Attempt to start my own firm. Take work that falls in my lap. Finish what it takes to get licensed in my state. Get a job & put DD4 in daycare. Be myself & have the confidence I used to. Speak up for myself more with people doing work for me on my house. Tell my brothers off. Move back to our bungalow & screw what people thought of our lifestyle.
Post by imojoebunny on Jun 6, 2015 10:47:30 GMT -5
Write a book. I don't really care if it gets published. I used to write a lot before the kids were born, but I haven't much since. I have the time now that they are older, but just don't try.
Tell the person in front of me on the train to put on headphones or stop listening to music on her phone. Overhearing people's tinny music is THE WORST.
Also, to start working out again. I bought packages for barre classes and I just can't bring myself to do it because I am out of shape and those classes are HARD and I know I'll look like an out of shape idiot and will struggle a lot and will look awful in my workout clothes ... And on and on.
Post by sunshinedaydreams on Jun 6, 2015 10:59:48 GMT -5
Quit my job and travel for a year. The fear of "what if" keeps holding us back.
What if we can't find jobs again when we come back? What if something happens to one of us and we don't have insurance? What if something happens to our house while we're away? What if...?
I know this sounds lame, but I wish I had the courage to initiate closer friendships. I have a lot of friends that I hang out with in groups-- friends my neighborhood and from my moms group. But I don't really talk to them in between play dates or nights out. I would love to get to the point that I would call to talk or text with regularly, but I'm nervous about being the one to initiate it-- what if it's annoying to them or they just aren't interested.
That sounds even lamer typed out than it did in my head.
Me too, I hear you. Although I guess in my case it's more like, the courage to pursue something - a new job or a serious hobby - that would enable me to feel like I was worth something.
Walk over to my neighbor's house. Actually contact the people who invited us to a house party instead of assuming it was a courtesy invite. Believe people actually want to be my friend.
You are worth so much and you don't realize it. I know I'm a internet stranger but I appreciate your posts. There was something that was shared in a DV recovery class I went to, one of the women had brought her baby to class. Everyone agreed the baby was precious and had worth even though she was only a few weeks old and hadn't "done anything yet". Then the leader of the class asked the women why we don't feel precious, worthy, valuable, as if we should be treated well and when we lost that right since we all agreed the baby had that right. It was stunning to think about how we were all once babies who had those rights and why we didnt think we still should. You are worth so much. I hope you can at least appreciate the story above. Hugs.
Also, to start working out again. I bought packages for barre classes and I just can't bring myself to do it because I am out of shape and those classes are HARD and I know I'll look like an out of shape idiot and will struggle a lot and will look awful in my workout clothes ... And on and on.
if I can do barre anyone can. Has changed my body more than any other workout. And all there are very supportive. Go! I agree it's hard but worth it
Post by explorer2001 on Jun 6, 2015 13:29:31 GMT -5
...to be vulnerable and let people in. I have incredible friends, but I have not been in a romantic relationship for years. I still struggle with trust and forgiveness especially with parts of my family and dating having been hurt so much in the past.
Be more vocal about what I'm feeling rather than holding it all in.
And also to ease up on my financial conservancy and travel to the places I day dream about. But like a PP, I get too caught up in "what if..." and never take the chance.
Quit my job and travel for a year. The fear of "what if" keeps holding us back.
What if we can't find jobs again when we come back? What if something happens to one of us and we don't have insurance? What if something happens to our house while we're away? What if...?
Im going to be the evil enabler!
You can do this and it is easier than you think!
1. Blog while you travel and use things like the Rakuten Linkshare Affiliate network to get some revenue. If you can find a way to promote your blog and get a decent sized following you can get a few travel perks.
2. Health Insurance- you can either opt for COBRA coverage if you quit your job or purchase a basic plan on the ACA exchange. Get MedJet Assist that you can get home if you end up hospitalized. Purchase a travel health insurance plan; they arent cheap but they will cover medical expenses incurred overseas. Also medical care is super cheap in some parts of the world. My ER visit in India cost USD $18 and that included x-rays, orthopedic consult, ER doctor and meds.
3. Pack up all your stuff and put it in storage. Find a property management company and rent it out while you are gone. The property management company can handle any issues that arise. Or you can put all of you personal stuff in storage and rent it out as a vacation rental if you are in a desirable city.
Pick up a move to Ireland or France. Two friends of ours also keep talking about it but I think what's holding us back the most is all of our student loans. Then, by the time I pay off my loans (hopefully just a couple years) we want kids and then that would be irresponsible? I don't know.
Quit my job and go full-bore into social media coaching & consulting/management.
What is this?
I've done training of best practices and how-to for managing social media (listening, posting, planning, reporting). I want to do it more. I want to do it not just for businesses but also for parents.
Pick up a move to Ireland or France. Two friends of ours also keep talking about it but I think what's holding us back the most is all of our student loans. Then, by the time I pay off my loans (hopefully just a couple years) we want kids and then that would be irresponsible? I don't know.
If House Hunters International has taught me anything, it's that people do this and it works for them! Also that Americans are irrational in their demands but that is beside the point.
The logistics intimidate me. Where would we work? How does healthcare work for expats? I guess those are the two greatest concerns.
If House Hunters International has taught me anything, it's that people do this and it works for them! Also that Americans are irrational in their demands but that is beside the point.
The logistics intimidate me. Where would we work? How does healthcare work for expats? I guess those are the two greatest concerns.
You find jobs just like you would in any new city. And you probably automatically get healthcare in both of those countries, although you can also always keep some version of US healthcare if you're just planning to go for a couple years. It's also not irresponsible to take children to other countries, if you'd rather do it later. I am not telling you to pick up and move, and visas could actually be complicated, but the excuses you've given are really no problem at all!
I am on the cusp of two potential business opportunities. I need to really think about and analyze them, it's not just that they're great and I lack courage, but if I decide either looks good then I'll definitely need to tell myself to be brave since they're both risky!
Post by irene adler on Jun 6, 2015 19:36:47 GMT -5
Tell my cw to STFU.
Then I remember that her 5 min of pontificating is what makes her feel important, doesn't hurt anyone, and makes my overall workday more pleasant, so I just smile.
Also, I wish I had the courage to take a chance on another job and leave my pleasant, low-paying, boring but well insured job.