If you named your LO after a family member who was still living, how did you tell that person?
I am 90% sure I have convinced DH to use my uncles name as DS2's middle name and I'm not sure how to tell him. Surely I am displacing other anxiety and overthinking this because when we decided on DS1's name we just called FIL and DH said "DS's middle name will be your first name because I love & respect you so much".
I haven't but SIL just did. She waited until the baby was born and FIL was holding him to announce the middle name (which is a shorter version of FILs middle name)
Both middle names are family names: my sister and my mom. My sister found out when dd1 was born and we called to tell them. My mom knew before dd2 was born because it was a good bargaining chip to get her off my back about her name . So, we didn't do anything special, but it was still special to them.
My dad came in to my delivery room to see/hold the baby and I said "it's a boy, his name is [first name] [dad's name]." He got pretty emotional and I was sobbing. It was a lovely moment. We didn't share names ahead of time and we were team green so it was a pretty big surprise for him.
The girls are both named after living family members, my mom and sister. We just told them. But I'm super close with them and they pretty much knew all along if that makes sense. J is named after several deceased family members and my family always knew we would use family names for the kids.
DD is named after my grandmother and I have always told her when I had a girl she would be named Charlotte. Once we found out we were having a girl I called my gramma and said we were officially naming the baby Charlotte and she was touched. I'm sure there are fun ways to tell them but I was just so excited I couldn't wait to do anything!
DS is named after a dear cousin who is like a brother to H.
We were team green and didn't want the family drama so waited until he was born to tell him. He was extremely touched.
This time I think we are giving DS2 a name of another cousin although it's just a coincidence so we won't mention it - I like the name and DH's family is huge. If DS2's middle name ends up being my dad's name (not my favorite but I kind of want to do it symbolically) then I will tell him at birth. Because I can't make up my mind if that's what I want.
Post by turtlegirl on Jul 31, 2015 10:13:10 GMT -5
We didn't decide officially on DS1's name until a few hours before he was born. So when everyone came to see him in the hospital DH just showed his dad the birth certificate paperwork and pointed out the middle name. FIL got a little teary and just said, "wow!"
DS1's first name is DH's name and middle name is FIL's first name.
DD's middle name will be Ruth, which is a family name on both sides (my middle name, my grandma's first name and DH's grandma's first name). I know my mom really appreciates it because her mom died when she was 16 and she used the name for my middle name. DH's grandma just seems flattered and has made some comments like, "you don't need to name her after me." She's 95.
DH has always planned on naming a son after his dad and we had all talked about it long before I was even pregnant so it wasn't really a surprise when we told him after we found out DS1 was a boy. DS2 is named after my deceased grandfather and we told my step grandmother after he was born. He was born on her birthday so it was a really good day for her.
Annabelle's middle name is after my dad (Rae for Raymond). We told him when he was holding her after she was born. It was a small "You know why we chose her middle name, right?" and he got a bit teary. It was a really special moment.
This sounds oh so sweet! I would love to tell him in person but we only see each other once a year or so (he lives on the East Coast & travels a lot for work) and I expect he wouldn't see DS2 until he is about 6 months old.
I think I'll just send him a nice handwritten letter (we talk mostly via email) thanking him for being such a great father figure to me* and explaining why we picked the middle name. This man is wonderful you guys. Like so wonderful DH considers him his father in law and flew to TX to go to daddy daughter stuff with me when I was a kid.
*I was raised by 2 moms and my bio dad is a grade A asshole
Post by shamrockshake on Jul 31, 2015 10:18:02 GMT -5
my kids middle names are all in honor of people, DD2, 3 and 4s are all alive- dd3 was named for 4 people technically, three of them are alive. We didn't tell them in any way differently- just announced the names when they were born
My niece's middle name is also my first name (legal, Lori is a NN), my mom's middle name, and my grandma's middle name. Once my sister and BIL decided on a name my sister just asked if I minded if they used the name (since my hypothetical future girl name had the same MN). Which I didn't.
This baby's first name is going to be my grandfather's middle name. We will just tell him on the phone.
Her middle name will be DH's deceased grandmother's name. We will tell DH's over the phone.
I'm sure all of our family members will be pleasantly surprised with her name since we are keeping it a secret until she's born. Only from family though - our friends all know her name!
I had a whole post about this on GotP. Hobbes is going to be named after my mom and my MIL's mom (also MIL's middle name). My mom and MIL are still living, although there is a possibility my mom may not still be with us by Hobbes' birth.
For my mom, we sent her get well flowers in the hospital that included a standard get well message and "looking forward to meeting you on the outside in November! Love, Hobbes (Miss ___ ____ ____)"
Calvin just told MIL what the name is on the phone, around the same time we shared that she was a girl.
J's middle name is my dads first name. He like to joke at the time it was a bad omen. But we did it out of honor. We wanted J to have that bond with his grandpa and my dad was very honored. Unfortunately he passed away so it makes me feel 100x better than he does share a name.
My husband told him drunkenly one night when we were all on a cruise together. Ha! It was his 30th birthday and he was feeling so giddy. We had tossed around the idea, but hadn't decided for sure yet. Well after that, it was decided, because you can't go back from it.
I forget when we told my Dad that we wanted to use his name for DS middle name.
Post by pinkdutchtulips on Jul 31, 2015 11:22:34 GMT -5
DD is named after xh's mom who's deceased and my mom who's still living. We just told her ' mom we're naming the baby after the grandmothers' she was honored dd's middle name also happens to be my middle name too.
DD's middle name is DH's grandma 's maiden name. We just announced the name to MIL and she told grandma. I guess I'm confused why you're nervous about it
My oldest daughter was born on my grandmothers 90th bday so we named her after her. We didn't know if it was s boy or girl so it seemed like it was meant to be that they were born 90 years apart and she was a girl.
We told her when we called to tell her the baby was born.
DD's middle name is DH's grandma 's maiden name. We just announced the name to MIL and she told grandma. I guess I'm confused why you're nervous about it
I'm confused too. I've been generally anxious lately so I'm pretty sure that's what this vs the actual situation. Does that make sense?
Both my kids middle names are family names. We didn't do anything extra to announce it - we didn't tell anyone until the baby was born and our families immediately knew why we chose the middle names
Post by badtzmaru22 on Jul 31, 2015 12:17:40 GMT -5
DD has the same middle name as me, and it's my mom's first name. Coincidentally, it's also SIL's middle name. I just always knew if I had a girl, I'd give her that middle name, so it was never really a discussion or a big production.
Jr is changing his middle name to my dad's name when we finalize the adoption. I would have loved to tell my dad in person but we won't see him until September so I told him over the phone.