I'm a pretty extreme introvert and H is a moderate extrovert.
I've often said that he's the one person that doesn't push my introvert buttons, but I think it's because we spend so much passive time together. He's there but not interacting and draining my energy.
He will talk some while I'm reading or watching TV and that can annoy me. I've actually adapted to avoid reading when he's doing something that doesn't require his attention/concentration, like I never read when we're in the car. Way back in college I would try to read on road trips, and he would just talk non-stop (he was driving commercially at the time, so having someone to talk to was a huge novelty), so I started bringing crosswords so I wouldn't be annoyed at being interrupted.
He's pretty good about reading my cues though, like he can tell when I'm in my zone and he'll pipe in and get the look and he has to get whatever it is off his chest, but he'll promise it's the last interruption.
He's also really good at policing the kids when I'm on edge, which is great 'cause Jesus if anyone pushes my introvert buttons it's them, and also I tend to just go into my introvert bat cave and shut off until I blow up.
One thing I wish my family would get is that me, the introvert, is ok with H going out more than me. I actually love the time to myself. I just like going out less. But, when I get that urge, H is totally onboard with me getting my social time too. My sister and mom are baffled that I "allow" him to go places. He is a person, not a dog. w
If you're an introvert, married to an extrovert, what's that's like for you? I have to constantly remind him to give me my space, quiet, and own world to think in.
Do you need your spouse to leave you alone, or just not demand your attention? Yes, and I have to constantly remind him of this.
Does your spouse's talking and need for your attention start to bother you sometimes? Yes and I let him know daily.
Do you find it rude when someone talks to you while you're doing something like reading? Absolutely. What makes him think that whatever he feels the need to tell me is more important than what I'm engaged in?
Of course it's annoying for H (or anyone) to interrupt me while I'm reading! I'm not sure why this is a question.
There are mitigating factors though. If there is something that really needs to be discussed I don't mind, if he has something actually interesting to say I don't mind, if he wants to tell me what he's reading about on Flyer Talk I want to strangle him.
Even though I'm the introvert and he's the extrovert he's actually way more touchy about being interrupted while reading a book. Unfortunately he only reads about 5 books a year and I average 75 so I'm still quantifiable more annoyed.
And don't be too hard on yourself. It's tough for introverts and extroverts to "see" how the other sees the world. You have a ton of introverts on GBCN who see your H's way as obvious, but I'm sure there are extroverts who would see your side too. This is why it's good to try to understand each other.