Only 3 more work days for me this week and then birthday staycation for 10 days!
Some of you ladies probably wonder why I post and vent so much about my health on here. Well my sister made a comment over the weekend that is still weighing heavy on my mind. We were talking about dating and she said,
"you should wait until you get better, or if you wanna date now, you need to find, like an amputee or something."
This comment is so offensive to so many people for so many reasons. Plus, my sister thinks I'm going to get better. Most of my family thinks that too. They make comments like, "when you get better....", "when you can start running again..."
I have already been told by 3 doctors that this is my baseline function. It will not get any better, just worse. It's nerve damage and if and when stem cell research has a breakthrough, then I have a chance to get better. Right now it's really frustrating for me because no one around me is allowing me to come to terms with this. I know it's hard for my family to see me like this, but I need support; not rainbows and sunshine blown up my ass!
abcdefu have you told them how what they say makes you feel? Do they know you won't get better? Also, WTF @ the you need to date an amputee, I don't know how they could think that isn't offensive. That would be like someone telling me I can only date overweight people, um no fuck you! I hope they can learn to be more accepting of where you are right now and more sensitive in what they say.
bl - yes they know. I have told them countless times. They just say, "you don't know that." Ummm I do fucking know that bc I was told by three doctors and I feel like shit! I'm not sure if you remember, but my dad was the one who said I just wanted to use a wheelchair to get attention. He said this when I was 10 days post surgery. My mom is really supportive. She's not happy about it, but she's supportive. I can't imagine a mother not being sad seeing their child in pain, but my mom comes with my dad and siblings, unfortunately.
abcdefu I'm sorry . My mom is disabled and has been since I was 2, and sometimes I have a hard time coming to terms with everything regarding her health. I force myself to go to some of her drs appts with her because hearing things straight from the drs and being able to ask questions is helpful for me to process. I am glad your mom is supportive, and I do remember your dads comment which I am still very WTF about.
abcdefu - Big hugs... I don't think you vent too much about your health; I think you've got a lot going on and are handling everything so well especially since you don't have any family support.
Post by pantsoffdanceoff on Jul 28, 2015 8:58:34 GMT -5
abcdefu Hugs man. That is a shitty thing to say. I'm really sorry.
I had my date last night. I don't know that there is going to be a second date. He asked and I kind of agreed, but no plans have been made. I have a white wine hangover today from last night.
I have another first date tonight at the SAME PLACE that I went to last night, hopefully I won't have the same waitress.
Thanks ladies! I really appreciate it! On the bright side, my brand spanking new light weight wheelchair is supposed to be delivered today! Just in time to spend my birthday weekend in the city with my best friend!
I am reading some erotica type books right now. Its a series of 6, I started them last week and am almost done with book 3 right now. I feel guilty for reading such trash, but I actually enjoy plugging away for an hour on the elliptical when I am reading something that holds my interest, and reading anything has to be better than watching mindless tv, right?
I am reading some erotica type books right now. Its a series of 6, I started them last week and am almost done with book 3 right now. I feel guilty for reading such trash, but I actually enjoy plugging away for an hour on the elliptical when I am reading something that holds my interest, and reading anything has to be better than watching mindless tv, right?
abcdefu - I'm sorry your family isn't supportive. I don't remember, are you in therapy?
I have a 2nd interview tomorrow! I'm excited, but nervous as well. After my phone interview, the manager said they liked my experience, but would ideally like someone with more advanced excel skills (vlookup, pivot tables). I'm confident that if I get the job I can learn. Their are so many tutorials online.
abcdefu - I'm sorry your family isn't supportive. I don't remember, are you in therapy?
I have a 2nd interview tomorrow! I'm excited, but nervous as well. After my phone interview, the manager said they liked my experience, but would ideally like someone with more advanced excel skills (vlookup, pivot tables). I'm confident that if I get the job I can learn. Their are so many tutorials online.
Is this the job up near me?
It's actually a different job than the one I told you about, but this one just so happens to be near you too!
This morning miscommunication between my and DH's lawyers threw my morning out of wack. We sorted it out between ourselves but augh, such unnecessary drama.
Getting work done this afternoon and meeting a friend tonight at the beach.
Post by jojoandleo on Jul 28, 2015 20:39:37 GMT -5
My interview was weird. They basically let ME lead the interview. They told me about what they do, asked maybe 1-2 questions about me and had me ask all the other questions. I got the feeling they weren't all interested in me.
abcdefu - I'm sorry your family isn't supportive. I don't remember, are you in therapy?
I have a 2nd interview tomorrow! I'm excited, but nervous as well. After my phone interview, the manager said they liked my experience, but would ideally like someone with more advanced excel skills (vlookup, pivot tables). I'm confident that if I get the job I can learn. Their are so many tutorials online.
abcdefu - I'm sorry your family isn't supportive. I don't remember, are you in therapy?
I have a 2nd interview tomorrow! I'm excited, but nervous as well. After my phone interview, the manager said they liked my experience, but would ideally like someone with more advanced excel skills (vlookup, pivot tables). I'm confident that if I get the job I can learn. Their are so many tutorials online.
Yes and I see a psychiatrist as well.
I really admire your strength through this whole process!
I really admire your strength through this whole process!
I just want to agree with this. I think you've been amazingly positive through this whole thing, and it's even more impressive when you have family saying this ridiculous shit to you. You sister absolutely sucks ass, insinuating that 1) you don't "deserve" a wholly healthy SO, and 2) that someone with a handicap is "less than." I don't get mad at a lot of things, but I want to just punch her in the crotch, and I'm surprising myself with how mad this is making me, LOL!
Besides, I don't know what she's thinking of when she pictures an amputee in her head, but if they are anything like these ones, yes please! I mean, YUM!
My HCG was 949 on saturday, which is consistent with me being about 4-5 weeks, as expected. He told me once I hit 2000 we would do an ultrasound, but then decided to just do the one blood draw and schedule it out a bit further. I wish he would have done the 48 hour beta too.
949 is a great number though!!! Fx for a great ultrasound. I know the waiting is torture.
I really admire your strength through this whole process!
I just want to agree with this. I think you've been amazingly positive through this whole thing, and it's even more impressive when you have family saying this ridiculous shit to you. You sister absolutely sucks ass, insinuating that 1) you don't "deserve" a wholly healthy SO, and 2) that someone with a handicap is "less than." I don't get mad at a lot of things, but I want to just punch her in the crotch, and I'm surprising myself with how mad this is making me, LOL!
Besides, I don't know what she's thinking of when she pictures an amputee in her head, but if they are anything like these ones, yes please! I mean, YUM!
Holy hawtness!!
I saw on the news that there is a guy who made a veterans amputee calendar. Her comment made me so pissed off! The funny thing is, she is healthy and single so I guess that's not really working out for her! She could never get someone who is so courageous and strong bc she is shallow! I wish I would have thought of this to say at the time, but I'm sure my anger was getting the best of me!