I would throw my parts in a tub with some Medela breastmilk soap (seriously, that stuff is amazing), and tell Mr. Smock it was his job to clean all the parts/bottles/etc. every day. I figured if I was pumping, he could do the cleaning.
Same. Fridge for 24 hours, then my H washed. He preferred hand-washing to the dishwasher, though we sometimes used the latter.