Good luck and I hope this means you can start moving forward. It blows my mind that he can walk away from his child. That tells you - and every other sane person - the measure of his character.
Post by undecidedowl on Jul 29, 2015 7:39:53 GMT -5
I am so sorry. You are a brave, strong woman and your love and dedication to your son are very clear. I am glad this means there will be no custody battle, but so sorry for the hurt you must feel as you watch your son lose his father. Wishing you strength and better days ahead.
((hugs)) sound like this is the right move and you're doing what you need to.
-as a kid with a disinterested father who only took visitation reluctantly as much as it hurts you to consider your X tpring long term it may make it easier on your kid. It's not hard to figure out that your Dad doesn't really want to spend time with you and it hurts like crazy. My dad still sucks and I have to deal with it now, in a lot of ways it would've been easier if he had just peaced out and let me get on with my life (I have a great StepDad and Grandad who have been wonderful father figures).
Sending good thoughts for both you & your son! I know it's so much easier for me to say, but I promise you that you wouldn't want a father who cared this little for your son in his life. His apathy would almost definitely be obvious, & he'd hurt your son so much more than if he isn't involved in his life @ all. At least now, you are able to guarantee that those who closely surround him love him unconditionally. That man doesn't deserve to get a piece of your sweet boy's heart. ETA: Ack!!! I'm sorry!! I thought I was on MM (on the app! Doh!) I'm not even a mom, but here I am going on a big long speech, so sorry, OP!! It's truly b/c I have a friend who went through something similar last year & this is how I helped heal her heart, by making her see that no presence is way better than a 1/2-assed, semi-uncaring, unreliable presence. (And we all know the latter is what would have existed:( ) Sorry again for intruding on your board, but still sending good thoughts!!