Weird or not weird

[countthestars]

This isn't about me.

A&B have three kids, all with A names (chosen because wife is an A name). The kids are ages 9-13.

A&B divorce and B remarries C. B&C are pregnant and choose an A name for new baby specifically because "they don't want the baby to feel left out".

Weird or not weird?

[Deleted]

Weird.

[Velar Fricative]

Not weird. I think I'd do the same thing. I could see why they might think if the fourth baby has a name that starts with a different letter, it would be more evident that this child is a half-brother/sister and that they were trying to purposely "other" this child, if that makes sense.

[Deleted]

People who choose all the same first letter names for their kids are kind of weird anyways, tbh. But in this case, I see what they mean by not leaving the baby out.

[Deleted]

Not weird. I think it's sweet actually, for the new baby to be the same as his/her half siblings.

[Deleted]

Not weird.

You know it would come up in conversation if 3 kids have the same letter name and 1 doesn't. People would make "jokes," inquire about it, etc. It'd be annoying to have to deal with that.

[glitzy07]

I think not weird. I can see why they would do it, so there isn't a perception of being "other" than the siblings.

[glinda]

A little of both? If it were stepsiblings or something I would find it weirder but they're half siblings to the new baby so...I sort of get it, assuming they're not going to give the baby the ex-wife's name or anything.

Still a little on the odd side though.

[redpenmama]

Not weird -- sounds like they are doing it for inclusion/family blending purposes, so the intention is good.

[spk926]

Not weird. My sister and her husband were divorced years ago. They had 3 kids together. All 3 kids have classic names. Ex-h remarried and had another child and that child has a new trendy name and it's so weird because it doesn't "go" with his other children's names.

I'm not sure I would follow the A naming trend but I'm not going to immediately assume they are weird just because they did.

[smock]

If I were one of the 9-13 year olds, I would probably hate it, because it screams "we're making a happy blended family!" to me. Then again, I tend to be overly sensitive about that kind of thing.

[linz]

Weird.

I cannot stand the same letter anyway. H has same letter as sister and parents.

[lilac05]

Not weird. I agree with Velar Fricative. I think it continues to promote the blended family, both from a sibling and a parent/step-parent relationship.

[magpie]

not weird (I mean, aside from the slight weirdness of doing all A names in the first place).

[scribellesam]

I think it's sweet. But I'm a weirdo with two kids whose names start with the same letter so what do I know.

[Ashley&Scott]

Jul 27, 2015 14:42:21 GMT -5 lilac05 said:

Not weird. I agree with Velar Fricative. I think it continues to promote the blended family, both from a sibling and a parent/step-parent relationship.

I agree.

[SJ]

I think it's sweet to give #4 a "matching" name.

However, I think alliterative names are weird in the first place, so I never would have gotten to this point where the 1st three already match.

[countthestars]

Thanks everyone . I'm friends with A and loathe B so I wasn't sure if it was a BEC for me.

FWIW I don't like that all A name thing to begin with either.

[longtimenopost]

I agree with pps that using all one letter is odd, but once you've started it makes more sense to keep going.

[drloretta]

I'm on the fence, and am now going to ramble.

I mean, these children aren't going to be together forever, so down the line the impact of what letter their name starts with is going to be negligible.

I think these parents are putting a little too much stock into what things are important in making a child feel part of the family.

If I were C and didn't like the trend, or the A name, I'd be pissed as hell.

[cricketwife]

Not weird.

[cincodemayo]

I think it's weird if that's the only reason they are doing it.

[bowies]

It's not weird but if I was mom A or the older kids I would have feelings about it.

I am not a fan of the alliterative thing either (or assonance in this case).

[Deleted]

Weird. But I actually think its very nice of them and often in divorces people are asses so its refreshing to hear they are thinking about being an inclusive family. (At least with names.)

[6fsn]

Not weird. I'm taking my 3 m names and going home.

[glitzy07]

Jul 27, 2015 14:56:43 GMT -5 @vicmo said:

Tangent, we might give #2 another S name and I worry that it'll look overly alliterative even with just two. Sigh.

If this baby is a girl, she will have a name that starts with the same letter as my name.  C's name starts with the same letter as H's.  C's was on purpose (that's what H wanted...), baby girl H just happens to be the name we liked best.  People are totally going to think it's on purpose. 

[undecidedowl]

Jul 27, 2015 14:56:43 GMT -5 @vicmo said:

Tangent, we might give #2 another S name and I worry that it'll look overly alliterative even with just two. Sigh.

Both of my boys are "P"s and it will forever drive me nuts even though there was no other name we could agree on for P2. 

From a different perspective, my sister and I have the same first initial and I really didn't think a thing of it growing up. My parents also did not do it intentionally.

[fbf2006]

Not weird. My siblings and I all have F names, including our last name. I like it!

[iheartbanjos]

Not weird.

[zeewifeandmama]

Not weird. Blended families are hard.