Ha, I know, such a random question, but if I don't ask, I'll never remember to. And it's so rare I get a chance to sit on here and post anyway, that since I had 2 minutes I wanted to ask you all. I thought of adding a poll but there's so many variables when it comes to this that I don't think there are simple yes and no answers.
So.... DH keeps his eyes open. The whole time. No matter the position. He is a visual person and by looking and listening, it intensifies things for him.
For me.... I keep my eyes closed. It's the opposite for me... if I were to keep them open the whole time, it would not be nearly as enjoyable. I open them occasionally, and of course when things first get started my eyes are open, but generally once things get going, I close them. It helps me concentrate on the sensations and get closer to "O." And then there's seeing DH's faces.... it's hot sometimes, but also funny!! LOL. I But anyway, I can't think of a time where I kept my eyes open the whole time like he does.
He's asked me about it before.... he didn't understand lol (FWIW, DH and I have been together since we were 18, and before me, he only had sex with 1 other, so not a whole lot of experience to draw on). When I explained why to him it made more sense, but he still doesn't quite understand.
So I'm wondering what other women do. Am I the oddball? And what about your DH and/or other partners?
Post by sapphireblue on Jul 4, 2015 9:45:21 GMT -5
I suspect this difference is typical.
I am generalizing but men are more visual than women. Most men I have been with have their eyes open because seeing is a huge turn on to them. I open and close them but the actual physical sensations are more important to me and those can be intensified if my eyes are closed.
Its almost physically impossible for me to keep my eyes open during sex. I've tried to keep them open, but I go cross eyed or they roll back and then I probably look possessed. I open them here and there but mostly they're closed.
I'm similar to you. I feel like H might be the same way. Sometimes when I open my eyes, he has his open too, but sometimes they're closed. I would ask, but his mom is in the car with us.
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Post by Ohhmm(bligo) on Jul 4, 2015 12:12:57 GMT -5
I keep them shut. H keeps them open, apparently, because he talks about watching my face. This is TERRIFYING to me, because I just know I look stupid, so I don't look at him.
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