Post by charlielove on Aug 26, 2015 13:29:23 GMT -5
I have an overall anxiety about safety. lol But in general, my town is quite safe, and the "bad" stuff happens mostly in certain areas (mostly gang related). I still worry. We also live about 25 minutes away from one of the most dangerous cities in the country, and I have to be in the most dangerous area of that city somewhat often for work.
Post by rainbowchip on Aug 26, 2015 13:30:55 GMT -5
There seems to be more violence happening here but it's mostly gang related. (you know the fearful Central Wi gangs) I'm more worried about the mass shootings, tornadoes, and the zombie apocalypse.
I've been thinking about this lately, and it always becomes sharper in my mind whenever I hear about some shooting tragedy because you know we're never short of that here right.
So I looked it up and apparently the US is 101st safest country in the world, which is, well, terrible.
I lamented to my H about my fear of terrorism attacks and /or mass shootings that could affect me or my loved ones. He thinks I am being irrational as we live in a very safe area of the USA. It's true, but apparently MA is the 20th most dangerous state and my city is something like 50th most dangerous of of 70 so not terrible but not super by any means.
so we live in a mid-dangerous area, in a country that is one of the more dangerous in the world. Yet I generally "feel" safe. I wonder how much perceived safety matters though.
Do you "feel" safe in your life?
. So I was curious about rankings and googled, and I keep finding stats that say MA is one of the safest states. Top 5 usually. I'm interested in what statistics they are looking out to make their determinations - where did you find the 20th thing?
I feel really safe. Maybe I deceive myself? I live in a little town out in farm country. I'm more anxious about hitting a deer in my car than anything else.
I've been thinking about this lately, and it always becomes sharper in my mind whenever I hear about some shooting tragedy because you know we're never short of that here right.
So I looked it up and apparently the US is 101st safest country in the world, which is, well, terrible.
I lamented to my H about my fear of terrorism attacks and /or mass shootings that could affect me or my loved ones. He thinks I am being irrational as we live in a very safe area of the USA. It's true, but apparently MA is the 20th most dangerous state and my city is something like 50th most dangerous of of 70 so not terrible but not super by any means.
so we live in a mid-dangerous area, in a country that is one of the more dangerous in the world. Yet I generally "feel" safe. I wonder how much perceived safety matters though.
Do you "feel" safe in your life?
. So I was curious about rankings and googled, and I keep finding stats that say MA is one of the safest states. Top 5 usually. I'm interested in what statistics they are looking out to make their determinations - where did you find the 20th thing?
Post by breezy8407 on Aug 26, 2015 13:37:13 GMT -5
I guess I consider where I live/work safe. I am a worrier though and with H being a teacher, I have a lot of anxiety about school shootings or random violence.
At our last house, our car got broken into and there were break-ins in garages and houses reported often. that kind of stuff doesn't happen as much in the new 'hood, but I wasn't as scared of that as I am of random gun violence now.
I wouldn't if I lived in America. I will never move back.
Where did you live when you lived here?
West Virginia, Louisiana and Kansas.
I feel like an asshole for saying what I said, but it's true. I feel like the door to go back to America has slammed shut forever for me. I couldn't handle living in a society that allows pretty much anyone to carry weapons.
. So I was curious about rankings and googled, and I keep finding stats that say MA is one of the safest states. Top 5 usually. I'm interested in what statistics they are looking out to make their determinations - where did you find the 20th thing?
but I didn't look in other places so it could be wrong!
aha I see the difference! This one just references violent crime - others take things like workplace accidents and access to health insurance into account. So looking at an overall picture of safety MA is actually one of the safest places in the country. Just violent crime and it is lower.
but I didn't look in other places so it could be wrong!
aha I see the difference! This one just references violent crime - others take things like workplace accidents and access to health insurance into account. So looking at an overall picture of safety MA is actually one of the safest places in the country. Just violent crime and it is lower.
I got curious now thinking about my other big fear, car crashes, and I found this-
I live in one of the top five most dangerous states and it seems to have only gotten worse in the 10 years that I have lived here. My H and I comment a lot about how much worse it has gotten. About 7 years I was driving home with two of my sorority sisters and we were chased by a group of loons. When they were arrested they were found with weapons. I have never felt 100% safe since that. There is just no rhyme or reason to what some people do and that is scary.
I don't feel unsafe...I mean we lock our doors to the house and cars. We would probably be fine walking around after dark but we don't. So I don't feel unsafe but we are still cautious.
Post by orriskitten on Aug 26, 2015 14:06:56 GMT -5
I feel safe here, but not really ever in NYC. I took precautions in NYC to be safe (a metal bar that I kept just next to my bed), and locked things a bit extra since we were on the ground floor. I didn't feel safe out with the kids in NY and felt like I was just waiting for something bad to happen. I would never let my kids out of arms reach most places, including playgrounds because I was afraid someone would grab them. It was bad for me.
Here, crime is so low and there are no guns. I can let my kids roam free and worry more that they'll break something than that someone would take one of them.
I fear tourists here a bit more because they don't know the culture. I had people taking pictures of my sleeping baby because I had the stroller outside of the window I was sitting in while I ate (done all the time here, but I get it is a novelty). What made me feel better is that there were a few bums on the corner near the cafe. I trusted them to help if anything which was the most bizarre feeling ever.
Post by orriskitten on Aug 26, 2015 14:08:56 GMT -5
It's an amazingly safe feeling to know if you get into a confrontation with someone that they will never pull a gun. I knew too many people in the states who carried.
It's an amazingly safe feeling to know if you get into a confrontation with someone that they will never pull a gun. I knew too many people in the states who carried.
yes I hate when pro-gun people say "oh if you are crazy you'll find a way to kill people! the gun is just a tool!" and other bullshit
good luck taking down a dozen people with a knife before someone takes you down, you know. Like I know you "can" make a weapon of anything but it's stupid to say guns aren't the problem. They make it too easy, far too easy.
I feel safe here, but not really ever in NYC. I took precautions in NYC to be safe (a metal bar that I kept just next to my bed), and locked things a bit extra since we were on the ground floor. I didn't feel safe out with the kids in NY and felt like I was just waiting for something bad to happen. I would never let my kids out of arms reach most places, including playgrounds because I was afraid someone would grab them. It was bad for me.
Here, crime is so low and there are no guns. I can let my kids roam free and worry more that they'll break something than that someone would take one of them.
I fear tourists here a bit more because they don't know the culture. I had people taking pictures of my sleeping baby because I had the stroller outside of the window I was sitting in while I ate (done all the time here, but I get it is a novelty). What made me feel better is that there were a few bums on the corner near the cafe. I trusted them to help if anything which was the most bizarre feeling ever.
I've never really felt unsafe here. I ran into a lot of weird situations when I worked in downtown Nashville, but never really unsafe. I feel like weird things can happen anywhere. I feel really safe in my suburb.
looks like iceland is the safest country in the world going by the list I found orriskitten !!
Iceland usually tops those kinds of lists. I think the biggest "crime" we have is drunk idiots peeing on houses downtown after going to the bars.
I'll never forget people here telling me we're moving to a "bad" neighborhood. I have some really funny stories from fellow foreigners coming from rough areas of other countries and being warned about our part of town.
Our "bad neighborhood" has affordable housing that has tables on every floor outside the elevator with doilies and vases of flowers. We've had many laughs over that lol.
I feel safe in a "random acts of violence" way. I have more anxiety about where the world is headed in general with war, racism escalating, economic collapse, etc.
I feel safe in general but am terrified of mass shootings. I feel like I'm dealing with some postpartum anxiety too. I keep having terrifying and intrusive thoughts of my children being harmed. This happened to me after may was born too and lasted for maybe a year? Idk I'm more fearful in general after having kids.
I don't like our particular neighborhood lots of gangs drug dealers etc so if the kids and I go to the park we go to the towns over . I guess Sd could be where terrorist attack bc of so many military bases but I also feel safer since I live so close to the marine base
I feel so safe in NYC even though I should probably be afraid of both murderers and terrorists, lol.
I feel more unsafe in less populated areas, which again is probably the opposite of how I should feel. I get real anxiety thinking about living in a house in the suburbs. I wouldn't want a piece of property that was too big, I want neighbors close by.
More people = more safe in my mind
I completely agree. The country scares the shit out of me. More guns and fewer people to hear screams.
I do for the most part but I wished the location of our house was different in the neighborhood. We back up to a semi busy back road and I don't like that. Our city is 30 on the FL list and 4 in its size category.
I feel totally safe here, we live in a smaller city in mid Michigan. I am really not a paranoid person though, we moved here from the Detroit burbs and I felt safe there too. MH thought it was getting too dangerous which is part of the reason we moved but I still really miss it sometimes. I had some coworkers in the burbs who were terrified to go into the city of Detroit even for touristy things but I was never afraid. I don't know maybe I am just naive but my mom grew up in the city of Detroit so its just how I was raised. You just have to be smart about it.
I feel very safe in our neighborhood. Enough that I feel okay letting Abby run down to the neighbor's house and play at the playground unsupervised. However, this is a large townhome complex; not a city block neighborhood.
Post by browneyedhunni85 on Aug 26, 2015 17:33:57 GMT -5
No. I often play scenarios in my head about a home invasion or someone going crazy at work. There's just too much random acts if violence that make me nervous.