Have you been ghosted?

[IIOY]

Jul 18, 2015 19:46:31 GMT -5 Velar Fricative said:

This happened between me and an ex-BFF but we kinda ghosted each other. I got annoyed at her lack of communication so I stopped reached out. In friendships, I guess ghosting can mean when a friendship just fizzles out too? Or is it more deliberate? I don't know.

I've done this. I had a friend with whom I'd attended college and traveled to Europe twice. I emailed her a couple times, including one specific request that she respond and let me know what's up. I got silence for months, and then an email that she'd just returned from a week's vacation and "felt ready to respond." There was nothing significant in her email so I couldn't figure out why she needed to rest up or gather herself before responding to a fucking email. She reached out to me multiple times after that over the course of several years and I never responded. I don't have time for someone who doesn't have the energy for me.

[Deleted]

I had a fairly close friend not show up to my wedding and then not talk to me for about two years. It really hurt my feelings.

She ended up reaching out after years and apologize. She had some stuff going on in her life, nothing to do with me, and was embarrassed by her own behavior. The apology want a lot. We are friendly again, but she moved out of state, so I don't see her anyway.

[lyssbobiss, Command, B613]

Oh I had an alleged BFF who also ghosted me last year. That was painful and I still miss her. Happened right before we were supposed to go to a concert together too! She had the tickets so I hope she got to go, I guess.
Sometimes I read the things she posts now on reddit and I feel like she went a bit off the deep end and I'm not really sure if it was related or not. Hopefully she's happy now, I guess?

[kittycatlove]

I've had two really good friends do this to me It sucked.

[StrawberryBlondie]

Yep. By my college boyfriend of almost 3 years. Hr eventually did resume communication and was aghast and heartbroken when i broke up with him. I was like, dude, you stopped calling and emailing me 3 months ago. I assumed it was over and have moved on.

Oh, and a really good college friend dropped off the face of the earth right after graduation. That one really hurt. We did ultimately connect again and i learned it was her issues, but she cut all of us off without a word for like 2 years. Then went into oblivion again. I still miss her like crazy.