oh I definitely think ERF is a good thing and that normalizing it is also a good thing. But I think sometimes the posts here can make someone afraid to turn their child FFing, like @awinter said, and that does not strike me as a positive either.
Yes! I am scared and my kid is almost 4 lol.
ETA: Oh and when I finally got up the courage, @fivedogs made me realize that my kid will face certain death because my car is too old and now I have to go through a bunch of crud to get tether anchors installed in my car lol. (don't worry @fivedogs I still love you )
But we had DD ride FF in a rental car this weekend. She will be 1 year old on Thursday. We couldn't get a good RF install with the rented car seat (maybe that is another confession- that we rented a seat?). It was wobbly and the angle seemed all wrong even with the LATCH strap.
My RF installs were almost always wobbly in rental cars and 100% wobbly in taxis with DD's convertible. I felt that it was so much safer once I turned the convertible FF at 22 months. Considering that a large number of people I know don't even use car seats in cabs with their under-2s, I didn't feel too bad about the FF decision at the time.
And, this is why I still squish poor DS into a bucket seat. That seat feels completely secure in any vehicle I use. I'm not looking forward to battling the convertible for 15-20 minutes each time we rent a car only to have it feel wobbly.
I generally don't mind repeat topics but some are getting ridiculous. If I see another "how do I entertain my kid on an airplane" thread I will scream.
I am about to chat with Amazon to bitch about their shipping times & estimates. We paid $17.99 for 1 day shipping on an item because they said it would take 2-3 days to process the order first, so our normal 2 day prime shipping wouldn't cut it. Except they shipped it faster and now I'm pissed that we could have just chosen the free shipping.
You're calling to complain they shipped something too fast? This does not seem like a legitimate complaint.
To piggyback on @roseyposey I have no idea why PTing stresses me out--I think it's because I feel behind even though logically I know he is not?
There is a mom at daycare that I'm 99% judges me since her kid is 3 months younger and in underwear but then she talks about how many accidents he has etc and I'm like well...that's really not any better right? And mil constantly talking about how early DH and his sister trained and then also laying on the working mom guilt with "but I know it's different since I was able to be home with them and you're not." It messes with my head a little
We are going to give the 3 day method a shot this weekend but if it doesn't work we won't push it any harder.
An IRL mom acquaintance potty trained her DD right at age 2 and was always kind of smug about it. We tried with DD at 30 months, it was a disaster. I didn't really care but the smugness was annoying. DD ended up potty training after 1 1/2 pee accidents 2 months before her 3rd birthday, and after some initial struggles with poop, will now poop in the potty anytime, anywhere, nbd. Smug mom? I found out that her kid still asks for a diaper so she can poop. Now I know it doesn't really matter, it's just her smugness about it that gives me a bit of glee that after all of her gloating, her kid isn't really fully potty trained. She didn't need to be so damn smug about it to begin with and make comments to make me feel like DD was so behind, it's not like we have much control over it!
I think pay-it-forwards at starbucks/fast food restaurants are dumb.
Seriously? I thought my confession might get me run off of MMM, but all y'all can talk about is carseats??
Just say something. It isn't that hard. Look I kicked my husbands best friend of 20 years out of our house for using the "n" word after I told him that it was not welcome in our home (and he was visiting from out of state). They are still friends. People have to learn that this kind of shit isn't acceptable
Seriously? I thought my confession might get me run off of MMM, but all y'all can talk about is carseats??
It's a tough position to be in, so you won't get flames from me. I'd try to come up with something to say, but I'd also understand if you chickened out.
To piggyback on @roseyposey I have no idea why PTing stresses me out--I think it's because I feel behind even though logically I know he is not?
There is a mom at daycare that I'm 99% judges me since her kid is 3 months younger and in underwear but then she talks about how many accidents he has etc and I'm like well...that's really not any better right? And mil constantly talking about how early DH and his sister trained and then also laying on the working mom guilt with "but I know it's different since I was able to be home with them and you're not." It messes with my head a little
We are going to give the 3 day method a shot this weekend but if it doesn't work we won't push it any harder.
I always feel like kids that go to daycare FT potty train earlier because they see other kids going and the teachers can handle it. It seems like my DD potty trained on the late side compared to kids that go to daycare FT.
To piggyback on @roseyposey I have no idea why PTing stresses me out--I think it's because I feel behind even though logically I know he is not?
There is a mom at daycare that I'm 99% judges me since her kid is 3 months younger and in underwear but then she talks about how many accidents he has etc and I'm like well...that's really not any better right? And mil constantly talking about how early DH and his sister trained and then also laying on the working mom guilt with "but I know it's different since I was able to be home with them and you're not." It messes with my head a little
We are going to give the 3 day method a shot this weekend but if it doesn't work we won't push it any harder.
I never understood how a kid fully potty trained at "We only have 4 accidents a day!"
Not to mention the mess.
Dude. Just wait.
I waited until 2.5 with DD and it was just so much easier. Half the mess. Few accidents. Over and done. No bribing required.
And don't have working mom guilt. DC is the reason my kid was ready for Pting. She came home one day and said, "I got potty like the big kids!" And that was that.
I generally don't mind repeat topics but some are getting ridiculous. If I see another "how do I entertain my kid on an airplane" thread I will scream.
You beat me to this point today, except my example was "Does breast milk help pink eye?" NO ONE KNOWS.
How have I gone through 40 years of life without me or my kid even getting pink eye, LOL.
I am about to chat with Amazon to bitch about their shipping times & estimates. We paid $17.99 for 1 day shipping on an item because they said it would take 2-3 days to process the order first, so our normal 2 day prime shipping wouldn't cut it. Except they shipped it faster and now I'm pissed that we could have just chosen the free shipping.
You're calling to complain they shipped something too fast? This does not seem like a legitimate complaint.
This is the confessions thread!
I realize it was a long shot, but not only did they refund my $17.99, the rep also said he will forward my complaint to the shipper and "it will never happen again"
It seems like every other order I make recently has delays with my Prime shipping. I don't pay $99 for free 2 day shipping if it's going to turn into 4 day shipping on the regular. They are saying there is extra processing time before the item ships, so if I really want it in 2 days, I have to chose 1 day shipping and pay extra.
We don't have one right now and have a bimonthly one scheduled for when baby arrives in Sept. I want to start bimonthly now and weekly when baby comes
E starts daycare in September. Then I will have time to actually get things in order and stop living in a tornado wake. Then I am getting a housekeeper. I think I will start off weekly and then maybe move to biweekly. I am hoping that once H sees how nice it is to have a actual clean house he will help out more. A girl can dream, right.
I've been talking about getting a cleaner for awhile because it's hard enough to keep up with the daily clutter & messes (like dishes) let alone actually cleaning. DH says he will help and I say ill do it when DS is asleep but those things never happen.
We had someone come a week ago and it was so nice!
I think summer is way too long. I finally counted up the weeks that they'll be off and it's 11! Isn't that crazy?? I signed the boys up for camp for four weeks and we'll be out of town for another two. That leaves five weeks where I'll have to entertain them on my own for basically ten hours a day. I feel bad about this because don't most parents say they wish they could take more time off during summer vacations? And here I am whining to myself about how long it is. I feel like my kids are an abnormal amount of work though, lol.
redheadk yeah she is something....half the time she says things off the cuff and I look at her like how in the hell did that make it through your filter? She is always saying she doesn't know where DS' light hair comes from. Gee, probably has nothing to do with the fact that I was white blonde as a kid with very light brown hair now right? I swear she acts like DS gets 100% of his genes from their side of the family.
@justdairy he will be 3 in October so I know we still have time (and no deadlines or anything as he will be in his current class until next June) so I'm willing to give the 3 day method a shot. He hates when his shirt gets wet or anything like that so I'm hoping the first few times he pees his pants that will be enough. And I'm with you on the "only x accidents a day but he's pt'd!" Of course this is the same mom that talked about how she spanks and does time outs for accidents soooo not really the method I want to follow anyhow...
Before I had kids, I used to HATE when parents called daycare "school". And now, here I am calling it school and calling the providers "teachers". I feel a little guilty every single time. Like I should apologize to jenny1980 who was a big "offender" of the terms
So a UO about how much we are all bored and annoyed with the conversation around car seats has become 75% about car seats. Just saying............
@roseyposey I agree 100% that there is a tendency to make things a bigger deal then they are on here. Some of it I chalk up to it just being an internet board so either things don't translate as well in writing or it is an avenue for people to just say thing to say things.
I will freely admit that my nanny will be potty training M starting on Monday and she will be getting a bonus when it is done. I guess my UO is that I do think there are a lot of things you can throw money at and I am fine with it. I don't want to be stuck in the house for 3 days so this means she will be dealing with the brunt of potty training since we aren't home during the week.
I think summer is way too long. I finally counted up the weeks that they'll be off and it's 11! Isn't that crazy?? I signed the boys up for camp for four weeks and we'll be out of town for another two. That leaves five weeks where I'll have to entertain them on my own for basically ten hours a day. I feel bad about this because don't most parents say they wish they could take more time off during summer vacations? And here I am whining to myself about how long it is. I feel like my kids are an abnormal amount of work though, lol.
Mine is pretty easy and I still think it's too much time off.
We also only have 4 weeks of camp this summer and the last week I'll be at work while she's at school thus effectively giving me no free time at all. She's also starting to refuse naps
All the women on my mom's side of the family get together for one weekend every summer. I didn't go last year because I was 39w pg. I am going for one of the two nights this year, and I am kind of nervous in light of recent progress on social issues because so many of them are bigots. Alcohol + bigotry = giant shitshow. I don't know why I keep subjecting myself to this. Except that it's at my aunt's lake house, so jet skis. And a baby-free night.
My confession is that I probably won't call them out because I am a giant chicken. Also, I still care for some of them and don't want to be unwelcome at future family gatherings. :-#
I think most of us have family members with slightly different political views.
I do think sometimes you should speak up, but it's obviously a delicate balance as these people will be in your life indefinitely.
You can still care for someone even if you don't believe in all of the same things.
Also I've been spending too much money lately and I feel guilty. I tell myself I need to stop and reign it in only to turn around and spend more. We have a play date today at one of those bouncy house places and I'll have to spend $30 just to get in the door. Plus I have to write my babysitter a check for double this week since we'll be gone next week (DH hates that I do this but she expects it and I feel way too uncomfortable and awkward to say no so I just won't tell him). Plus we've had two expensive house projects come up and two insane tax bills. We basically need dh's bonus to be decent this summer and I hate being in a position to rely on it. And now effing Greece is effing up the stock market again. I hope the EZ tells them to piss off for good.
Post by longtimenopost on Jun 29, 2015 9:52:06 GMT -5
I don't like our new house and I want to go home. DH is being a saint, but I really struggle with change and being in the middle of a high risk pregnancy and unable to sort, organize, and otherwise clean up my life is really hard. My anxiety is through the roof and I've been crying a lot. I think I need to talk to my doctor about it Wednesday, because I had the thought this morning that if this baby dies I might as well just throw in the towel on life. Thankfully I snapped out of it.
I generally don't mind repeat topics but some are getting ridiculous. If I see another "how do I entertain my kid on an airplane" thread I will scream.
YES.
I've been saying that for awhile. It seriously needs to be a sticky post at the top of this board.
Why is that question asked multiple times per week?!?!
ETA: Oh and when I finally got up the courage, @fivedogs made me realize that my kid will face certain death because my car is too old and now I have to go through a bunch of crud to get tether anchors installed in my car lol. (don't worry @fivedogs I still love you )
LOL, not CERTAIN death. Just statistics. Just think, if you were in Canada, it would be illegal to not have the tether anchors. At least here you have the option to not use them if you can't get them.
Ha, well the carseat.org people sent me a certificate and of course included graphic drawings of what will happen if I neglect to have use the FF tether. So now I can't NOT do it. But the dealer is so confused. I am pretty sure they had to bring some dude out of retirement to figure out what is going on
I took my 8, 6, and 3.5 year olds to see Jurassic world this weekend. They all loved it, especially the 3.5 year old. He did really good in the movie and he didn't have nightmares or anything so I'm guessing it didn't scar him for life.
When two characters kissed he turned to me and told me I should do that to daddy. Lol!
I am seriously considering botox but want do do it before I stop nursing. I'm pretty sure Lilly did it and maybe I feel ok about that since she is a doctor.....