I'm not sure where you live, but for an "extra" $200/week, he might be able to rent a bachelor apartment or at least a room from someone that is much closer to his job than your house. Or, you know, just stay at a hotel 2-3 nights per week. He has lots of options. Personally, I would NOT trade off that much of a commute for an extra $200/week, but that's his business.
I'm not sure where you live, but for an "extra" $200/week, he might be able to rent a bachelor apartment or at least a room from someone that is much closer to his job than your house. Or, you know, just stay at a hotel 2-3 nights per week. He has lots of options. Personally, I would NOT trade off that much of a commute for an extra $200/week, but that's his business.
That $200 is another 10k pretax after a year. That's not insignificant especially if you don't make that much.
I'm not sure where you live, but for an "extra" $200/week, he might be able to rent a bachelor apartment or at least a room from someone that is much closer to his job than your house.
This is a good idea, and something I will check into. He did mention possibly trying to look for a camper to buy or rent at some point in the future after he's adjusted and had some time to save.
I know there are so many factors but why doesn't he move closer altogether? 5 hours/day of driving for work regularly sounds awful. What a waste of my time and gas (plus wear and tear on his car).
Among other things, no money at all for deposits for rent and utilities, no furniture at all (40-something and currently lives with his mom), horrible credit.
I would play up the idea that it'd be better for him to stay at a hotel: accumulate lots of points, can stay much closer than a 1 hour drive to work for a better commute those days, someone to clean up for you, and I assume a meal allowance so he can eat out and enjoy meals. Add in a potential fitness center/pool... it's really not so bad to stay at a hotel.
What doesn't make sense to me (and I SO WANT TO believe him) is he says you either get $50/day for meals and lodging OR $0/day for meals and your hotel paid for. It doesn't make sense to me, and is unlike any other travel reimbursement plan I've heard of.
In his line of work at other companies, he would get $x for lodging plus $x for food.
Post by shopgirl07 on Sept 2, 2015 16:26:23 GMT -5
Just tell him that you're sorry but the arrangement really won't work for you and your H. And don't offer suggestions/alternatives. He's a big boy and can figure it out.
I don't know why he wants to stay with you anyway, since you're an hour from his job. I don't love staying in hotels all of the time, but I'd much rather have my own space and a short commute that impose on relatives and drive an hour.
Post by spunkarella on Sept 2, 2015 19:02:48 GMT -5
@domerjen I have no idea. But after talking with DH, my mom, and the family member some more, we are going to have him stay two weeks for sure, and a maximum of four weeks. He has a plan in place for a different place to stay with roommates closer to work after that.
DH and I are both 100% on board with this plan. Fingers crossed that everything goes ok, but I feel 1000x better after talking to the family member again and knowing that it's not an indefinite arrangement.