Post by Velar Fricative on Jul 28, 2015 9:46:48 GMT -5
Holy shit. I'm so sorry.
They were wrong for even thinking this, but I continue to be surprised at how much dumb shit people put in writing via e-mail communication at work.
I probably would not have quit if I didn't have a job lined up, but since you do and are relatively certain that it will come through, I don't blame you for quitting.
Wow, that's so unacceptable, inappropriate, rude, disgusting. Who the hell even thinks "That's on her" when hearing about a miscarriage? Does blame need to be assessed? Especially incorrectly? I'm sorry you went through that, and I'm glad you were in a position to be able to quit. I certainly hope you told them why. And if I were you, I would think about posting on a site like glassdoor so other people know how awful they are.
Post by shellbear09 on Jul 28, 2015 9:55:46 GMT -5
Yeah that is bad and I would have found another job then quit. I would definitely tell them why and not just on your way out. They are the ones who will feel shitty about it, or at least they should.
I left a job in a blaze of glory once and I've always regretted it.
Ask yourself what would be gained and what would be lost by telling them. If nothing is gained then don't tell them. If a lot would be lost then don't tell them. If you think you must say something I would consider doing it in a short and professional note vs. in person when things might get a bit emotional.
It was a shitty thing to write but I don't think it is something you "fix" buy telling them if you know what I mean. Managers are human and sadly they often make mistakes like this. I have many stories about good managers saying dumb things about pregnancy and miscarriage.
Post by sporklemotion on Jul 28, 2015 9:58:29 GMT -5
OMG. My jaw hit the floor. I would quit, too, and I almost never say that. Their judgment is so gross, and I hope you call them out on it (and educate them about miscarriage).
I left a job in a blaze of glory once and I've always regretted it.
Ask yourself what would be gained and what would be lost by telling them. If nothing is gained then don't tell them. If a lot would be lost then don't tell them. If you think you must say something I would consider doing it in a short and professional note vs. in person when things might get a bit emotional.
It was a shitty thing to write but I don't think it is something you "fix" buy telling them if you know what I mean. Managers are human and sadly they often make mistakes like this. I have many stories about good managers saying dumb things about pregnancy and miscarriage.
I just feel like at the very least, these people need to be told that they are shitty human beings. I don't know what would be gained from it, but wow.
Post by badtzmaru22 on Jul 28, 2015 10:08:29 GMT -5
I'm so sorry this happened to you, but this is definitely one of those times it's ok to quit without something else lined up. I hope your other prospect works out!