So, what's going on with you?

[glitzyglow]

Give us an update...this board needs some CPR!

Me: Starting the new job on July 14th! I seriously am so excited about it I could burst! I plan to make a trip home the weekend before to see my family and friends, so that makes me really happy, too! I finally feel like my life is going in the direction I want it to, although typing that out scares me that the bottom will drop out, but I have to remind myself that I can't live in fear. My birthday cruise is also in less than 3 months!! No news in the love life...I just was able to access Tinder for the first time since January, so that's entertaining, as always!

Tell us what's going on with you!

[glitzyglow]

sweetchix, cuddlyevil, mp, doriswe, idahome, bl, jigsy, bullygirl979, starburst604, imalwaysme79, RamblingRose, jojoandleo, @blueyes623, @stpete, TR, verycontrary247, lookingup, abcdefu, @bigtowlittletoe, stephreloaded

Heh.

[calle28]

Unfortunately, nothing new going on with me.

Work: I still hate my job, I am so bored and just slowly dying professionally. I have no motivation and just want out. I have been job searching like crazy and I'm trying to switch careers totally, it's been really disheartening. But I know I can't give up because the alternative is to keep being miserable.

Love: I mentioned the other day, I joined E-Harmony and it's a bust. But I have a 2nd date on Friday with a guy from OkCupid. He invited me to his company's 4th of July party, I'm excited.

My diet sucks and I keep gaining, I don't know why I can't get it together.

I have my first therapy appointment tomorrow that I'm really looking forward to.

[glitzyglow]

RamblingRose, how much school do you have left?

calle28, hugs on the job front. I know that feeling. I hope something great falls into your lap soon.

@gracie6414, ever since I decided to work out to feel better and stop focusing on weight, I am doing so much better at sticking to it! It's nice to feel stronger without being obsessed with the scale.

[verycontrary247]

Work: continuing to be a badass at my job.

House: so close to being done with renovations I can taste it. Just a few more things to do! I'm finally getting to buy decorations/furniture/rugs/curtains and am planning on moving in not this weekend but next. I'm extremely excited and nervous.

Love: still a trainwreck. Still very sad about hot karaoke dude being gone, still having sex with dude from work who I shouldnt be having sex with, still perusing Tinder, still talking to Mr Philly occasionally.

Other stuff: signing up for fall classes, thinking about New York comic con in October

[Deleted]

Health wise, DD and I have been run through the ringer the last 2-3 weeks. We are feeling better now and I think the lice is gone, so I am breathing easier.

I am going through a major position change at work and my new boss is the worst of all micromanagers. Omfg, I am going to quit if we can't find some balance.

I have a long weekend planned at BF's full of boat and beach and bbq and friends. And sex. Omg sex. His family visited, then I had Dd, and then I was sick. It has been a long time to go without for us.

Basically, I cried for my mommy on Monday but now things are looking up.

[liubot]

I wasn't tagged but I'll play. I've been doing the beauty school thing for two weeks and I love love love love it. I also had an interview for a PT job at Charming Charlie yesterday for a little extra cash while I'm in school. I'll hopefully find out by Friday if I get the job. My daughter is growing so fast and she's my most favorite person ever. She's such a little ham and I love her so much. The LD BF and I are fine. We do a date night once a week. Still no sex, which whatever. He treats me good otherwise and I'm enjoying it. Got a few court dates coming up in July and August for child support and custody and my driver's license got suspended for 2 weeks because of a speeding ticket... Stupid. Otherwise that's all there is here.

[bg]

I'll play too!

I got the keys to a new place today! I'm excited to get moved in although I'm not sure when I'm moving the larger furniture in. Mstbx is working on a variety of mental health issues so we'll see if he moves in with me like he's supposed to. If he doesn't it may mean the relationship is officially over.

My work is getting crazy busy. That'll go through August. I kind of want to plan a vacation after that, but I keep saying it and not doing it!

I'm continuing to be more social. It's hard with work ramping up but I know how important it is. Trying to talk a friend into doing a half marathon with me in October -- I can't believe it's already almost training time again!

[Deleted]

I'll play! Im flying to DC early morning for work. I'll be there for TWO weeks. Omg that's a long time. Im kind of a homebody so this is giving me hives.

Had a blast this weekend in Tahoe with redredwine and her husband.

No love life stuff really. Met a guy and we've had some fun sex but there are no real expectations. It might fizzle out while I'm gone and that's okay.

Started a new depression/anxiety med. I hope it helps! Things have been rough for a while.

[lookingup]

I lurk so pretty often, by I rarely ever post. I'm so creepy! So here's what's happening.

Work: Overall I'm somewhat frustrated, but recently I'm on the upswing and starting to have fun in my job again. I've decided that I'm definitely going to be there for another 5-6 months before I can really feel like I'm leaving on a good note, so I might as well not be miserable. I need to stay positive so that I can stay motivated and get my ducks in a row, otherwise I'll just stay stuck at this job and I'll hate life. It's going well so far, and it's even helping me be more productive at work. Double win. ?

Love: I'm not dating at the moment, equal parts because I'm soooooo over dating and because I'm pretty sure I met my future husband. I met him really randomly through a mutual friend, and we had instant chemistry. The night we met he walked me out to my car, and we stood there and talked and made out for at least another 30 minutes (but really we lost track of time- he said it was an hour) before we exchanged numbers and parted ways. Then he texted me as soon as I got home to ask me on a date for the following night.

He planned the whole thing. We had a really awesome dinner experience in Germantown and we just chatted and laughed and held hands all through dinner. Then we were going to go to the roller derby, but once we parked and smoked some weed and got really into the conversation we decided we wanted something more low key. We ended up at the park after sundown watching the Big Band Dance; we put a blanket down in the grass and hung out for a couple hours talking and cuddling. Several hours and a few other locations later, we wound up on opposite ends of my couch giving each other foot massages. And the date ended when he left at 12:30 the following afternoon, after exactly four hours of sleep.

It was nuts! We have so much in common and we have a really ridiculous connection. We joked that we were on date 6 or 7 by the time our first date was over. He's in Alaska now for work until the end of this month (the party where we met was for his going away), but we plan to get together again when he gets back. While I'm certainly notready to put all of my eggs in this very new basket, it has been very refreshing and it makes me hopeful for the future.

Other: I deactivated my Facebook account three days ago and I feel like a new person. I've been so productive, and I've been sleeping better with less screen time and whatnot. With all my spare and much less distracted time, I'm finally painting my dinette set this weekend. My house will be so much cuter and cozier once that's done, and I've been putting it off for more than a year now. I can't wait till it's finished!

And I'm an aunt! My brother's boy was born at the end of April.

Life is good.

[alleinesein]

SSDD! Had internet/laptop issues for a week so I didn't get to spend much time doing stuff online. Got rejected for the job I interviewed for. Had to frantically come up with a writing sample for another job I applied for; I'm not a writer and I haven't had to write any papers since 2002. Luckily I had a rough draft organization overview for a grant application that I worked on in Bangalore; I think I spent more time trying to reword it into understandable US english that I spent writing the original version! Keeping my fingers crossed that I hear back from the organization that I applied with; I really need something to work in my favor for a job.

FWB made me dinner on Saturday night. He attempted to make Chettinad Chicken but he doesn't really eat spicy food so it was pretty tame. He is moving next week closer to my part of the county

I fixed my tail lights on the BMW...yay for super glue! Now I can get my car washed

I've been feeding a feral kitty thats been hanging out in the yard. Its a little orange kitty but I still dont know if its male or female. At least the kitty doesn't run away anymore when I go out to put food in the bowl.

[idahome]

Work: I start my new job on the 13th. I'm glad they adjusted my start date so I could give three weeks notice at my current job, but honestly I feel like each day I go into the office I'm checked out a little more. I'm sad about leaving current job because my friends are there and I'm slow to make new friends. I'm super excited about my new position and that helps. Change, of any kind, is just hard for me, though. I missed when you talked about the new job, glitzyglow, so what will you be doing?

Personal life: it's pretty much eh, right now. I've realized that I really need to focus on finding a therapist. I'm putting that off until my new insurance starts, though. My anxiety has just been through the roof lately. I need to get back to increasing my activity because I am so not happy with how I look, either. Relationships, on all levels, are just challenging right now.

I think I'm winning at work and that's about it.

[imalwaysme79]

Not a whole lot going on with me. I have orientation for school on Tuesday. I'm still pretty nervous about going back to school after 14 years off. So much has changed in that time!

I've been in a funk for a little while now and I'm debating going back to therapy for it. I just can't seem to get happy or excited for anything. I'm not depressed or anything, just not happy. I know a lot has to do with my physical appearance (I've gained more weight than I care to admit) and my work situation.

I'm looking forward to the three day weekend.

[Deleted]

I started work yesterday. My rotation this month isn't too bad, so I'm glad I can kind of ease my way in to things. It's still weird introducing myself to patients as "doctor"

My boyfriend and I are doing well. Even though it's long distance, since he doesn't work a typical 9-5, we will get to see each other almost weekly. But he has a lot of tours coming up and I'm jealous of all the travel that he gets to do. He's the poster child for someone who loves his career, so I'm envious!

Just got back from Puerto Rico. I'm already planning my next trip. Looks like I can go to London for a long weekend in Sept and then to Guatemala in Jan. I love traveling!

[Emerald1486]

I wasn't tagged, but you'll get an update anyway. Not too much going on.

Love: RenFaire is going on so my weekends have been busy with that. My boyfriend met my ex-husband this past weekend and I think it went well. I felt that since J is going to be in DS's life, it was only right that XH know who he is. It's been 2 1/2 months since J and I started dating and I'm still incredibly smitten.

Work is..... well it is. I adore my new boss. We get along so well even on a personal level. But this week was super stressful because of a cookout I was helping with. My friend seemed to be the only one that appreciated my help and that really hurt.

DS is starting to get an attitude with me so that has been *fun*. Territorial too. It's been bad enough that there are days where I feel "Thank goodness it's Daddy's time."

[starburst604]

Sooooo happy for you about your new job glitzyglow! Love how it's made everything seem brighter for you.

Me...I went back to work this week and Lucy turned 8 weeks on Tuesday. That time flew by incredibly fast. I miss her during the day, but it's also kind of nice to be back in a routine and be able to eat lunch without holding a baby lol.

I'm off today and we're heading to the Cape first thing tomorrow morning. We normally tent on the lawn of the house we stay at but this year we get the big bedroom because we have the baby. We're staying 2 nights and hustling back Sun morning so I can teach my class. Looking forward to drinks, laughs and fireworks.

[Deleted]

Things with J are much more relaxed and going well. After our long talks a few weeks ago, things are looking up!--looking forward to our upcoming vacation!!
Work- I'm not too happy at work lately. There's a lot of political bullshit going on and people are very catty. I'm trying to just spend my 8 hours here and leave it behind when I go home. Easier said than done.
Family- I feel like my moms distance and boyfriend are driving a wedge between us. It makes me sad. She broke her promise of looking in on my cats while I'm away due to her bf not wanting to come back north just yet. Friends and other family members have been reaching out to me more frequently recently. I even had my cousin offer to watch my cats because she heard what happened. I feel like they notice what's going on.

[sweetchix]

My update would get me flamed so I'll just post a mini update (that will still probably get me flamed). PDQ as I may delete later.

I've been super stressed and haven't been eating much lately. I've lost 7 lbs in about 2 weeks. I was probably in the negatives for calories on Tuesday because I barely ate anything and then had bootcamp that night. I know it's not healthy and I WANT to eat, but either I have no appetite or I do but then feel like it I eat too much (which is barely anything now) that I'll just throw it all back up. I can't help it

Before you think it is all because of WG, it's not, although yes, that's part of it. I'm stressing about work, finances, loneliness (friendships included). They're all now bubbling over and it's been affecting me for the past few weeks. It's starting to catch up to me now. I've been feeling fatigued and cranky. I thought about going back to see my therapist but I really wasn't crazy for her. I'm not sure she would be able to help anyway.

I know many if you will get stern with me, but please try to be understanding. I feel emotionally drained right now and I've gotten plenty of lectures from my coworkers who know what's going on as well.

In other news... My other uncle decided to have a 4th of July party since the first uncle had to cancel it. I'm looking forward to seeing all my family this weekend and canny wait to see the fireworks shows at the river.

[sweetchix]

Oh, and today is my 14th anniversary with my company. I can't believe it's been that long. I've been in the department I'm currently in for almost 10 years now.

[quietmind]

I'm sorry sweetchix I have the same problem. Since I made the appointment to start my divorce, I've lost about 6 lbs. I made the appointment last week. I just can't eat. When I try, I get sick. I know I'm new here, but no lecture from me because I understand completely.
I really hope things get better for you.

[bullygirl979]

sweetchix, hugs lady. I hope things get better soon!

glitzyglow, congrats on the new job! I'm excited that you are starting a whole new chapter!

mp, did you take the job that was further away, but not as much time in the office?

@blueyes623, are you still condo shopping?

[sweetchix]

(((Hugs))) quietmind. I think I lost about 10 right after I filed as well, but gained it back not that long after. I hope things get better for you soon as well.

It sucks. I know I need to eat more but I feel physically incapable of doing so.

[bullygirl979]

Things are actually going really well (but crazy!) for me!

In true bully fashion, I decided to change everything up at once, lol. I sold and closed on my house and moved in with P. We are staying in his duplex for a while before we start house hunting. So far, it is going really well. He has gone above and beyond to make me comfortable there.

I also got a new job! The company that I worked for previous to my current one got a new contract where I live. I got hired to be the director of this contract! I'm super excited as I loved working for them and this is a huge promotion. I also got a ridiculous pay increase which is allowing me to fulfill one of my childhood fantasies. So...I'm currently shopping for a new family member....a horse. I'm super excited.

All in all, my life is pretty kick ass right now and I'm really blessed!

[quietmind]

Jul 2, 2015 8:23:26 GMT -5 sweetchix said:

(((Hugs))) quietmind. I think I lost about 10 right after I filed as well, but gained it back not that long after. I hope things get better for you soon as well.

It sucks. I know I need to eat more but I feel physically incapable of doing so.

I'm the same way. I force myself to eat some crackers or something but I usually get sick right afterwards. Some people eat too much when they're stressed. I just can't eat at all. So I get it completely. ((Hugs)) to you as well.

[Deleted]

Jul 2, 2015 8:22:24 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

sweetchix, hugs lady. I hope things get better soon!

glitzyglow, congrats on the new job! I'm excited that you are starting a whole new chapter!

mp, did you take the job that was further away, but not as much time in the office?

@blueyes623, are you still condo shopping?

Yes, but nothing has come up recently. The last one I looked at was nice and I was ready to put in an offer---then I found out they have a no pet policy. No good.

[riverpestie]

Health: I pr'd yesterday on deadlifts. 215#, 5 times.
Work: Same old, same old.
Love: Getting married in 8 days!
Life: Pets are well and healthy. I had to take the stray that I found to the shelter yesterday. I hope his people find him.

[winecat]

Jul 2, 2015 2:55:16 GMT -5 alleinesein said:

I've been feeding a feral kitty thats been hanging out in the yard. Its a little orange kitty but I still dont know if its male or female. At least the kitty doesn't run away anymore when I go out to put food in the bowl.

Please trap it.  You can usually borrow a live trap from a shelter, animal control, feral cat group.  If s/he is young enough, it can be socialized.  If it isn't it will be spayed/neutered and returned.  If you want to PM me where you live, I'll look for a good group who might be able to help guide you.

Thank you for feeding the little kitten.

[cuddlyevil]

Health/Life: Good, need to work out more but otherwise good. Helping as a sounding board for my sister while she's planning her wedding.
Work: On a performance plan as a preemptive strike. Am getting lots of support but I'm still searching just to be safe.
Love: The last guy I went out with was in February, he downshifted to "let's make this a regular Monday night FWB thing" when he found out I had the kids on the weekends. I auditioned him and felt absolutely nothing when he left so I decided that was my signal to just chill for a bit. I asked WG to dinner last weekend, but he responded that he already had plans--no suggestion of another date/time was made. It felt like a relief--like I'm no longer blocked and in a rut. Might venture back onto okc or something.

[jigsy]

Update on me...
Work - is same. Super boring. But I'll be getting licensed in my area next week, so that will include a pay bump.

Love - pssht. I've gone on some dates from online dudes, but nothing has been great yet. Yesterday, I finally deleted Vegas from my life...texts, contacts, FB, all of it. I have a few dates lined up this weekend.

Personal - I joined WW last week because I'm tired of hating how I look. I'm hoping this will give me the push in the right direction.

Other stuff - I'm heading home in a few weeks, and I'm so excited! I haven't visited since January, so it's been a while and I miss my family.

[stephreloaded]

Thanks for tagging me glitzyglow. I am really happy for you and your new job! It does sound challenging but very exciting and with room for lots of learning. 

New things would be that I had to fight with the ex because of DD. It is a long story but I had to pull her out for her school at the middle of the middle of the school year because the teacher said that she was way too advanced for her class and that the school could not provide her what she needed so we went back to the drawing board of finding a new school. Her dad wanted to put her in a different school so she had to start over 1st grade because it would make things easier for HIM. We ended up settling and going for my school of choice but I had already contacted a lawyer and was about to take him to court for it. 

DD is with him now and I am living the single life! Except I am a boring single and the only exciting thing I have done is catch up on Game of Thrones. My dating like is non-existent now and I am somewhat fine with it. 

I am set to travel to the US in a couple of weeks and will be spending almost two weeks which is unheard for me. I bet I will be ready to come back home sooner than that.