If his mother is paying his rent and utilities, how is it much different then him going away for college and living off campus? My own 18/19 year old cousin is living with his girlfriend off campus with a part time job and making his own stupid mistakes.
Maybe this is my own absentee parents talking, idk.
Lol. And maybe this is my strict parents talking. My parents would NEVER let me live on my own that young. Yes, I went away to college, but I had to live in the dorms the first 3 years where there were rules, oversight, etc.
And, I also think I was more mature then as he is now. I was terrified of screwing up and of my parents. So, all in all, I was a really good kid. I feel like I really was taught right from wrong from a really young age. My nephew has no father and a half of a mother. I'm terrified that without a good adult presence, he will make some really bad choices. Plus, I just feel sorry for him. I can't imagine feeling like my father never wanted me and the second I graduated from high school, my mother being all "peace out!"
My parents were strict, but also very hands off. I lived at home through most of my schooling (with a curfew if I wasn't working!) and eventually with H's family until I graduated and found a job. So who am I to talk?
The "that poor kid" stuff is funny to me though. He'll make mistakes. He'll sink or swim. Just like we all did.
You're good to give him guidance. And food. Having a positive roll model around is priceless.
I'm feeling pretty awesome. Today I got up went to Yoga, came home showered and road my bike to work. It only took 30 minutes. I think I might do it more often. I just calculated that I rode 5 miles. It takes me 15 minutes to drive it.
bullygirl979 I'm sorry about your nephew. I hope he can keep it all together. I know someone who treated there kid very similar and it always made me feel so sad for him.
I think 18 is way too young to be living on his own full time. especially an 18 year old who hasn't made good choices, and has a 16 year old gf living with him. He is a legal adult and can get into big trouble with a 16 year old.
Having 3 kids over 20 NONE of them could live on their own wisely. At 23 my oldest is doing a great job at it, but no way at 18.
The 3 day boil water order finally ended last night. People in this city were going to lose their shit if they couldn't get their Starbucks for another day. They had a hard time getting enough water at the jail. Crazy stuff.
I'm frantically cleansing and packing for our trip. Lots of TV for the kids this week, lol.
I moved out and into an apartment with my future H at 20 years 5 months. I'm sure my parents were a little , but I've always been really responsible. I look back now and think OMG I was such a BABY. I was crazy moving into an apartment with my 6'2 200lb 21 year old boyfriend. But it worked for us. He's my penguin on this ice sheet.
I was living in the dorms at 17 but that was not alone. Living independently is hard and living without a roommate can be hard too. I think it's great that you're helping him out bullygirl979. It's not like his mom made sure he was ready to go and taught him how to live independently, from the sound of things.
My random is that the guy I met in NYC wants to come visit me in October. I'm so thoroughly confused as to what this is about/what he wants. I'm going to have to ask, but right now I'm in the blinking "he actually wants to fly across the country to see me?" stage.
My random is that the guy I met in NYC wants to come visit me in October. I'm so thoroughly confused as to what this is about/what he wants. I'm going to have to ask, but right now I'm in the blinking "he actually wants to fly across the country to see me?" stage.
Imma need more details about this guy. Please and thank you
I moved out and into an apartment with my future H at 20 years 5 months. I'm sure my parents were a little , but I've always been really responsible. I look back now and think OMG I was such a BABY. I was crazy moving into an apartment with my 6'2 200lb 21 year old boyfriend. But it worked for us. He's my penguin on this ice sheet.
Lol. This is how I feel when I think about getting married at 25. I barely knew HOW to be an adult, let alone make the very adult decision of who I wanted to be married to for the rest of my life.
My random is that the guy I met in NYC wants to come visit me in October. I'm so thoroughly confused as to what this is about/what he wants. I'm going to have to ask, but right now I'm in the blinking "he actually wants to fly across the country to see me?" stage.
My random is that the guy I met in NYC wants to come visit me in October. I'm so thoroughly confused as to what this is about/what he wants. I'm going to have to ask, but right now I'm in the blinking "he actually wants to fly across the country to see me?" stage.
Imma need more details about this guy. Please and thank you Â
He works in hospitality, he's a ginger, he used to live here but moved away for work, he's originally from Georgia so he has a little bit of an accent at times. When we went to lunch the place had just a single restroom. He excused himself to it and I said I'd go next, so when he came back he told me he'd put the seat down for me. In a public restroom. Random sweet gesture. If you want to see what he looks like, he's one of my newest FB friends.
My random is that the guy I met in NYC wants to come visit me in October. I'm so thoroughly confused as to what this is about/what he wants. I'm going to have to ask, but right now I'm in the blinking "he actually wants to fly across the country to see me?" stage.
hmmmmm *-)
That's how I feel right now! I don't even know what to say besides WTF is this about?
Imma need more details about this guy. Please and thank you
He works in hospitality, he's a ginger, he used to live here but moved away for work, he's originally from Georgia so he has a little bit of an accent at times. When we went to lunch the place had just a single restroom. He excused himself to it and I said I'd go next, so when he came back he told me he'd put the seat down for me. In a public restroom. Random sweet gesture. If you want to see what he looks like, he's one of my newest FB friends.
Okay. Would he be flying out to just visit you? Or would it be in addition to business?
He works in hospitality, he's a ginger, he used to live here but moved away for work, he's originally from Georgia so he has a little bit of an accent at times. When we went to lunch the place had just a single restroom. He excused himself to it and I said I'd go next, so when he came back he told me he'd put the seat down for me. In a public restroom. Random sweet gesture. If you want to see what he looks like, he's one of my newest FB friends.
Okay. Would he be flying out to just visit you? Or would it be in addition to business?
I'm trying to figure out if it would be to visit friends and me in addition or if he wants to fly here just to see me. In which case I'm going to freak out and run away.
Okay. Would he be flying out to just visit you? Or would it be in addition to business?
I'm trying to figure out if it would be to visit friends and me in addition or if he wants to fly here just to see me. In which case I'm going to freak out and run away.
I get it. I'd freak out too if it was just to come visit me. After one date? Too soon.
Answer received: he misses it here and has been wanting to come visit again. He'd like to also see me while he's here, but that's not the sole purpose of the trip. Phew.
Work has been CRAZY today. We are trying to get out of spreadsheet hell but it isn't working. We have a new union agreement and they want all the information from us, ever. And have yet to eat anything today. I'm surprised I'm not shaking yet.
tiramisu, I'm glad he's not totally nuts and is going there for pleasure, as well as seeing you (also pleasure....bumbumbummmmmmm)
Ok I decided to go out to lunch today, and there are a couple of guys talking at the table across from me. One of them has a thick British accent a la Michael Caine. It's mesmerizing.
Answer received: he misses it here and has been wanting to come visit again. He'd like to also see me while he's here, but that's not the sole purpose of the trip. Phew.
Post by udscoobychick on Aug 12, 2015 15:23:07 GMT -5
SS lives in an apartment with roommates at 19, but he's only an hour away from his mom. And his mom is crazy overprotective and worries about EVERYTHING, and he was starting to pick up her irrational fears, so it's good for him to be on his own. I guess each kid is different.
My boss sent out an email at the beginning of last week giving his two weeks' notice. So his boss is in town to supervise at the moment, and the person who will be the interim manager arrives tomorrow (I work at a regional office). We are going to be under quite the microscope, since someone has apparently been spreading rumors at HQ that our office is a bit, uh, cavalier about work hours. The managers are in for a shock when they see the sign-in and sign-out times on the office door, since you'd be hard-pressed to find someone in my office who "only" puts in 40 hours per week!