotter and more successful and happier than I was as a 17 year old, something about that event made me feel unpopular (not something you should be dealing with at 27).
Post by alicenelson on Jun 2, 2015 13:49:22 GMT -5
I've been to three or four of mine (we try to have them every five years)--but my class is like one great big happy family.
In your case, I don't see the benefit in going. IMO, your time (and money) would be better spent getting together with those that you actually cared about seeing.
I'm skipping mine. I liked high school just fine, but my class was huge (>700) and I had no desire to wade through all the people I'd forgotten or wanted to forget to get to the few I wanted to see. Also, chances were high with a class that large that the people I know would be a tiny minority.
If it's convenient, why not go? If it isn't, I wouldn't bother. But do talk your friends into going. If it sucks, you can leave together and go get dinner or drinks.
I went to mine and had fun but my class was pretty mellow and I was excited to have friends come from out of town. We made it a whole reunion weekend and because I'm still here I did a lot of planning for dinners out etc. I personally wouldn't go to show off. I feel like most people looked fine but I don't know if people put much thought into how others "turned out"... or maybe they do. I think most people are too focused on themselves.
I had similar issues with attending mine so our "group" decided to do our own thing. We still all traveled to our home town and then had a big gtg at one of our friends houses. We had it the night after the "big" reunion so if anyone wanted to go to the school one they could. No one went to it, we all got to gtg (kids included) and had a blast. It was so much more relaxing that way just being our group and it was fun to meet everyone's spouses and kids.
My HS experience wasn't as terrible as yours but I only keep in touch with a couple of friends from school so I've skipped my reunions. They just had my 15 yr reunion in December (10 yr was never planned) and it was the same cliques so I'm glad I skipped.
Post by trafficgirl on Jun 2, 2015 14:05:01 GMT -5
I have no intention of going to any HS reunions. I made the most out of HS and had fun, but anyone I want to keep in touch with I do currently (at least on FB) and don't really want to see the people who made fun of me.
If I were in your shoes, I can see wanting to go, but then you'd get there, show everyone how fabulous you are, and be stuck for the rest of the night with people who it sounds like mostly you're not that excited to visit with. Not worth it.
Post by underwaterrhymes on Jun 2, 2015 14:05:17 GMT -5
I hated high school also and skipped my 10- and 15-year reunions, but went to my 20-year.
It was significantly overpriced for what we got ($75 each for gross passed appetizers, none of which were vegetarian, and cash bar). But I had a good time anyway. Plus I was 15-weeks pregnant with K and looked super adorable.
I went to three and felt like it was the same dbags that attended each one. Skipped my 20th. Honestly, I still keep in touch with the people I enjoyed, the others? Meh. That's what FB is for imo.
Here is the deal: these people aren't worth your time. AND, there is a HIGH chance these assholes will still be assholes that you can't convince your life is great. I think that only happens in movies.
I hated high school. I didn't have people threatening to beat my ass, but I had a lot of whispering behind my back and typical mean girl gossip. I bask in my pettiness by looking them up on facebook and seeing how much older they look than me now. OR, if they look awesome, thinking they learned their lesson and wish they hadn't been such an asshat to me. I don't really care to see these people ever again.
Post by onesweetworld on Jun 2, 2015 14:47:36 GMT -5
I have one this summer but honestly, I don't think I will go. I still see the people that matter. I wouldn't even know who any of the other people are!
I didn't go to any of mine. There are people who made my school experience great, and people who made it hell. I have a great life and while it would be fun to show off how great it is, those who made my life great will be happy for me and those who made it hell couldn't care less. And for those pointing and laughing because I'm fluffy, eff 'em. Do it because you want to do it. Otherwise, your life is amazing and who gives a crap if the people who made you miserable know it? You do (and we do) and that's what matters.
Post by Mrs. ChanandlerBong on Jun 2, 2015 15:16:12 GMT -5
I went to my 10 year and it was people hanging out in their cliques from hs. It was also easy to tell that most of them never stopped hanging out with each other and had zero interest in catching up with other people. I was like you, OP and didn't have a group of friends in my grade. They were either older or younger, but I was also kind of invisible to a lot of people, so I didn't have the bullying issue.
H and I were bored to tears and wished we had just gone out with friends that night.
When my 20th rolled around, it was clearly planned by one group of friends who still hang out with each other. And they seemed super surprised that the rest of our class wasnt interested in either paying 50+ per person , rearranging summer plans for a mid July party (in our area the "thing" was to do it on Thanksgiving weekend since some out of towners would already be "home" for th holiday) or both. Seeing the photos on facebook people seemed to have fun but it really was mostly one clique and I'm glad I didn't go.
I went to mine two years ago and had fun, but I'm not sure in your circumstances. I like to think that people change and it could be fun. And I'm okay with flaunting your success. I'm pretty sure my sister only goes to her reunions so people know that she's a doctor (seriously).
Is there a more casual event that you could do? We always have a "Let's Meet at the One Bar in Town Friday night" that is super casual and fun - and you don't have to rsvp and could honestly walk in and walk right out.
Newp. I didn't stay in touch with those people for a reason and the only people I would want to see live out of state and likely wouldn't attend. Thanks to FB, I can keep in touch with the handful of people I actually liked.