Post by estrellita on Aug 27, 2015 18:21:24 GMT -5
Negative unfortunately. I really try to stay positive and try to keep the negative comments to a minimum but that's just not how my brain works. I will say though it's not as bad in person. I tend to keep my thoughts to myself more!
I'm a very positive person. I'm always thinking of the best case scenario, or what good can come out of a bad situation. I hear "wow, that's a really optimistic way to look at it!" at least once a month.
Now, how it's also possible for me to struggle with depression and anxiety, I don't know. But my default is always positive. It drives H nuts, haha.
Positive, for sure... Which definitely doesn't stop me from feeling down, but my gut instinct/reaction to new information is usually a positive one, or at least a "well it's not the worst thing ever, it will end up being fine" type of attitude.
Post by wanderingenough on Aug 27, 2015 19:33:19 GMT -5
I'd say more positive. I can recognize the potential for negative situations, but I try not to worry myself with stuff I can't control. I also rarely "cry over spilled milk," but instead move pretty quickly into solution/problem solving mode.
This one is difficult for me to say for sure. I put on a positive persona, but I definitely have to be actively thinking about my thoughts and actions when I'm being positive. I would say that I'm naturally negative but I'm outwardly positive.
I've tried to be more positive but it doesn't work, I guess you're just wired a certain way?
I definitely think this is true. I tell myself to stay positive and think good thoughts and sometimes it works. I do try to find the silver lining in bad situations. But then more bad things happen and I get cynical and not happy and go back to being negative, haha. I've pretty much always been this way. I do think you can change it to an extent, but I think it's mostly our brains working however they want to work.
I've tried to be more positive but it doesn't work, I guess you're just wired a certain way?
I definitely think a person is wired one way or another, and there's not much they can do to change it. And being more "negative" doesn't mean that someone comes across as a Debbie downer, or seems sad all of the time. Conversely, being "positive" doesn't mean they are full of sunshine and rainbows and exuding happiness either. I think it's just more like how you react initially to new events or information, which may just be in your head and not noticeable to other people.
I'd like to say that I'm more positive, but I think I am negative most of the time. I do have stretches where I am more upbeat, but generally I have a pessimistic outlook.
I used to be positive all the time. At one point at my retail job, I happened to not be feeling very positive that day and the security card paged me to tell me he could see me on the cameras without my smile and to see if I was feeling okay.
Lately though, I'm ms. negativity. I hate it, but really, there's only one thing that will make me change back to a positive outlook.
Dh and I had a little tiff the other day, and he said I was always ruining things with my negativity. I told him I live by: expect the worse and hope for the best. He told me people that think like that are fuck miserable. I let him know that I'm not fuck miserable I'm realistic.
I used to be a very positive person but over the last 3 years of TTC, I have found myself being a lot more negative then ever before, so I would say negative.
I'm very positive. I try to see the best in people and in situations. DH finds this annoying and is definitely the negative one. I think it's annoying that always sees the worst. But I think we probably balance each other well.