For me, I waited until the one year mark, since that's the normal standard for someone my age. I was charting though, so I started to suspect after six months of perfect timing that something might be wrong.
DH and I have a severe MFI diagnosis, so this time around, I have no problem labeling myself as having TTTC even though we've only really been "trying" for three months
I was AMA and had two mc within 9 months, but it still didn't sink in that we were TTTC until I had my test results showing I have DOR. I'm usually an optimist, so I just assumed the miscarriages were bad luck, but they're probably due to bad eggs.
Love of my life baby boy born 11/11. One and done not by choice; 3 years of TTC yielded 4 MMC and 2 CPs, through 4 IUIs and 2 IVFs. Focusing on making the world a better place instead...and running.
Post by callmehales on Jul 21, 2015 11:02:46 GMT -5
i started suspecting a few months into temping/charting with extremely regular cycles and no luck. once i made an RE appt at the 1 year mark, i considered us as in the TTTC camp. we've got MFI with severe morph issues, so we're gearing up for IVF. it was hard to deal with going from "oh, we might need extra help from an RE but we've got all these options" to "you need IVF or you'll never have a biological child" in the span of 1 appointment after a cycle of clomid/TI.
Post by oneslybookworm on Jul 21, 2015 11:10:59 GMT -5
We tried for about a year and a half, then I made an appointment with the RE. At that point, I felt like we were TTTC. DH took a lot longer to get on that page than I did, however.
i started suspecting a few months into temping/charting with extremely regular cycles and no luck. once i made an RE appt at the 1 year mark, i considered us as in the TTTC camp. we've got MFI with severe morph issues, so we're gearing up for IVF. it was hard to deal with going from "oh, we might need extra help from an RE but we've got all these options" to "you need IVF or you'll never have a biological child" in the span of 1 appointment after a cycle of clomid/TI.
I'm sorry I suspect that is what I'm going to be dealing with on Friday. DH's initial SA was really bad (below the level you need for an IUI). He has a repeat SA Thursday and we talk options Friday.
Best of luck to you with IVF!
thanks!! i've mostly come to terms with it, and we're lucky that we can financially make it happen. i'm hopeful my ovaries will do their thing and with the help of ICSI we'll get a decent amount of embryos so we can do a FET if the fresh cycle doesn't work. but one step at a time, lol.
We were TTC for just over 2 years when I started thinking we were TTTC. We had 3 losses in first year and a half, after the last loss I stopped ovulating. After two cycles of needing to jump starting my cycles my OB did testing, everything was normal. I then have done 2 clomid cycles and I'm on my third. If this cycle is a bust, I will be seeing a RE in Sept.
Before even TTC I thought I would jump on that label at a year since it would mean access to more resources and treatments and community. Now, I'm having a lot of trouble with that label since we had our first kid with no problems. And even though we're doing medicated cycles at this point, I may still be in denial. I don't know. I made an appointment with an RE and then canceled it. Maybe in my head the RE marks transition to TTTC?
big hugs Jodi. I'm rooting for you all the time. It can't hurt to talk to your doc about what the next step might be.
yeah, I think if it's really important to you, it's time for a talk. You see a midwife, right? Have you asked her what she recommends next? We haven't actually done the SA yet, but my OB wasn't in a big hurry on that since I've technically been pregnant twice. My H balked a little at the idea of going to see a fertility specialist, but he's completely on board with doing treatments with my OB. It's kind of like a warm up period. I think if we have to move on in a few months we will both be more mentally prepared. I hope you and your H are able to get on the same page. It doesn't have to be straight to IVF, there are so many other simpler things they can try first. And really, there's so much we women put ourselves through to try to get pregnant, he can certainly give a sample. You want me to talk to him? lol
you got a cup, how fancy! lol. my doc wrote a prescription for the SA. Apparently we have to get the cup from the place he drops it off at. And it's at a hospital 45 minutes from our house and the sample has to be dropped off within 30 minutes of producing it. So my H is a little stressed about how to make that happen, logistically. bathroom stall at the hospital? backseat of a parked car? lol. nothing seems like a very good idea. where are these dark rooms with dirty magazines you see on tv?
Love of my life baby boy born 11/11. One and done not by choice; 3 years of TTC yielded 4 MMC and 2 CPs, through 4 IUIs and 2 IVFs. Focusing on making the world a better place instead...and running.
I've had 4 miscarriages in the past year, but I guess I still don't know if I'd consider myself TTTC. All my testing has come back normal, so sometimes I feel like it's just bad luck. I don't know if that's crazy or not. If I would have another m/c, then yes, I'd probably consider myself TTTC.
Um when DH got his SA, my doc told us we could just put it in a clean Tupperware container. HA. He ended up going and doing his business at the facility instead.
I've really dragged my feet with coming to terms with it, especially since we got pregnant once with no extra help. But one year after the BFP and no success since then, I'm putting myself in the TTTC camp. Doing blood work this cycle and will make an appt. with an RE after that.
I started getting really concerned after about 6 months, especially with DH's previous testosterone issues and the fact that we conceived in the first month with our first baby. DH's tests came back fine and once we reached 12 months or so, I accepted that we're TTTC. But I'm still pretty bitter about it. And confused as our first was so easy.