weird shower invite UPDATE!

[MrsPotatohead]

is it just me, or is this really weird...

Hello! You are all cordially invited to a baby shower in Friend's honor celebrating her and her baby boy.
We will be having afternoon tea, and there will be some lovely sweet things.
Please bring:
a cheese of some sort
a fruit of some sort
the best piece of parenting advice you've ever heard
the worst piece of parenting advice you've ever heard
Emily is registered at: XXX
Note: A trashcan will not be available, as Amy's home is Zero-Waste. Please bring food items and gifts in reusable wrappings - Emily and the Earth will appreciate it too .

I don't know, I might just be in a bad mood (I am), but this annoys me. CHEESE COMES IN PLASTIC. Should I make the cheese myself? I feel like ignoring all this and then saying I can take the trash home. I'm not saying it's bad to reduce waste, but come on, really? And I don't feel like playing this game and letting her think trash doesn't exist. That's all in addition to bringing food for the party she's hosting. UGH.

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I would not be going....

[MrsPotatohead]

Sept 1, 2015 12:33:23 GMT -5 @aellasbeth said:

I would not be going....

I know, I really want to, but I'm actually close with the pg friend and don't want to skip on account of her tactless friend.

[mkate710]

Oh geez, file this under only in Seattle. Is the earth going to be happier if you throw the cheese wrapper away at your house vs. Amy's? I'm ALL FOR reducing waste whenever possible but it's weird to put that on a party guest.

But I don't care where you live, showers should not be potlucks. Tacky tacky tacky.

[MrsPotatohead]

I also love that "Zero-Waste" is capitalized and we should all be in awe of her coolness

[theoriginalbean]

Hilarious.

[minion]

Can I just chime in and say I was mortified when I found out that the girl throwing one of my showers decided to make it a potluck and did something similar?

I get the lifestyle thing, but I feel like she should provide a garbage bag for this special occasion.

[larzhope]

I would be cracking up at this. and internally annoyed as heck. I would probably comply and just load up a big dinner plate with my cheese (out of the wrapper) and fruit and such. I guess this is a good opportunity to keep in mind that this isn't a reflection on the PG person but perhaps on her friends?

[madDawg228]

I would bring the food in whatever container I wanted. If the host wants a say in how the food is displayed, she should provide ALL the food herself. Bring a trash bag to keep handy if necessary.

I would try to package the gift in a reusable way if possible. Those kind of baby shower gifts are more fun, anyway.

[MrsPotatohead]

Sept 1, 2015 12:48:46 GMT -5 spunbutterfly said:

This would not bother me. The plastic wrap around cheese is reusable fwiw. You can wrap it around the cheese again. XD

I imagine she doesn't want people to bring their cheese and fruit offerings on plastic or paper plates, or aluminium foil trays.

um, but when the cheese in gone what do you do with it? you can't keep wrapping it around new cheese... eventually it has to be thrown away.

And also, if you decide the guests are supposed to bring something to a party you're hosting, the least you could do would be to let them do it how they want and not make (personal decision) demands on them.

[MrsPotatohead]

Sept 1, 2015 12:56:18 GMT -5 larzhope said:

I would be cracking up at this. and internally annoyed as heck. I would probably comply and just load up a big dinner plate with my cheese (out of the wrapper) and fruit and such. I guess this is a good opportunity to keep in mind that this isn't a reflection on the PG person but perhaps on her friends?

which I would have to use plastic wrap to cover for the transportation!

[MrsPotatohead]

Sept 1, 2015 12:57:44 GMT -5 madDawg228 said:

I would bring the food in whatever container I wanted. If the host wants a say in how the food is displayed, she should provide ALL the food herself. Bring a trash bag to keep handy if necessary.

I would try to package the gift in a reusable way if possible. Those kind of baby shower gifts are more fun, anyway.

well, in my mind gift bags are reusable, I reuse them for giving gifts all the time. Maybe she hates bows and wrapping paper? Is she also against recycling?

[larzhope]

Sept 1, 2015 13:01:15 GMT -5 MrsPotatohead said:

Sept 1, 2015 12:56:18 GMT -5 larzhope said:

I would be cracking up at this. and internally annoyed as heck. I would probably comply and just load up a big dinner plate with my cheese (out of the wrapper) and fruit and such. I guess this is a good opportunity to keep in mind that this isn't a reflection on the PG person but perhaps on her friends?

which I would have to use plastic wrap to cover for the transportation!

yeah good call. clearly I hate the environment

[theoriginalbean]

full disclosure: i hate plastic wrap and foil, and i will usually wrap things in fabric or cover bowls with tea towels, instead. store bought cheese is another story, though.

[alias]

Effing weird.

[dana86]

Sept 1, 2015 12:44:45 GMT -5 minion said:

Can I just chime in and say I was mortified when I found out that the girl throwing one of my showers decided to make it a potluck and did something similar?

I get the lifestyle thing, but I feel like she should provide a garbage bag for this special occasion.

This was my baby shower. It was going to be potluck but my other friend and I offered to do the food. I felt horrible asking people to bring food when the host was already having them bring a gift and doing diapers for a door prize. 

[dana86]

What about bringing cheese on a plate that will be the gift? Get one of those fun birthday plates that the baby can use for their birthday each year to make them feel special. two birds, one stone and no waste.

[Deleted]

This is why she's making everyone else bring the cheese - because if she provided the cheese, there would be the waste of the wrapping cheese comes in! (Be it plastic, or waxed paper from a fancy cheese butcher).

[MrsPotatohead]

Sept 1, 2015 16:32:31 GMT -5 @ksta said:

This is why she's making everyone else bring the cheese - because if she provided the cheese, there would be the waste of the wrapping cheese comes in! (Be it plastic, or waxed paper from a fancy cheese butcher).

you're totally right, this is her work-around so she can get cheese!

how else does one buy cheese btw?!

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Sept 1, 2015 16:33:47 GMT -5 MrsPotatohead said:

Sept 1, 2015 16:32:31 GMT -5 @ksta said:

This is why she's making everyone else bring the cheese - because if she provided the cheese, there would be the waste of the wrapping cheese comes in! (Be it plastic, or waxed paper from a fancy cheese butcher).

you're totally right, this is her work-around so she can get cheese!

how else does one buy cheese btw?!

I only know plastic or butcher coated papers (that still aren't compostable)!!
What a sneaky holier than thou beeyotch.

[ilovebed]

I actually don't mind the pot luck thing...although fruit and cheese is really not that expensive so I have a hard time believing that the friends throwing this party can't afford to make a fruit and cheese tray....which would actually create less waste than several individually wrapped/packaged fruits or cheeses.

The Zero Waste direction to guests is super annoying. Only in Seattle.

[MrsPotatohead]

Sept 1, 2015 17:50:14 GMT -5 @lauralynne said:

Oh - and the potluck part is weird too it let me add this: we went to a birthday party this spring that was similarly worded "bring a side dish" or something like that and I totally rolled my eyes at it and showed up empty handed. Well, I left effing starving because the food was all vegan/gluten free/dietary needs stuff. Sooooo...if it says bring food, there might be a really really good reason!! She might eat non-food food!!

L.O.L. you're totally right, I should be prepared

[MrsPotatohead]

Sept 1, 2015 18:16:48 GMT -5 ilovebed said:

I actually don't mind the pot luck thing...although fruit and cheese is really not that expensive so I have a hard time believing that the friends throwing this party can't afford to make a fruit and cheese tray....which would actually create less waste than several individually wrapped/packaged fruits or cheeses.

The Zero Waste direction to guests is super annoying. Only in Seattle.

I know, I could probably get over the potluck thing if it wasn't for the other bit (and the fact that yes, if they just did it themselves it would probably be less wasteful). I still want to know how these people buy cheese! Will there be toilet paper?! What if I need a bandaid?!

[MrsPotatohead]

Sept 1, 2015 17:43:12 GMT -5 @lauralynne said:

Ok. So I'm totally fine with someone else being zero waste. But don't shove that shit down my throat. I'd send her a gift card to Walmart because I'm a passive aggressive bitch.




And I've had a bad day. LOL

that IS something I would send to someone I hate

[dana86]

Sept 1, 2015 16:33:47 GMT -5 MrsPotatohead said:

Sept 1, 2015 16:32:31 GMT -5 @ksta said:

This is why she's making everyone else bring the cheese - because if she provided the cheese, there would be the waste of the wrapping cheese comes in! (Be it plastic, or waxed paper from a fancy cheese butcher).

you're totally right, this is her work-around so she can get cheese!

how else does one buy cheese btw?!

pshhhh in the spray can, duuhh! lol 

[fiddles]

Sept 1, 2015 20:10:26 GMT -5 dana86 said:

Sept 1, 2015 16:33:47 GMT -5 MrsPotatohead said:

you're totally right, this is her work-around so she can get cheese!

how else does one buy cheese btw?!

pshhhh in the spray can, duuhh! lol 

J just bought some of this the other day.

I'd totally bring spray cheese

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[minion]

Sept 1, 2015 14:40:44 GMT -5 dana86 said:

Sept 1, 2015 12:44:45 GMT -5 minion said:

Can I just chime in and say I was mortified when I found out that the girl throwing one of my showers decided to make it a potluck and did something similar?

I get the lifestyle thing, but I feel like she should provide a garbage bag for this special occasion.

This was my baby shower. It was going to be potluck but my other friend and I offered to do the food. I felt horrible asking people to bring food when the host was already having them bring a gift and doing diapers for a door prize. 

This was exactly how the girl had planned it, she was going to provide mini cupcakes and drinks. I tried to step in as well, my pastor's wife ended up taking over the food portion.

[marina007]

I don't understand. How can a home be zero waste? Cannot compute.

I'm very much In favor of reducing waste, choosing reusable options as much as possible, etc, but ZERO waste?

Surely at some point she has to buy something that is prepackaged - like Tylenol or CHEESE or baby supplies?

[miniroller]

Sept 1, 2015 18:37:45 GMT -5 MrsPotatohead said:

Sept 1, 2015 18:16:48 GMT -5 ilovebed said:

I actually don't mind the pot luck thing...although fruit and cheese is really not that expensive so I have a hard time believing that the friends throwing this party can't afford to make a fruit and cheese tray....which would actually create less waste than several individually wrapped/packaged fruits or cheeses.

The Zero Waste direction to guests is super annoying. Only in Seattle.

I know, I could probably get over the potluck thing if it wasn't for the other bit (and the fact that yes, if they just did it themselves it would probably be less wasteful). I still want to know how these people buy cheese! Will there be toilet paper?! What if I need a bandaid?!

What if there's a FAMILY CLOTH?!?
(instead of toilet paper)

[MrsPotatohead]

Sept 2, 2015 10:45:54 GMT -5 marina007 said:

I don't understand. How can a home be zero waste? Cannot compute.

I'm very much In favor of reducing waste, choosing reusable options as much as possible, etc, but ZERO waste?

Surely at some point she has to buy something that is prepackaged - like Tylenol or CHEESE or baby supplies?

Exactly, it doesn't make sense to me either. I mean, what if her Diva cup broke or she needed a bandaid. I just can't imagine that they NEVER produce waste. It feels so braggy.