Post by mominatrix on Jul 20, 2015 10:23:44 GMT -5
My kid's at Girl Scout sleepaway camp TILL FRIDAY!
Just look at the enormousness of her (and, yes, that's DS with the Capt. America shirt on. He's pretty stinking enormous, too)!
But sleepaway camp. She did two or three nights last year at the same camp, so she knows she's into it...
It's so cool. It's just fucking exhausting getting everything together. You think it'll be, like, an hour job but nooooooo. It took a whole fucking day getting her packing list together.
She is going to have so much fun! Sleepaway camp was my favorite when I was a kid.
My toddler is driving me nuts. She is acting so naughty lately and never stops talking. I think she has a brain spurt going on, but it's hard to be understanding when the kid NEVER SLEEPS.
How fun! (not the packing, but the rest of the experience) Hope she has a great week!
I was putting C's daycare stuff together for the week yesterday, and it really struck me that he only has 1 month left of daycare. That's it. Granted we're paying for parochial tuition, so not a huge cost savings for right now. But such a change in the routine. Sigh.
Post by 2curlydogs on Jul 20, 2015 10:28:09 GMT -5
Our 5th Instar caterpillar turned into a chrysalis on Saturday. Thank god, cause that thing was going scorched earth on my milkweed and pissing the littles off. B is so excited.
We have 3 other instars (one 1st instar and two 2nd instar) and 1 egg...that has probably hatched by now.
S is talking up a STORM. We have 3 word sentences now. It's crazy.
Found a tick on BoyB last night. Took him straight to the ER to get that sucker removed. I've never managed to get a tick out in one piece on my dog so I certainly wasn't about to try on my child. The tick was in a place I think I would have noticed during diaper changes but only saw at bath time so I'm pretty sure it wasn't on him long.
I've since ordered a tick remover tool from Amazon so I won't have to bother the ER with any future tick bites.
Today I dropped the littlest two off first and then had about a half hour to spare with my 8 year old who is headed to 4th. We got scones and talked about birthday parties and friends and summer. It was great since he doesn't talk openly all the time and has some attitude these days.
Oh and we finally moved the baby from his toddler bed (crib conversion) to a twin bed. He slept sooooo much better.
BTW: People with multiple kiddos - do you do special dates with each on a routine basis like this? How does it work?
Found a tick on BoyB last night. Took him straight to the ER to get that sucker removed. I've never managed to get a tick out in one piece on my dog so I certainly wasn't about to try on my child. The tick was in a place I think I would have noticed during diaper changes but only saw at bath time so I'm pretty sure it wasn't on him long.
I've since ordered a tick remover tool from Amazon so I won't have to bother the ER with any future tick bites.
My youngest, 2.5 yr old, has had three ticks this year and one last year. When he plays "doctor" he uses the tweezers to "get the ticks off" of the patient.
Glad it wasn't stuck in long. If you need help and there is a next time, page me, I'll talk you through removal.
Post by eponinepontmercy on Jul 20, 2015 10:43:28 GMT -5
I had DD out the door this morning, when she told me she had to go potty right now! Okay, fine. I told her to hurry up because we had to leave. I watch her meander to the bathroom, look in the mirror and say, "I have to go right now!"
Me: DD, don't tell the mirror. If you have to go, just go. DD: I don't have to go. Me: Well, then what are we doing here? DD: I had to check my face.
Let me know if she starts posting in the FOTD thread, okay? I already found a bunch of selfies that she took last week, and I didn't know she knew how to change the camera on the phone.
BTW: People with multiple kiddos - do you do special dates with each on a routine basis like this? How does it work?
we try, but it's hard with schedules and such.
Next year when they're both in the same school and on the same schedule, it'll be easier, but also harder, because neither one will have automatic one on one time like they do now with the different school schedules.
It's a priority for me, so, I'll do what I can to make it work.
BTW: People with multiple kiddos - do you do special dates with each on a routine basis like this? How does it work?
We just did this on Saturday; we've done it a couple times before, but J was pretty tiny.
A and Carl went to A's first movie. They saw Minions and A was really good, and he had "big fun". This morning he was telling me about it again, and how he also ate "minions" (M&Ms) and popcorn.
J and I went to the park, where he could bulldoze around w/o his brother.
Since they go to in-home daycare together, they're not apart very often. They gave each other a sweet hug when they left, and then J completely freaked out at Dad and A leaving w/o him. I screwed up by not being home when they got back, to which A freaked out.
It was fun though; we plan on doing it more often - we'll just pick a random weekend day and switch off with each kid.
That is great. My dd went to Camp Low last week. It was her first time going to sleep away camp. She wants to do a few more next year. We do try to do one on one dates but schedules sometimes make it impossible. We let the kid pick the date. So sometimes it is a movie or sometimes the batting cage. I really love when we do the dates.
Post by meshaliuknits on Jul 20, 2015 12:32:25 GMT -5
I need help. BoyLiu has been hitting a lot. Mostly when he's frustrated, sometimes when he's just angry. Any suggestions on how to get him to stop would be greatly appreciated.
I need help. BoyLiu has been hitting a lot. Mostly when he's frustrated, sometimes when he's just angry. Any suggestions on how to get him to stop would be greatly appreciated.
There's a book called "Hands are not for hiring" that is good. Also I found the modeling good and bad behavior during a mock "circle time" with her stuffed animals helped a lot. Good luck! This is a frustrating phase but it will pass.
I need help. BoyLiu has been hitting a lot. Mostly when he's frustrated, sometimes when he's just angry. Any suggestions on how to get him to stop would be greatly appreciated.
There's a book called "Hands are not for hiring" that is good. Also I found the modeling good and bad behavior during a mock "circle time" with her stuffed animals helped a lot. Good luck! This is a frustrating phase but it will pass.
Thank you!
I'm worried it won't pass before H hits his limit.
I need help. BoyLiu has been hitting a lot. Mostly when he's frustrated, sometimes when he's just angry. Any suggestions on how to get him to stop would be greatly appreciated.
I am in the phase with Ry, DS#3, and he is worse than DS#1 or DS#2 ever were. I have been looking at other ways to deal with this before it extends past siblings and us parents.
I haven't read it, but a friend clued me in on a technique in Happiest Toddler on the Block that helps Ry define and speak his feelings instead of throwing, kicking, punching, hitting, etc. It's been working a little better in the last week. When DS gets mad, sad, frustrated, etc. I get right in his face and with the same level of emotion say, "You are MAD, MAD, MAD at your brother for not letting you in the room! MAD, MAD, MAD!" Then DS usually says, "I am MAD at brother for not letting me in the room!" instead of punching the door or attacking the other kids. I do it for frustration and sadness too - even if he's mad he's in timeout, I break the ignore kid in timeout rule and say, "Ry, you are MAD, MAD, MAD at me for putting you in timeout!" It seems to be working, but I also have that book on hold at the library to actually read about the technique, so I might be doing it all wrong.
ETA: And heyjude's suggestion of "Hands are not for hiring!" sounds like a CEP book. LOL at the autocorrect! That book is a good read, we have that also.
I need help. BoyLiu has been hitting a lot. Mostly when he's frustrated, sometimes when he's just angry. Any suggestions on how to get him to stop would be greatly appreciated.
Following - I got so frustrated with Shorti yesterday after she hit the dog that I actually had to go hide where she couldn't see me and cry. Fucking hormones man...
She was on a tear yesterday - it was our fault, we let her get horribly off schedule with naps and bedtime on Friday/Saturday and were paying for it all day on sunday, but still. Kid. COME THE FUCK ON. She'd already smacked me, headbutted me, and kicked MH. And then flailed around and hit the dog because I was too slow getting her some milk. She seemed truly contrite about the dog though - I don't think she meant to, I think she was just flailing and he happened to be standing there. After she got out of time out she was all, "I'm sorry Buddy. It was accident." and kissed him. He adores her so he took it all in stride. (thank god because she's been SLOW to pick up on the STOP STEPPING ON THE DOG, STOP GRABBIGN HIS TAIL, OMG GET YOUR HAND OUT OF HIS MOUTH!" message.)
She still goes straight to little fists when she gets frustrated though. I've been wondering if she needs a punching pillow or something or if that would be confusing for a toddler. I have a wicked temper that it took till college to really get a handle on short-circuiting so I'm not really surprised that she's dealing with this. But sometimes (still) the only thing that helps is screaming into a pillow and kicking my feet - so....uh, yeah, I feel her pain.
Today is my last day of work for almost a month. Tomorrow DS1 is having his tonsils out and exactly one week later DS2 is having surgery on both of his eyes to correct a muscle placement issue and hopefully restore his depth perception. He'll need to wear eye patches for two weeks. ;(
I am straight up freaking out today. I'm not dealing with this well at all.
I have two hitters of my own. I could probably deal with the hitting if they weren't telling on each other constantly. Which reminds me of a cute moment that happened this past weekend. BoyE fell off a play toy in the backyard. I didn't witness it but I did see that neither of his siblings were near him. So BoyE comes up to me crying.
BoyE: B do it. Me: No, B did not do it. BoyE: G (what he calls his sister) do it. Me: No, G did not do it. BoyE: (looks around and spots the backyard fountain with a lion head) Lion do it. Me: The Lion on the fountain did not push you off the play toy. Nice try kid. Now get back to playing.
I need help. BoyLiu has been hitting a lot. Mostly when he's frustrated, sometimes when he's just angry. Any suggestions on how to get him to stop would be greatly appreciated.
I am in the phase with Ry, DS#3, and he is worse than DS#1 or DS#2 ever were. I have been looking at other ways to deal with this before it extends past siblings and us parents.
I haven't read it, but a friend clued me in on a technique in Happiest Toddler on the Block that helps Ry define and speak his feelings instead of throwing, kicking, punching, hitting, etc. It's been working a little better in the last week. When DS gets mad, sad, frustrated, etc. I get right in his face and with the same level of emotion say, "You are MAD, MAD, MAD at your brother for not letting you in the room! MAD, MAD, MAD!" Then DS usually says, "I am MAD at brother for not letting me in the room!" instead of punching the door or attacking the other kids. I do it for frustration and sadness too - even if he's mad he's in timeout, I break the ignore kid in timeout rule and say, "Ry, you are MAD, MAD, MAD at me for putting you in timeout!" It seems to be working, but I also have that book on hold at the library to actually read about the technique, so I might be doing it all wrong.
ETA: And heyjude's suggestion of "Hands are not for hiring!" sounds like a CEP book. LOL at the autocorrect! That book is a good read, we have that also.
I've heard this suggestion before, and it makes sense to me - so I've tried it a couple of times with Shorti. She's such a contrary little bit when she's pissed off that she tells me that she's not mad. Like, "Shorti, you're MAD! that mama won't give you any juice!" and she yells back, "I'M NOT MAD."
*headdesk*
Then why are you screaming at me!!!!? was my automatic response. Which, yeah..not helpful. I think we need a book about feelings in general or something. I've tried pointing out when various characters are mad or sad or whatever. I'm sure it'll click eventually.
Post by downtoearth on Jul 20, 2015 13:14:45 GMT -5
Oh and more anger books we've read...
Moody Cow Meditates (a little relaxation/Buddha themed, but pretty general). Oh and I've never made a mindfulness jar (glitter jar) but my kids have asked me to. I think this one is good for toddlers and my older kids
Anh's Anger is also good, but maybe too old for toddlers. It has another book by the same author that we also have called, Steps and Stones: An Anh's Anger Story. Both deal with anger as a normal emotion, but that what to do with that anger. It also has a Buddhism theme of dealing with anger, but I did borrow all of these books from a friend who is a Buddhist.
Oh and we do have the toddler, "Hands are not for Hitting" book and I think we have the biting book too (Teeth are not for biting), but I haven't seen it in awhile.
Seriously all. Try role playing with stuffed animals. It really worked. Get your toddler involved in talking to the offending animal as to why hitting is not kind.
We also tried happiest toddler on the block. It didn't work for aggression for us. It worked for a time on tempering tantrums though.
So DS #3 has found DS #2's Star Wars toys. We spent time talking about the two figures, Han Solo and Chewbacca. DS #3 has taken the role of Han Solo and I am now, Chewbacca. I showed him a clip on how Han and Chewie talk, which I was informed when I am Chewbacca I need to talk human. Later in the day the kid is still in character and yells, "Hey Chewbacca I killed all the white people!" I could not stop laughing and then informed him that the white people are stormtroopers.
DS, who is 2.5, potty trained himself-he's had one accident in over a week and has been in underpants the whole time. So we went to PBK to look at the bed and they were selling the floor sample at 60% off. It was in perfect condition and only $130-score!
he's also sick and had some hallucinations when his fever spiked the other night which was scary. His big sister dressed him up like Anna from Frozen earlier today and he came downstairs telling me I was dead because my ship sunk, lol
DS2 had his follow up with the pedi. No pyloric stenosis or other obstructions. She thinks he just has reflux and a dairy sensitivity. So no more cheese for me. Womp womp. But hopefully that will help my diet.
DS2 had his follow up with the pedi. No pyloric stenosis or other obstructions. She thinks he just has reflux and a dairy sensitivity. So no more cheese for me. Womp womp. But hopefully that will help my diet.
DS was had horrible reflux. I hope eliminating dairy helps. you should see a big change within a few days if that is the issue. I would caution spending too much time having the pedi try to resolve reflux. I joined multiple fb groups on reflux and noticed a trend of pedi's spending months trying to get meds right. We went to a pedi GI and within a week DS was a completely different child. He still spit up, but he wasn't screaming 14-18 hours a day. Good luck, hang in there.
Post by shanbrite2 on Jul 20, 2015 18:43:48 GMT -5
My mom and I went shopping with DD today and she was such a pill. Normally she's pretty good, but she has been so overtired from not napping (only napped at school, which is not happening over the summer). At one point, I totally felt the urge to just spank her, which I felt awful about. She could have been worse, but it was pretty bad (and of course we were at the ritziest mall in the state in super fancy stores). Thankfully, we did find a dress for my mom, which was the whole goal. I also got to try on super fancy wigs that were beautiful, but I don't know if I'm ready to pay $300-400 for one when I love the $35 purple wig almost as much, lol. These did look way better though.
My mom and I went shopping with DD today and she was such a pill. Normally she's pretty good, but she has been so overtired from not napping (only napped at school, which is not happening over the summer). At one point, I totally felt the urge to just spank her, which I felt awful about. She could have been worse, but it was pretty bad (and of course we were at the ritziest mall in the state in super fancy stores). Thankfully, we did find a dress for my mom, which was the whole goal. I also got to try on super fancy wigs that were beautiful, but I don't know if I'm ready to pay $300-400 for one when I love the $35 purple wig almost as much, lol. These did look way better though.