I've been wanting a second for a while now, but DH and I know we can't really afford another and that feeling sucks. I'm hoping we are in a better financial position in a year and maybe then we can start trying. Whenever somebody asks when we are having another I try to play it off like "no way, we don't want another right now", but I really do and it's just not in the cards for us.
tuck and shevacc what are your thoughts ? (PIP above of winder weeks things our babies are supposed to be at)
ladybug, I always interpreted the Wonder Weeks as things he's about to start learning. A doesn't fully do any of those things but he sometimes looks in the right direction when we ask "where's your mama/daddy/sister?". And he'll sometimes drum the same simple pattern we drum. So over the next few months, I figure he'll progress more in those areas and a few others, but all those things seem like skills for him to learn. I bet R is developing just fine
katie Word for word. It's tough to know the right answer. One day it seems like OAD is IT and others it's not. L will have an awesome life either way, that's what I keep telling myself about M. Big hugs!
To all of you who are questioning OAD: I was raised as an only (have a half brother and half sister who I had zero contact with growing up), and have turned out just fine. I definitely had those moments when I wanted a sibling, but now that I'm older, I love it. No other grand kids for them to dote on, it gives my kids a lot of attention that they don't get from ILs. (This is also because ILs are PITAs, but I digress). The only drawback I see at all at this point is that all elder/end of life care is going to fall to me. However, that could have happened even with a sibling, so no reason to base a decision on that. (Also compounding that is the fact that I am the only grandchild on my moms side, so if something happens to her, I'm responsible for elder/end of life care for my grandma and aunt as well). Your kids will be just fine!!!!
Post by rainbowchip on Jun 30, 2015 12:34:07 GMT -5
katfco we tried the reward. He wanted a big fire truck we saw at a garage sale. We told him if we didn't get a call from his teacher for the rest of summer school (it goes through 7/10) we would get him the fire truck. 2 days later I got an email from his teacher. Sigh.
One of my best friend's from college got engaged last week. She's Emerson's godmother. I'm going to be really, really hurt if she doesn't ask me to be a bridesmaid. I know it's irrational of me and a huge hassle. I will of course never let her know this no matter what happens.
Every size of family has its pros and cons. I'm sorry you are struggling Katie but you will make the best decision for your family and she will do great no matter what. Now Matilda has a brother she says she wants a sister too. I'm sure she'd love a sister and I'd love my kids to have a bunch of siblings. But we don't have the money or the sanity.
Post by dixeedeluxe on Jun 30, 2015 12:55:39 GMT -5
My sister is all upset that my other sister's daughter is not going to have a preK graduation. Because she didn't go to preK. She went to daycare. Now she's asking all of us to contribute to a "memory book" or some crap. She wants us to write something down that has "well wishes" and "how proud we are of her". SHe bought her a cap and gown.
This takes the graduation thing to a whole new terrible level.
C25K...it works Seaside 5K...........40:45(2012) Turkey Trot..........41:30(2012)/37:08(2013)/37:40(2014) St Pat's 5K..........39:27(2013)/38:48(2014)/35:12(2015) Belair Town Run......38:09(2013)/36:27(2014) Back To Football 5K..37:36(2013)/43:44(2015) Balt Run Fest 5K.....34:59(2013)/41:50(2014)/35:54(2015)
C25K...it works Seaside 5K...........40:45(2012) Turkey Trot..........41:30(2012)/37:08(2013)/37:40(2014) St Pat's 5K..........39:27(2013)/38:48(2014)/35:12(2015) Belair Town Run......38:09(2013)/36:27(2014) Back To Football 5K..37:36(2013)/43:44(2015) Balt Run Fest 5K.....34:59(2013)/41:50(2014)/35:54(2015)
M is constantly talking about sisters and babies and we have probs getting pg I just don't know if it is gonna happen for us and I feel bad for her. MH will say she needs a playmate and I'm like well it would be at least another 2 years before they would even be able to play together if I did get pregnant now. It is stressing me out.
@ranbowchip do you guys have young 5s? My sil thinks my niece is not ready for K so she is putting her in young 5s this year and she'll go to K the next. Since it is part of the public school system it is free. I've heard people say here at least they are making it harder to repeat K and they really don't like doing it so it's better to wait if you think they're not ready.
katfco we tried the reward. He wanted a big fire truck we saw at a garage sale. We told him if we didn't get a call from his teacher for the rest of summer school (it goes through 7/10) we would get him the fire truck. 2 days later I got an email from his teacher. Sigh.
Oh, oh! It pisses me off so much when people make comments that their kid is so tiny (after seeing my beast) because they are 'always moving' and show me a picture of them in their jumperoo. What in the actual fuck are you implying? My kid is a lazy sloth? He kicks and punches with the best of them and loves his jumperoo.
Andrew is amazing, and I'm crossing all my fingers that Nolan's forearms will one day reach that level of perfection.
Dylan is having a rough time at school. I seriously don't know what else to do. I'm panicking that they will say he's not ready for kindergarten and we will have to pay for another year of daycare for him.
A huge part of kindergarten is learning how to "do school". I fully expect many of my students (being 100% honest, often the boys who lag behind girls in maturity) to be exhibiting the exact behaviors you are describing. Please don't stress or worry about sending him. It's our job to support kids not only in their academics, but also in learning school skills. Be honest with his teacher about what he's working on and what's awesome about him (so many things). That will help her hit the ground running and will let her know you are open to working as a team on things that are harder for him. He will be fine and will not be alone in the skills he's working on. Big hugs!
Oh, oh! It pisses me off so much when people make comments that their kid is so tiny (after seeing my beast) because they are 'always moving' and show me a picture of them in their jumperoo. What in the actual fuck are you implying? My kid is a lazy sloth? He kicks and punches with the best of them and loves his jumperoo.
Andrew is amazing, and I'm crossing all my fingers that Nolan's forearms will one day reach that level of perfection.
Awww. You're making me laugh. Thanks! I have faith that Nolan will get there. Rock those sleeveless rompers!
Post by The Foozzler on Jun 30, 2015 15:45:48 GMT -5
We live on the shore and H loves to fish/clam/crab but he will eat none of it. He hates all seafood. It works out well for me because I love all seafood and he'll come home from catching it and make it for me.