Every 3rd night, plus a few extra shifts now and then, so let's go with 130. But H is home with DS alone most week days, so it's a fairly even parenting split. And probably 80% of the time DS and I hang out and eat dinner with my parents or ILs until close to bed time, so I make it easy on myself
Also, it's generally 1 or 2 nights at a time. I couldn't hang with you ladies who do it for weeks on end!
Post by Queen Mamadala on Aug 2, 2015 20:00:04 GMT -5
In the past year, 0. Before Feb '14, 5.5+ years total from the time my eldest was born until I remarried. That includes five deployments, exH's MOS school, pre-deployment training, geobachelor status, and post-separation.
Post by DarcyLongfellow on Aug 2, 2015 20:04:01 GMT -5
0.
He'll be going on his brother's bachelor party weekend at some point in the next 9 months or so. I'm embarrassingly excited to spend a couple evenings eating wine and cheese and crackers for dinner in front of bad TV after putting the kids to bed early :-)
I realize I'm insanely lucky to have it be so rare that I'm excited about it instead of dreading it.
I feel conflicted about this poll because I am easily solo parenting most weeknights while DS is awake but DH comes home to sleep. I acknowledge that it's not the same as being the only adult in the house at all but DS doesn't wake up anymore MOTN and even when he did I was mostly nursing so it was up to me anyway.
However to be consistent with this poll I had to put 2 because that was the total # of nights DH had OOT work trips.
Post by Stingyshark on Aug 2, 2015 20:34:27 GMT -5
I'm guessing 21-30, but probably more. DH has gone out of town for many weeks, and then sometimes he's gone before she wakes up in the morning and doesn't get home until after she goes to bed - i count that as a solo parenting day.
i voted zero but then remembered that i took the baby with me to my parent's house on vacation earlier this summer. we were there for three weeks, DH joined us for the last two weeks. so 7 is my answer now.
ETA: now i read more carefully and saw that because i was with my parents that the week doesn't count. will fix my answer.
My husband works late often so it's not unusual for us to be out of the house before he wakes up and kids to be in bed before he gets home. I'd say that happens 2-3 times a week.
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
Poor DH is going to get tons of it in the next month. I'll be away 7 days for work and 3 for a personal trip. I feel bad about that.
I forgot I am going to take DS to my mom's by myself in 2 weeks. We'll only be gone about 24 hours and my mom will be there but she's babysitting my 18 month old nephew most of that time so she'll have her hands full.
Between DH being a consultant and DD and I traveling a ton there are a lot of solo parenting days and nights. But when he's home DH is the most helpful, amazing partner I could ask for.
Very rarely. He has been asked if he wanted to do some extra work things out of town but since we've had kids, he rarely does them anymore because I don't want to be alone with the kids if we don't need him to go.
Never. Is it sad that I'm not sure I could hack it? I mean, obviously I'd make it work, but it scares me. Honestly, since we weaned at 18 months, my H does the whole bedtime routine with very little assistance from me. He's so much more patient than I am...