Friends/Family of cops

[Alyssa]

I know a couple cops who are on FB and both of them have not mentioned anything about those types of current events. They usually post things about their families, joke pages that are police themed (not in poor taste) and if there's a funeral involving an officer then they usally post things related to that. We just had a police officer who was shot and killed on the job, so there's been a lot of posting about the funeral on their pages.

[jeaniebueller]

The vast majority of my cop friends on Facebook have been silent on the matter. I have two cop FB friends who have done some cop lives matter nonsense though. However the two cops in question that I know who do that, I don't really hold in high regard, so it does not surprise me at all

[mrsbro]

Jul 31, 2015 11:13:58 GMT -5 Alyssa said:

I know a couple cops who are on FB and both of them have not mentioned anything about those types of current events. They usually post things about their families, joke pages that are police themed (not in poor taste) and if there's a funeral involving an officer then they usally post things related to that. We just had a police officer who was shot and killed on the job, so there's been a lot of posting about the funeral on their pages.

Very much this. 

In a private group a few mentioned issues they saw in the stop. But by and far none comment on current events on their actual fb page. I'm not sure if it's a social media clause or what. 

[Alyssa]

Jul 31, 2015 11:18:11 GMT -5 jeaniebueller said:

The vast majority of my cop friends on Facebook have been silent on the matter. I have two cop FB friends who have done some cop lives matter nonsense though. However the two cops in question that I know who do that, I don't really hold in high regard, so it does not surprise me at all

Yeah, in my case it's usually their spouse that has been a little more vocal about posting "Blue Lives Matter" articles and pictures.  I think they do it out of support for their husband. The cops themselves tend to stay tight lipped. 

[redheadbaker]

My dad is a cop, and my brother is in the criminal justice field (probation officer). My dad is not on FB, and my brother has thankfully not posted anything since the Ferguson grand jury. I find that preferable to the shit he had been posting.

[EllieArroway]

Most cops I know post nothing. Their wives post offensive bullshit.

[pixy0stix]

Jul 31, 2015 11:29:51 GMT -5 redheadbaker said:

My dad is a cop, and my brother is in the criminal justice field (probation officer). My dad is not on FB, and my brother has thankfully not posted anything since the Ferguson grand jury. I find that preferable to the shit he had been posting.

Probably because he got a CEP FB smackdown.

[mrsbro]

Jul 31, 2015 11:37:12 GMT -5 EllieArroway said:

Most cops I know post nothing. Their wives post offensive bullshit.

#truth

[mbcdefg]

I have FB friends who are police officers, and I'm also friends with several of their wives. The wives I know tend to post more often than the LEOs. A few of my LEO friends have said that they don't dare post or comment on things because they don't want to put their jobs at risk. 

There was a lot of Blue Line stuff posted in response to the Michael Brown and Eric Garner situations. A whole lot of, "You have no idea what LEOs go through, you have no idea how many wives worry every night, how dare you judge the split-second decisions they have to make, #bluelivesmatter, you don't know my LYFE," etc. A lot of, "America may not respect police officers anymore but I do!" memes. A lot of, "Well, if you mouth off and don't show respect to a LEO when they stop you then you're putting your own life at risk" stuff.

There really hasn't been a lot of stuff on FB lately, though, in regards to Sandra Bland and Sam DuBose. I saw a couple articles/videos posted of Sandra Bland showing her alive in the prison cell, but nothing about Sam DuBose.

We are very close to a LEO and his wife, and we were at their house last night. He brought up the topic himself. His takeaway was that the cops pulled them (Bland and DuBose) over for B.S. reasons, busted their balls over absolutely nothing just for the sake of feeling like big shots, and then got all pissy and aggressive when they weren't all "yes sir, no sir" in response. The LEOs should have spoken to them with more respect and a calm demeanor, or better yet just not bothered to approach them in the first place because there was no need to confront them at all. 

I've rolled my eyes or changed the subject at a few things he's said in the past, but he's one of the first people to admit that there are just some folks out there who should not be LEOs — these particular people are too aggressive, vindictive, they have attitude problems, and they pick on civilians to alleviate their personal problems. 

[theoriginalbean]

Jul 31, 2015 11:42:07 GMT -5 mrsbro said:

Jul 31, 2015 11:37:12 GMT -5 EllieArroway said:

Most cops I know post nothing. Their wives post offensive bullshit.

#truth

Bingo.

[Cicero]

I posted in the other thread but my (second? First once removed? I don't know how these distinctions work) cousin was pretty vocal about it at my grandma's wake. He's mad about what happened and as a CPD officer is angry that his name and reputation are being dragged through the mud via policing in the same city.

We're an XU family and not a UC one, which does cloud opinions.

[wambam]

My best friend's husband is a cop. He generally stays out of it. Though he is a cop in affluent suburb and has more stories about getting hit on by drunk women than anything else.

[oliviapope]

My SO posted this article about Sandra Bland:
talkingpointsmemo.com/cafe/sandra-bland-video-legal-but-not-good-policing

I will ditto the previous posts about the spouses of cops posting the most offensive shit. I am not one of them with me being black and all...

[oliviapope]

Jul 31, 2015 12:35:54 GMT -5 wambam said:

My best friend's husband is a cop. He generally stays out of it. Though he is a cop in affluent suburb and has more stories about getting hit on by drunk women than anything else.

My SO has lots of these, his standard answer when they ask for his number? "911." 

[pinkdutchtulips]

The cops I know are pretty much silent on the subject but every now and then someone will post a gif or meme about if you're worried about the cops, how about not breaking the law ?!?

Lately itheres been a lot of in memory stuff bc an officer was shot & killed in the line of duty recently

[shanbrite2]

One of my BFFs is married to a cop and her father was a cop killed in the line of duty in a truly horrific incident when she was young. He posts rarely, usually a pic when a PO is killed in the line of duty, or else family pics. She does not post anything about LEOs or current events. I think it came up in conversation once, many months ago when things were still in early days, and I don't remember exactly what was said, but it was enough that I did not want to continue the conversation further. I think she had a more open mindset than him.

[gpw]

Jul 31, 2015 11:37:12 GMT -5 EllieArroway said:

Most cops I know post nothing. Their wives post offensive bullshit.

Uh.  #notallcopswives.     YOU KNOW ME!! 

My H does not post anything on his FB.  I know we've had private conversations about it and I know he's spoken about it with his colleagues.  

ETA:  Many of you are FB friends with me, so you see what I post.  The things I post are the things that are discussed directly in our home. 

[secretlyevil]

I only have one cop on FB. He posts other offensive stuff and tends to stay quiet about the "big" stuff.

[AllieHound]

In pretty much all of the previous incidents (Michael Brown, Freddie Gray and especially John Crawford as he was local), I've seen a lot of blue lives matter and other offensive posts.

This time there's radio silence. Not a single mention from anyone.

[lg28]

It's a bit different up here in the sense that we haven't had as many innocent people killed by police officers (that I'm aware of, anyway) but most of my friends have been silent.

There's an independent body to investigate any incidents with police officers involving bodily injury or death of citizens. A friend of mine is actually involved with them and they sound relatively neutral - neither pro or anti cop.

I think it would be very frustrating to be a police officer right now. 99% of them are amazing individuals whose reputations are being ruined by the 1% that are awful.

[tictac]

Jul 31, 2015 11:37:12 GMT -5 EllieArroway said:

Most cops I know post nothing. Their wives post offensive bullshit.

Samesies.

[ksun]

I don't speak to my cousin who is a cop anymore because he is extremely right wing tin foil tea party conservative and has already been the subject of an investigation because of a threatening FB status he posted a few years ago about some Somali people who live in the area he patrols. So, there's that.

[matildasun]

My brother is a cop. We don't talk often, and when we do it is mostly about my kids. We don't engage politically at all, our very fragile relationship would not survive it.

He isn't on Facebook.

edited to add- if he said something offensive I would call him on it, but he actively tries to avoid such topics around me. 

[starlily]

Jul 31, 2015 18:37:25 GMT -5 AllieHound said:

In pretty much all of the previous incidents (Michael Brown, Freddie Gray and especially John Crawford as he was local), I've seen a lot of blue lives matter and other offensive posts.

This time there's radio silence. Not a single mention from anyone.

Same here, except from one AA officer. And his position was that not only does this cop need to be prosecuted, but so do the other cops who were on scene and lied about what happened.

[MrsAxilla]

Jul 31, 2015 12:40:16 GMT -5 oliviapope said:

My SO posted this article about Sandra Bland:
talkingpointsmemo.com/cafe/sandra-bland-video-legal-but-not-good-policing

I will ditto the previous posts about the spouses of cops posting the most offensive shit. I am not one of them with me being black and all...

That's a great article.  Thanks for sharing!

[cinnamoncox0]

Jul 31, 2015 11:37:12 GMT -5 EllieArroway said:

Most cops I know post nothing. Their wives post offensive bullshit.

I don't know very many police officers, but the few I do, this is the case. They don't post much it's the wives posting offensive stuff.

[ringstrue]

I have family/friends who are military or police but I believe they are told to not get on social media.

[eclaires]

The only friend I have that is a cop liked this status and I've read it five times and I still don't really get it beyond recognizing it's a giant ball of crazy. He's occasionally shared articles (like 3 over the past year) and it's clear to me he's pretty pro cop. But I guess I'm not really surprised for a variety of reasons. None of the articles have been too egregious, and he never comments on anything I share.

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[EllieArroway]

Jul 31, 2015 17:48:24 GMT -5 gpw said:

Jul 31, 2015 11:37:12 GMT -5 EllieArroway said:

Most cops I know post nothing. Their wives post offensive bullshit.

Uh.  #notallcopswives.     YOU KNOW ME!! 

My H does not post anything on his FB.  I know we've had private conversations about it and I know he's spoken about it with his colleagues.  

ETA:  Many of you are FB friends with me, so you see what I post.  The things I post are the things that are discussed directly in our home. 

This is true! You've never posted anything offensive. I also have a coworker who is married to a cop who doesn't post anything bad. So, #notallcopswives for sure.

[pistolshrimp]

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