Baby Baptism ?

[cjeanette]

I am 99.7% sure I asked this back when my niece was baptized but I am like a gnat with my memory so go with it.


1. The baptism is after mass. Would it be shitty to skip mass or come in at the tail end. Mega church so coming in at the end distrupts no one. Maybe the people watching mass in the lobby on one of the TVs.

2. Tell me what to buy for him. What gifts did the baby baptizers here like that they received. I am rubbish at baby gifts I have decided*.







*next April expect a post asking what to get him for his first birthday since I am sure starting him a charm bracelet like I did for his sister will not fly.

[badtzmaru22]

1. Wouldn't bother me.
2. Cash.

[pinotgrig]

1. Is this for your sister's son? Or your sil's? I would be hurt if my sister slipped in at the end but we're very close and she is religious-ish. It wouldn't bother me if my sil did this since we're not as close and she is atheist.

2. Money with a token gift like this - www.stpatricksguild.com/browse.cfm/rosary-large-kiddie-colored-wood-beads/4,52652.html

[holly116]

We've had 2/3 baptisms after mass and pretty much only the godparents and grandparents joined us for the mass before. Skip it if you want, no worries.

Cash works, my inlaws start up my kids saving accounts at their baptism and I would say most gifts are cash. I usually give religious stuff at baptisms but I'm a Catholic. Don't feel the need to do it if it feels forced or if the recipients wouldn't be receptive. Books are always nice or maybe something personalized.

[cjeanette]

Jun 30, 2015 13:49:20 GMT -5 pinotgrig said:

1. Is this for your sister's son? Or your sil's? I would be hurt if my sister slipped in at the end but we're very close and she is religious-ish. It wouldn't bother me if my sil did this since we're not as close and she is atheist.

2. Money with a token gift like this - www.stpatricksguild.com/browse.cfm/rosary-large-kiddie-colored-wood-beads/4,52652.html

SIL, I am an only child.  We are agnostic.  

[pinotgrig]

Jun 30, 2015 13:53:46 GMT -5 cjeanette said:

Jun 30, 2015 13:49:20 GMT -5 pinotgrig said:

1. Is this for your sister's son? Or your sil's? I would be hurt if my sister slipped in at the end but we're very close and she is religious-ish. It wouldn't bother me if my sil did this since we're not as close and she is atheist.

2. Money with a token gift like this - www.stpatricksguild.com/browse.cfm/rosary-large-kiddie-colored-wood-beads/4,52652.html

SIL, I am an only child.  We are agnostic.  

I wouldn't be offended at all, then.

[countthestars]

Skip

Money

[robyn]

1. Not shitty. If the baptism ceremony is separate from normal mass I would have no problem with this at all if I were your SIL.

2. Money and a small gift, either something religious if you're so inclined, or just a sweet thing to remember the day by. MIL got DD a beautiful music box at Things Remembered for her baptism, and SIL (DD's godmother) got her a jewelry box and a lovely silver bracelet.

[Brie]

Come in at the end.

Money.

[Deleted]

1. We had 20+ people at my son's baptism, and the god parents were the only 2 people who attended mass beforehand. Even we skipped the mass.

2. We received mostly cash, which was well appreciated and deposited in our son's 529 account. We also received a children's cross to hang in his bedroom, a children's illustrated bible, a personalized frame, and a blessed patron saint pin that goes on his car seat. I am not religious at all (J is Catholic, not me), but I genuinely liked all of his religious gifts for sentimental reasons.

[cjeanette]

To be difficult I don't feel like cash is an option since I bought his sister an actual gift. Not that anyone will remember that but me....

[matildasun]

My sister's best friend gave all of my nieces nice piggy banks with money in them for their baptisms. My sister seemed to really like them.

[ewall]

You can skip Mass.

DS got these for his baptism:
www.amazon.com/Everything-Christian-Padded-Board-Little/dp/1630587796
www.amazon.com/My-Baptism-Bible-Jan-Godfrey/dp/0819849073/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1435691967&sr=1-1&keywords=baptism+bible

[chickadee77]

In that particular church setting, NBD, I think. In my own church (pretty small, and everyone that was with the baptism sat together in reserved pews) it would be a bigger deal.

As for gifts, money is always a safe bet. We received some books, non-religious, which were nice. I honestly wouldn't have cared if no one brought gifts, I just was happy to have them there. A few people didn't bring gifts, and that was a-okay with me!

[caidan]

My own daughter's baptism was after a mass. I did not go to mass. I got up to church as mass was ending and there was still 15 mins before the baptism started.

The only people who went to mass is my very religous MIL and FIL.

So i vote skip mass.

[caidan]

Jun 30, 2015 14:08:05 GMT -5 cjeanette said:

To be difficult I don't feel like cash is an option since I bought his sister an actual gift. Not that anyone will remember that but me....

I would do money and a nice picture frame. Then they could put a picture from the baptism in it.

[starlily]

1. Skip the mass.
2. Cash