Does your SO know how much you weigh?

[vicky]

I entered a diet bet today at work and weighed in. I actually weigh less than I did in NY (hooray!) but still chub city.
I mentioned to J when I got home that I lost weight since moving. And he asked how much I weighed.

I answered really sharply, "I'm not telling you!"
And he replied, "Oh yeah. My grandmother always told me it was rude to ask a lady their weight and age."
And then we dropped it.

I weigh significantly more than J, and I'm embarrassed by my weight, but I'm working on losing it. I'm 20 lbs heavier since my divorce. Merp. 

Does it matter that I won't tell J my weight? He always tells me he loves me the way I am when I'm fretting about diet and exercise. And I know he means it. Like, he's the total opposite from my ex who used to control my eating and exercise. 
I just don't want it to become like my old relationship. I don't want there to be a power struggle when it comes to food/exercise.


ETA: argh, you can't edit polls please ignore the typo.

[snowflurry]

Probably not the exact number but he could guess it within a couple of pounds.

[achi]

Yes, but only because he took me to the ER when I had shingles a few weeks ago and the doctor needed to know my weight to prescribe the correct dosage of the anti-viral. I was not going to lie to the doctor.

Before that, we never really discussed exact weight or had a "I weigh X" conversation. We both have some weight to lose.

[Deleted]

He only knows generally at the moment and knows generally only because I've been losing recently.

(In other words, normally, he has no idea.)

He does know that, at the end of my pregnancy, I stayed under 200. That was a feat. LOL.

[Deleted]

Yeah when he took me to the ER before my surgery they asked me my weight and I was too busy puking my brains out to care. He obviously loves me enough to go through all that and more, and although he does want both of us to be healthy, he doesn't care that I'm fat.

[janegold]

No.

We had to go together to a fertility appointment last week and I was relieved the nurse had him wait in the waiting room while she took my vitals.

[game blouses]

No way. I made him wait outside when they weighed me during my pregnancy. He is not good at guessing weight so I don't think he has any idea.

[LeggsBenedict]

yes.

[meggers5]

He's guessed and was close enough (he guessed lower). I won't tell him though. That's not info he needs and if he was put off by the fact that I wouldn't tell him, I would have a real problem with it.

[pantsparty]

I think he has an approximate idea. I have an approximate idea. I don't weight myself often.

I never have any idea how much he weighs. Between 180-200 pounds, I think. He has made comments to me like, "Can you tell I've gained/lost weight?" and I never can. I think it's because I don't see him from a distance much? LOL.

[Queen Mamadala]

Nope. He'd be shocked. At the time we met, at a more comfortable weight, we were about the same weight. I remember telling him that and he was surprised. If he were to guess my weight he'd likely be 30+ lbs off. I don't look my weight. I'd rather he not know how much I weigh.

[killercupcake]

I said generally because even though I've told him the exact weight, I know he doesn't remember. lol

[Deleted]

No.

[trafficgirl]

Jun 29, 2015 16:03:31 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

He only knows generally at the moment and knows generally only because I've been losing recently.

(In other words, normally, he has no idea.)

This is true for me too.

I weigh more than H and that makes me feel self-conscious. He doesn't care, but I do.

One of my goals is to weigh less than him.  I get you Vicky.

[Deleted]

And yet the truth is I don't really care who knows how much I weigh.

At work, I told Adorable Baby Attorney my weight when I started here (178), and my other female co-workers were like, "What?" (We all had a printout with our stats after weighing in for this Equinox-sponsored challenge. I just shared that printout with him.)

It's not a big deal to me.

My husband is just clueless generally, and weight doesn't really come up.

[adhdfashion]

Hahaha, hell no.

[melodramatic26]

Yes, now he does.

When I lost 100lbs, I made a comment about how I can't believe I was close to 300lbs and he was surprised. But now, he gets to hear all my rantings about every lb I gain or lose. He's so lucky.

[Deleted]

Oh, and, vicky, you are too hard on yourself!

Your weight is just a number, and it doesn't matter if it's higher than his.

I think the two of you look great together.  You match.  It works.  It makes sense.

[cookies]

He probably knows generally, but I won't tell him if he were to ask. It's none of his goddamned business.

[fezzik]

He has a good idea. When I was pregnant with L he saw my weight at every appointment he went to. I wasn't thrilled about it at first, but I got used to it and he didn't seem to care.

[vicky]

Jun 29, 2015 16:09:44 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

Oh, and, vicky, you are too hard on yourself!

Your weight is just a number, and it doesn't matter if it's higher than his.

I think the two of you look great together.  You match.  It works.  It makes sense.

Gah. You made me tear up. Thank you.

[Jalapeñomel]

No, but I don't really know exactly how much I weigh until I got to the doctor.

He almost always thinks I weigh less than I do.

[zoomzoom]

Heck no. And he's been on a weight loss journey and looks even better than he did when we met. I, on the other, am the total opposite. I've gone up 2 sizes since I met him. Fucker.

[Deleted]

I doubt it. I've never told him.

I do know that when we started dating we weighed almost exactly the same because I saw him step on the scale in my bathroom once, haha. And we've both gained weight since then. I hope he's gained as much as me (ok not really because I want us both to be healthy, but I don't like the idea of weighing more than him).

[Deleted]

Yes. I don't remember how it came up, but I told him. I've never been bothered by people knowing my weight.

Don't be so hard on yourself. Knowing your weight won't make your boyfriend feel any differently about you. He sounds like a great guy!

[slcjess]

I'm pretty sure if I asked MH to guess my weight, he would be like '20 pounds!' lol. I don't think he has any clue that I weigh as much as I do, especially considering how close to his weight I am. Womp womp.

[pantsparty]

Jun 29, 2015 16:16:23 GMT -5 slcjess said:

I'm pretty sure if I asked MH to guess my weight, he would be like '20 pounds!' lol. I don't think he has any clue that I weigh as much as I do, especially considering how close to his weight I am. Womp womp.

OMG, your avatar 

[shell24]

I don't generally weigh myself so I don't even always know. But typically if I know, so does he since I'm bitching about it

[slcjess]

Jun 29, 2015 16:20:49 GMT -5 pantsparty said:

Jun 29, 2015 16:16:23 GMT -5 slcjess said:

I'm pretty sure if I asked MH to guess my weight, he would be like '20 pounds!' lol. I don't think he has any clue that I weigh as much as I do, especially considering how close to his weight I am. Womp womp.

OMG, your avatar 

#brawnybaby


At least I'll never weigh as much as that arm of his

[noodle]

I don't know exactly how much I weigh. But have a fairly good idea.  I just asked H how much he thought I weighed and he guessed exactly what I think I weigh. I am surprised he was so spot on.