stupid parenting WWYD?

[frkls]

let's say your 5yo boy has taken a bath, is in his pajamas and hits the potty before bed.  he is standing up and gets a small drop of pee on the front of his pants.  he wants to change before going to bed.  he is very serious about not sleeping in those pants.


and go,,,

[spk926]

There's no harm I can think of by letting him change. It would take all of a minute to do and frankly I wouldn't want to sleep in pants with pee on them either. Not worth the battle.

[elleblue]

I would let him change assuming he's actually bothered by it and not just stalling for time.

[Monica Geller]

Not a battle I would fight. Change pants. Go to bed.

[Deleted]

Not a parent... But if it prevents an argument and clean pj pants are available, let him change the pants.

[ghost]

@@not a mom of boys@@ I would let him change. I would say eh what does it matter...change quick and get into bed.

[FastHands]

Can a 5yo change himself? If yes, 100% I'd let him. If no, I'd still probably change him. I'm not going to do anything to hinder an impulse toward cleanliness. Lol

[whitemerlot]

There is no way I'd win that battle with my 5 year old. I would let him change. He hates to be dirty.

[pagas]

Let him change.

[usuallylurking]

This would be my DS1, and I would have to let him change if I didn't want to hear about it for the next 47 times he went to the bathroom before bed. This is one of those "choose your battles" on what bugs him, and in this case he wins.

[hymen]

I would change him. Or just have him sleep in his underwear.

[papie]

I'd let him change. Unless it is the 100th time he got up, and it is like 11pm, then I'll just be like "JUST GO THE FUCK TO BED. CHANGE OR DON'T CHANGE, I DON'T FUCKING CARE".

Not that I say that by experience or anything.

[lovelovelove]

My kiddo is like this when her pjs get any tiny amount of water and I let her change. The few times I've tried to reason with her it turns into a giant issue and I think why I'm fighting this. It takes longer to talk with her than change pjs.

[eddy]

Let him change but I probably wouldn't rewash the pants from one drip drop.

[frkls]

Thank you!!!

apparently, he and h threw down about it while i was out walking the dog. i told h i didn't understand why he didn't just let him change his pants and that r should be allowed to decide whether or not he wants to sleep in pants with any amount of pee on them. h said something about being the bad guy again and left for the gym...to mope, i assume. LOL! dork. choose your damn battles!

[tictac]

Disclaimer: Not a parent.

That said, I don't understand why this even needs to be asked. As long as there are pee-free PJ pants available, why wouldn't he be allowed to change?

[Kristinmo]

As long as he changes himself I wouldn't care.

[aussiecrush]

Not worth the delay of precious bedtime to debate the pants. Change and move on.

[frkls]

Jul 27, 2015 20:17:43 GMT -5 tictac said:

Disclaimer: Not a parent.

That said, I don't understand why this even needs to be asked. As long as there are pee-free PJ pants available, why wouldn't he be allowed to change?

all i can think of is that must have turned into some kind of power struggle. h said it was no big deal and to just go to bed, ryan refused and then it became about ryan not doing what he was told.  

[lilybug]

I wouldn't fight that battle. Heck my 5 y.o. decides he wants to change pajama pants sometimes even when he DOESNT pee. He just decided he likes batman better than stripes that night. He can do it himself and it takes like 30 seconds, so I don't care.

[newgirl412]

I honestly think even if I told my 5 yo SS that he couldnt change, I would find him the next morning in different pants cause he would just change after I put him to bed lol.

[hopecounts]

Not worth my time to fight him.
He can change if it gets him in bed without a fight.

[mom2twoboys]

I would let him change, but my husband had to let my boys know that sometimes happens so they wouldn't get upset when they were in a public restroom. At home I would let them change, but probably wouldn't wash it.

[georgeharrison]

Psh, I wish my son cared about a drip of potty when he was that age - or now for that matter. I would def let him change even if I thought it was nbd. If my kid wants to be clean, I'm certainly not going to discourage that.

[thebuddhagouda]

I would let him change. There are other battles I have to win. This would not be one of them.

[cville]

What? Not letting him change is nuts! And as the laundry person in my house i feel this opinion carries extra weight!

[thebuddhagouda]

Jul 27, 2015 20:52:40 GMT -5 @vicmo said:

I'd definitely let him change, but I have accidentally gotten into stupid power struggles before.

Yup and it sucks because you feel like you can't let it go, but you're stuck kicking yourself for getting into it in the first place. Why, self, why? 

[MixedBerryJam]

Jul 27, 2015 20:17:21 GMT -5 frkls said:

Thank you!!!

apparently, he and h threw down about it while i was out walking the dog. i told h i didn't understand why he didn't just let him change his pants and that r should be allowed to decide whether or not he wants to sleep in pants with any amount of pee on them. h said something about being the bad guy again and left for the gym...to mope, i assume. LOL! dork. choose your damn battles!

I cannot tell you how many times I literally said to my husband, "If you get into a pissing contest with a toddler you will lose." But I meant it figuratively. I'm sorry your husband had to learn this lesson the hard way ... assuming he learned this lesson!

[stellas]

If he can do it himself i'd let him change. If he demanded my assistance he'd be out of luck.

[VeryViolet]

He probably spent three times as long fighting with him about it as he would have if he had just changed him. Also, this is going to turn into your son having peed his pants and your husband made him sleep in it by the time he gets done crying to grandma about how dad is mean. Lol

At least you weren't there for it. I have a hard time not rolling my eyes at dh when he is being ridiculous with ds who isn't even two.

Oh and my only experience with 5 year olds fighting with you is when I recently got into a fight with my nephew about how I cut his waffles. It ended with me telling him "fine you don't have to eat my waffles I don't want you to anyways" and then my dh taking me in the other room with coffee and telling me that having a pissing match with a 5yo was a bad idea.