@when you can't stand the parents of kids' friends

[summer]

My H was amazing today and took one for the team. DD is in summer camp with a bunch of people we don't know. She befriended a girl, so I agreed to meet their family at a park this weekend so they could play.

Even though we just met these people, I picked up a vibe and didn't want to spend the afternoon with them so I sent in the extroverted H. He came back and said they were straight up cray and spent two hours spurting woo theories on everything from allergies to mental health. Then they asked if DD could sleepover tonight. We JUST met them 2 days ago and our kids just met on Monday, and you're crazy? So hell no. Not ever.

Kids can put you in contact with all kinds, can't they?

[ECB]

A friend and I were just talking about sleepovers the other day. Yea, we're only allowing that with kids whose parents we KNOW and like and trust. Absolutely not people we just met, much less who we've determined to be cray!

[penguingrrl]

Discussing sleepovers when you have barely met? What? That's insane!

My girls are having their first sleepover tonight. They have two good friends (sisters) who live across the street. Their parents had plans tonight and their sitter bailed, so both are staying over and I'm sure it's just the start of a lot of sleepovers. But we've known them for 3 years and I'm good friends with the mom, so that seems like a more standard way of having these things evolve!

[IIOY]

One of DD's friends has a mom who is a just a monster personality and is the type who would talk about a sleepover after only two days.  She sucks all the air out of any room.  My introverted ass cannot handle her at all, and I'm simply exhausted after any interaction I have with her.  I don't think she's a bad person; she's just too much and I avoid her at all costs.

ETA: I do think sleepovers are much scarier in theory.  Once we got over the "first time" hump, they were far less terrifying.  However, in both cases my kids slept over at their BFFs' homes, not kids they just met.

[eclaires]

There is nothing worse than crazy parents. Both my H and I are pretty introverted. And we both really dislike a lot of people. I own that we are kind of judgmental assholes who have low tolerance.

That part of having kids (exposure and interaction to so many people) is probably the hardest thing for us. Some people are just so fucking dumb. We've also been lucky and met a lot of great people, but for every great person, there are like 5 morons.

MH also has zero tolerance for kids' bad behavior. So he has really high standards and writes a lot of people off because of it. He thinks I am not hard enough on our kids so I mostly roll my eyes at his opinions on people's parenting. Sometimes he's right, other times he's showing his 50 hours a week away from small children.

[MrsAxilla]

I cannot STAND one of Ben's friend's mom. She's socially awkward, inappropriate and big . I feel bad because Ben really likes her kid, but I always make excuses why they can't have a play date.

[bears]

Aug 1, 2015 19:00:06 GMT -5 eclaires said:

There is nothing worse than crazy parents. Both my H and I are pretty introverted. And we both really dislike a lot of people. I own that we are kind of judgmental assholes who have low tolerance.

That part of having kids (exposure and interaction to so many people) is probably the hardest thing for us. Some people are just so fucking dumb. We've also been lucky and met a lot of great people, but for every great person, there are like 5 morons.

MH also has zero tolerance for kids' bad behavior. So he has really high standards and writes a lot of people off because of it. He thinks I am not hard enough on our kids so I mostly roll my eyes at his opinions on people's parenting. Sometimes he's right, other times he's showing his 50 hours a week away from small children.

I keep on telling MH that we're assholes and that's why we don't get along with many other parents.

We started being friendly with a couple who has kids who are the same age as ours.  We ate dinner at their house a few weeks ago.  MH met the dad and daughter for a playdate at the pool and they didn't wash their hands after using the bathroom.  I just... /.  Guess we'll eat at our house next time.

[bears]

Aug 1, 2015 19:55:00 GMT -5 @dontcallmeshirley1 said:

So, sleepovers are apparently something that have changed since my childhood. I slept over at plenty of my friend's houses in middle and high school without my mother having met their parents or been in their houses. I'm not saying I will necessarily be so breezy, but it's interesting to think about that.

Now if the parents are cray, that's something else altogether.

I think most people here are talking about elementary-aged kids/

[MrsAxilla]

Aug 1, 2015 19:55:26 GMT -5 @dontcallmeshirley1 said:

Aug 1, 2015 19:44:07 GMT -5 MrsAxilla said:

I cannot STAND one of Ben's friend's mom. She's socially awkward, inappropriate and big . I feel bad because Ben really likes her kid, but I always make excuses why they can't have a play date.

Big...? 

Haha.  A big OVERSHARER.  Not sure what happened there.  My iPad kept trying to autocorrect and I guess it gave up.  

[ringstrue]

I don't get why sleepovers have to be so frequent? I mean I thought the hosting parent pretty much feels like dying the day after a kids sleepover - why would you want that feeling to occur any more often than you absolutely need to? Or did I just happen to have the worst friends ever when it came to sleepovers?

I think I can count on one hand the # of non-birthday sleepovers I participated in growing up. Totally don't feel deprived of anything!

[summer]

The thing is I don't mind sleepovers at all. We've done it a couple of times at our house, and other's have had DD. But so soon? No.

Now check it:
My H's favorite part of the conversation was when the other father said that things that we think are there, are not really there because perception is crazy. Like, I may see that bottle on the table, and that could cause an argument when you claim not to see it because maybe you really don't. He then said that when Columbus arrived in Colombia, he was confused why more Indians (his word) didn’t run over to the shore to see the boat. "Scientists" apparently say it was because since the natives had never seen a boat like his, that their eyes COULDN'T see it, therefore they didn't know Columbus had arrived.

Also, at their house (which my child will NEVER set foot in) they have a machine that vibrates on your arm that will get rid of food allergies. The more you know.

That is Grade A cray.

[elleblue]

Aug 1, 2015 23:57:09 GMT -5 summer said:

Also, at their house (which my child will NEVER set foot in) they have a machine that vibrates on your arm that will get rid of food allergies. The more you know.

That is Grade A cray.

Wonder what one of these "cures"? 

[summer]

This was the movie they were telling us to watch: en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/What_the_Bleep_Do_We_Know!%3F