Post by tommygirl03 on Jul 31, 2015 8:40:17 GMT -5
So, since I have to have it surgically removed, I essentially have 2 options regarding b/c. Important considerations - DH will not do a V. I am 39, DH is 44. We HAVE 2 kids and are DONE. Option 1: procedure under twilight anesthesia, they will remove the Mirena and can put a new one in. This (potentially) gives me another 5 years with NO PERIODS. Up until now, I've loved the Mirena. No periods for 5 years has been fan-freaking-tastic. I risk having to do this for removal again - or not. Could just be a complete fluke, or could have been because it was inserted too soon after my c/s (4.5 mo), and it adhered to the scar tissue. Option 2: have them do the procedure under general, and they will do a tubal at the same time as the Mirena removal. I have no issues with the permanence. Outpatient. Approximately a 2 day recovery. But I will get periods, and they used to be BAD, but I also have only had 1 pp pd after DD2, and that was when the Mirena was inserted. Bad as in, curled up in the fetal position for a day or 2, and that was with popping 800mg of ibuprofen 3x a day.
If it were me, I would probably do the tubal, just to be done with it once and for all. Periods do suck, though, so the first option would be tempting.
If it were me, I would probably do the tubal, just to be done with it once and for all. Periods do suck, though, so the first option would be tempting.
This.
But also, your husband needs to buck up buttercup.
Can you do mirena until menopause? Or is there an age where they stop inserting? I would leave toward tubal so you don't have to go thru this mess every 5 years.
Yeah Mirena. For me Mirena is all about the periods. The birth control is just a bonus for me. However after my last insertion, I had bad bleeding for a long time. 2-3 weeks. I was worried it was a 'bad one' (I had 3 others with no issues) and would have to have it removed. But then again, the bleeding did resolve and I was probably just impatient.
Yeah Mirena. For me Mirena is all about the periods. The birth control is just a bonus for me.
Me too. Even if DH gets a V, I'd still get a mirena inserted to not have periods! I forgot how much periods suck when I recently got it removed to TTC.
My OB also had a hell of a time getting mine out but was (luckily) able to magically grab it since the U/s techs were gone for the day. Good luck with your procedure.
I would do the Mirena. It sounds like there are no risk factors that would increase your chance of this happening again and the lack of periods is the best part of Mirena. I miss mine.
I honestly can't wrap my head around this being a matter of fact thing, assuming no actual medical issue.
In order to have families of a certain size, women get pregnant, give up control of their bodies for a long period of time (since I'm in it now it feels very long), including carrying, birthing, for some also nursing the child. It's not much of an equal partnership if men aren't willing to take a turn at participating in, you know, what it takes to have a family of a certain size.
I don't foresee this being a hill to die on in my marriage because my doctor has recommended that I stay on BCPs (related to reduction of ovarian cancer risk) between and after kids, and I'm fine with that. That mostly obviates the need for a V. But if any of those factors weren't involved? Nope, nope, nope.
He'd be looking at a closed up shop until he was willing to buck up a bit.
Post by penguingrrl on Jul 31, 2015 9:32:01 GMT -5
I would probably have a tubal in those circumstances. But I would be really upset if my H had been opposed to having a V after I had carried and birthed three children. We had agreed that if my third was a repeat C section instead of a VBAC we were going to have a tubal during the surgery, but otherwise he was going to have a V. I had a VBAC and he scheduled his V immediately. Our feelings on the matter were that I shouldn't have to have an extra surgery in addition to giving birth, especially since a tubal is so much more invasive than a V. But if I were having surgery anyway there was no reason for him to have a separate surgery.
I'd do the Mirena I think. I have loved not having periods with mine. And to those saying your H should have the vasectomy, that may be true, but it only solves half of your problem anyways (birth control, but not periods).
Post by tommygirl03 on Jul 31, 2015 10:16:30 GMT -5
Susie - I'd be far more pisses about his no V stance if I didn't have to go in anyway. He has a thing about unnecessary medical procedures. Honestly, he would probably do condoms if needed. I also agree that at least with the first Mirena, I would have wanted it/done it for the no period factor even if DH did a V.
You probably don't want to do both, but I have a friend who has had a tubal and her periods were really bad so she got the Mirena to stop her periods. Her doc had no problems with it and she is very happy.
I honestly can't wrap my head around this being a matter of fact thing, assuming no actual medical issue.
In order to have families of a certain size, women get pregnant, give up control of their bodies for a long period of time (since I'm in it now it feels very long), including carrying, birthing, for some also nursing the child. It's not much of an equal partnership if men aren't willing to take a turn at participating in, you know, what it takes to have a family of a certain size.
I don't foresee this being a hill to die on in my marriage because my doctor has recommended that I stay on BCPs (related to reduction of ovarian cancer risk) between and after kids, and I'm fine with that. That mostly obviates the need for a V. But if any of those factors weren't involved? Nope, nope, nope.
He'd be looking at a closed up shop until he was willing to buck up a bit.
DH and I just had this conversation in the car. We have two guy friends who are in the refusal camp and one set of friends who have been wanting to get pregnant (don't know how much they 'tried' or if they have ever done any intervention - probably not because of money). They're both around 40 and think they can't have another kid and don't sound like they plan to do anything. I see a surprise baby at 45 when their son is 13.
You probably don't want to do both, but I have a friend who has had a tubal and her periods were really bad so she got the Mirena to stop her periods. Her doc had no problems with it and she is very happy.
this is what I would do
I plan on keeping my Mirena even after h has his repeat v
Post by turtlegirl on Jul 31, 2015 15:22:01 GMT -5
I've heard post tubal periods can be pretty bad, so I'd probably do the Mirena again.
My DH is also one who refuses to get a V. I honestly don't think it's a big deal. It's his body and if he was super insistent about me getting some surgical procedure done that I wasn't comfortable with then I wouldn't be happy with him.
Because of your history of bad periods, I would opt for the mirena. I had my mirena inserted 3 months after my cs and have not any issues so far. Granted we've not tried to take it out yet, but I had an us recently and all appeared ok. Hopefully your first experience was just a fluke.
I have no idea how this works. But can't you get a hysterectomy? That fixes both issues right?
Except you go immediately into forced menopause, iirc. Sounds peachy.
I don't know if/when this would even be an option, but I had a partial hysterectomy this time due to incontrollable bleeding. My uterus is gone but ovaries remain so no need for hormone therapy and no periods
Susie - I'd be far more pisses about his no V stance if I didn't have to go in anyway. He has a thing about unnecessary medical procedures. Honestly, he would probably do condoms if needed. I also agree that at least with the first Mirena, I would have wanted it/done it for the no period factor even if DH did a V.
Except that a tubal ligation is a substantially more invasive "unnecessary medical procedure". Even if you're having a surgery for the mirena.
The risks of complication for a tubal are substantially higher than a V.