I voted every few months, because most of the girls that I hang out with are firefighters wives as well, and coordinating around our husbands schedules to get a night out can take... months.
But DH works an odd schedule (24s on a rotating 8 day cycle). So sometimes one or two of my girlfriends will come over when his shifts fall on a Friday or Saturday night. We get take out, watch a movie, drink (when not pregnant) and just talk. So I still get some girl time (after DS goes to bed), but I don't really consider it a night out. I guess that works because I can wear yoga pants and don't have to leave the house. #homebody
I picked every few months, which is like going out to dinner or drinks with friends and no kids. I play softball 1-2 nights per week and DS stays home with DH, but most of the other girls bring their kids so I don't count that.
I probably only go out with other people alone maybe once a month. But I go out after I put DD to bed to run errands, go to the mall, etc probably 3 times a week. DH is home playing video games lol
I have a question to tack onto this poll. If you go out, does your spouse/SO watch the kids? Or do you leave with them a sitter or other family member?
Brought to you by the girls' night out I went to last week in which one woman does not leave her child alone with her husband.
Related - twice now when I've been out of town for work the olds (aka DH's grandparents) have asked who was going to take care of the baby. Um, his dad? (WTF?)
We're lucky because we haven't needed to pay for a sitter yet. ILs and my parents basically beg to sit for DS. Our family is big and local (and somewhat overbearing, tbh). That being said, we really don't get out much together and I always stay home if DH is out with friends. I need to work on it this year after #2.
Post by whitemerlot on Jun 22, 2015 11:15:00 GMT -5
I would say one every three weeks. I usually leave at 6:30 though and my kids go to bed at 8. They're 3 and 5, so pretty easy since dinner is done when I leave.
BUT I get a lot of evening solo time for volunteer work, Bible studies, etc.
Some evenings I leave the house before DS goes to bed to grab tea solo, and DH manages bedtime. This year we've really gotten into a good routine with personal vs. family time.
I said monthly, but if you include just getting out for the afternoon with my mom/sister then it's easily weekly. I try and do something with friends at least 1-2x a month.
Anywhere from once/month on up. Rarely less than that. This weekend, I even got Friday night out with DH AND friends as well as a girls' night out on Saturday.
I also see friends a lot during the day for lunch or lunchtime yoga classes.
Post by hopecounts on Jun 22, 2015 11:45:44 GMT -5
Oh and I leave before bedtime and dinner. If it's my night out it's my night off On some occasions I might have fibbed and said Book Club was a half hour earlier then it was and sat at Starbucks reading/playing on my phone for that extra 30 minutes before heading to Book Club so I could get out of making dinner.
I have a question to tack onto this poll. If you go out, does your spouse/SO watch the kids? Or do you leave with them a sitter or other family member?
Brought to you by the girls' night out I went to last week in which one woman does not leave her child alone with her husband.
It depends. DH typically works long hours, so if it's a pre-planned girls' night out, I'll usually get a sitter to be sure I can make it. (Like this past Friday when friends were coming in from out of town, then DH ended up being free, so he came out with us.) But I have no issues leaving the kids with DH if he's definitely going to be around. I think it's very, very weird when people say they "don't trust their H" to watch their kids.
1-2 times a month usually. I don't know a ton of people here so one of those nights is dinner with my triplet mom group and sometimes I will do something with a neighbor friend like a movie or happy hour with coworkers
Post by longtimenopost on Jun 22, 2015 11:53:06 GMT -5
Every few months. Most of my friends live about an hour away in the city I went to college in. It's rarely a night out - more likely to be day trip for a shower of some kind. My local BFF and I usually do lunch dates during the work week.
A girls night out in which we booze it up and stay out to the wee hours, etc.? That hasn't happened in forever.
I have book club once a month and I go on a long run every Saturday morning with a girlfriend, and those are non negotiable. My husband works late every weeknight, so if I want to see girlfriends after work, I'll invite one over for wine and snacks or dinner after bedtime.
H's squadron has spouses' events at least once a month. I try to go to all of them since I'm a key spouse. It's good face time with the other spouses.
Actually organizing something with only my friends? Maybe twice/year. All of our husbands do the same job, so finding a night when they're all off to watch the kids is next to impossible.
Post by browneyedgirl9 on Jun 22, 2015 12:43:23 GMT -5
Ugh, I need to be better about this. I would say every few months. I need to make an effort to get out more with my friends. We usually end up doing play dates with the kids, but need to be better about adult night out without our kids.
This is so depressing. It used to be so much more but now that my friends have moved and we've moved, I have almost no local girlfriends.
Can you join a gym? I've been a member at a local gym for a little over 3 weeks, and I already know the morning crew by face. Slowly starting to "know" them, and even recognize a few in public.
Post by lizlemon19 on Jun 22, 2015 13:01:44 GMT -5
Probably once every couple months. Used to be more like twice a month or so, but the past year I have been working Fri nights and every other Sat so scheduling gets tough. Oh, and I am three months pregnant.
Starting back to 9-5 so hopefully will get to see friends more.
An actual girls' night out, or just me doing something independently of my family?
Actual girls' night out is probably once a month or 2. But i usually get out of the house solo at least once a week for something.
This is where I'm getting confused. I'm out weekly to multiple times a week depending on the season. If we're talking about getting away to workout, or go to a class, that's daily.
I was also confused but I answered the poll question "How often do you have a night out from your spouse" even though for me a night out without him is not always a "girls' night out"
This is where I'm getting confused. I'm out weekly to multiple times a week depending on the season. If we're talking about getting away to workout, or go to a class, that's daily.
I was also confused but I answered the poll question "How often do you have a night out from your spouse" even though for me a night out without him is not always a "girls' night out"
I only counted socializing. But I usually work out during my "work day" or on weekend mornings. If I happen to squeeze in an evening workout because DH came home early or because I already had a sitter (usually because I have plans later), I didn't count that for the purposes of this poll.
ETA: I don't know why I put work day in quotes. Probably because I have no idea what the hell constitutes a strict work day since I go back and forth between domestic tasks and professional tasks in the space of my own home.
I haven't had a gno in a long time. for the past 8 months or so, I've been traveling like a few days to one week every month or two for work. Combined with working long hours, I feel like I barely get to see my dd as it is. Plus, friendships have kind of fallen to the back burner lately with everything else going on. I barely get alone time with my h.