BEC or weird?

[PatBenatar]

Definitely rude.

[kandrze1]

Rude for sure.

[ktstorm]

That's really rude and inappropriate to mention in front of L especially!

[CrazyLucky]

What the hell? IF she HAD to say something about speech, how about, "Your DS is talking great! You can have a really good conversation with him."
There is no excuse for talking about a kid's teeth. I feel you on this one because DD sucks her fingers and her teeth really show it. Rude.

[thedahliharpa]

There are better friends to be had.

[charmediamsure]

OMG so rude.

[devotchka]

That's extremely rude/judgmental/what the fuck. My Mom is very direct/straightforward (must be a Russian thing) but even she wouldn't even say things like that. She would be more delicate. If it were me, I would probably not talk to that friend again - but I am a) sensitive and b) don't really like to put up w/ that kind of shit. When I have unpleasant reactions like that I just start cutting people out :/ Maybe it's overkill but it's just me. 

[browneyedhunni85]

I would not be happy about someone being so critical and observant of my child. Not their place at all. What a bitch.

[onehitwonder]

Clearly passive aggressive.

[Regina Philange]

Fuck her.

[Regina Philange]

Just don't answer her texts anymore. That's what I would do.

[rubber pants]

The fuck?

She's being totally rude and judgy.

[jenbelle]

Harsh! I'm sorry, but you just do.not.do.that! Sending hugs!

[claralou]

No. Beyond rude.
I had a "friend" like that. She was bad before kids, but afterward I couldn't take it anymore. I got sick of steeling myself for whatever horrible comment was coming my way. So I just started ignoring her. Passive aggressive? Sure. But being direct with this person would have caused more drama than it was worth. I'm sorry, lolaburns. She sucks hard.

[lolaburns]

Aug 27, 2015 20:44:21 GMT -5 claralou said:

No. Beyond rude.
I had a "friend" like that. She was bad before kids, but afterward I couldn't take it anymore. I got sick of steeling myself for whatever horrible comment was coming my way. So I just started ignoring her. Passive aggressive? Sure. But being direct with this person would have caused more drama than it was worth. I'm sorry, lolaburns. She sucks hard.

Did you ignore her like not answer her communications or just divert with " oh I have plans so sorry ", "I'm busy", " we are sick" until she got the hint?

[Deleted]

I could see the first comment having a thoughtful meaning behind it, just totally wrong word choice. The second one, yeah. There is no way that one was meant to be sweet.

[lolaburns]

The more I think about it, I think the first comment is actually totally awkward and inappropriate. L was discharged from speech almost a year and a half ago. He was discharged because back then his therapist thought him to be at an age appropriate level. Why keep bringing his speech up? I don't understand the incessant comments or paying attention to it at this point. IDK it's just really weird.

Thanks for letting me talk this out guys. It's hard to hear this stuff and not say " Well, surely that wasn't meant that way". You all are right , though and it's just out of hand.

[blane12]

RUDE! Ugh. That's hard, esp since L likes the kids, but I probably would not make an effort to see her again.

[claralou]

Aug 27, 2015 21:01:05 GMT -5 lolaburns said:

Aug 27, 2015 20:44:21 GMT -5 claralou said:

No. Beyond rude.
I had a "friend" like that. She was bad before kids, but afterward I couldn't take it anymore. I got sick of steeling myself for whatever horrible comment was coming my way. So I just started ignoring her. Passive aggressive? Sure. But being direct with this person would have caused more drama than it was worth. I'm sorry, lolaburns. She sucks hard.

Did you ignore her like not answer her communications or just divert with " oh I have plans so sorry ", "I'm busy", " we are sick" until she got the hint?

Divert. I was never blatantly rude, but I stopped making plans and politely declined whenever she'd reach out. We're both part of a larger group of good friends, so we still see each other at events. I didn't want to make it a "thing", but I also didn't want to be alone with her. It's really not my style to be that passive aggressive, but our larger group dynamic made calling her out on it near impossible. Her closest friends are also mine, and she's the type to put them in the middle of any conflict. She's gossipy and uber competitive- which I'm happy to ignore most of the time. But when it comes to my kid, I don't want that toxic shit anywhere near us. I don't know if it's the "right" approach or not, but it was the best I could do. Hugs Lola. I hate this shit.

[Regina Philange]

Aug 28, 2015 7:54:05 GMT -5 claralou said:

Aug 27, 2015 21:01:05 GMT -5 lolaburns said:

Did you ignore her like not answer her communications or just divert with " oh I have plans so sorry ", "I'm busy", " we are sick" until she got the hint?

Divert. I was never blatantly rude, but I stopped making plans and politely declined whenever she'd reach out. We're both part of a larger group of good friends, so we still see each other at events. I didn't want to make it a "thing", but I also didn't want to be alone with her. It's really not my style to be that passive aggressive, but our larger group dynamic made calling her out on it near impossible. Her closest friends are also mine, and she's the type to put them in the middle of any conflict. She's gossipy and uber competitive- which I'm happy to ignore most of the time. But when it comes to my kid, I don't want that toxic shit anywhere near us. I don't know if it's the "right" approach or not, but it was the best I could do. Hugs Lola. I hate this shit.

I have the same situation. Literally word for word. Hugs. I've posted her crap before on here. She is nuts. She used to be a really good friend and now is just an acquaintance because I couldn't deal.

[breezy8407]

Rude and weird. You are right...who notices teeth?

[kdrake8]

So rude! Omg so rude.