I do disagree with the SAHP hate though. I think the isolation is a lot harder than we give credit for. And you need to be internally motivated, and that's hard.
Suesue's post about ADs is making me sad. I don't know, I really felt like my brain chemistry WAS fuckedup and I needed the drugs. And I don't think I need therapy. I'M happy! I don't know why I always take these things so personally.
Me too.
I was in therapy for months and the only thing that made it better was going on Celexa. Everyone noticed that I was a completely different, happier person.
I hated being on maternity leave, and I hate being home alone w/ J now. Maybe it gets better when they're older, but I can't imagine being a sahm and not being totally, completely neurotic.
This is totally me too.
Oh and I guess I'm one of those people quesera is talking about. I hate being alone with my kids, but I can't wait to have another one. I guess I'm letting my uterus rule my world.
I completely agree. Pretty much anyone can be a SAHM(or D).
My UO is that I also think it's one of the most mind-numbing, isolating, boring, repetitive, frustrating, emotionally draining, and looked down upon things someone could possibly do and I dont understand people who are fulfilled by being a SAHP.
Man, what a shit day to read something like this.
Sorry, I dont know what that means, but obviously I dont want you to feel bad about it It's just how I feel based on my own experiences as a SAHM (for 7 years).
I should have probably said that I dont understand how people can be "completely fulfilled" (as in, it's their entire identity and they're ok with that) by being a SAHP.
There is no need for the WNBA. At all. I would rather saw my toes off with a butter knife than watch even one quarter of women's professional basketball.
I love when people, who aren't psychiatrists or neuroscientists, or even scientists of any kind really are all "OMG, think of the brain chemistry!!" It's like the equivalent of the "OMG, ingredients" nonsense with anti-vax people.
Not to be all pedantic, but everything happening in your body is a chemical process. (I know we all know this) We fuck with it all the time. The brain is different, but not THAT different. Is it not attached to the rest of your goddamned body?
Sorry, I dont know what that means, but obviously I dont want you to feel bad about it It's just how I feel based on my own experiences as a SAHM (for 7 years).
I should have probably said that I dont understand how people can be "completely fulfilled" (as in, it's their entire identity and they're ok with that) by being a SAHP.
Thanks, Emilie. I don't really know how to explain it without sounding whiny :/ I guess...I love being a SAHM. And I do feel fulfilled. I am "wasting" 3 degrees to be home with my kids, and I felt like I was doing something worthwhile. I work hard at what I do. I just felt devalued. And I like you, so it gave me the sads.
I do not feel sorry for all the teachers on my fb feed whining about going back to work yesterday.
Or the ones in my fb feed who get like 4 days off in a row because it barely flurried, and then have the nerve to bitch that they're DEFINITELY going to have school the next day.
I think it is odd when people who are so hardcore about vaccinating and following the advice of a physician turn around and question a physician who prescribes antidepressants.
Post by saraandmichael on Aug 21, 2012 12:14:17 GMT -5
i think some people in this post are slamming SAH parents because they wish they could be one.
i am a totally different person on anti-anxiety meds that are prescribed by my GP. and i am happy to have the help and not have to suffer being a miserable, high strung cunt for the rest of my life.
my UO is that if i never worked again i would be able to feel happy and fulfilled in other ways and i kind of wish that i didn't need to be employed at some point in the future.
It's so nice to see people on here saying that SAH is a pretty sweet gig. Unlike those on my FB feed who seem to think they deserve to be sainted because they "work 24/7" and "get no days off!" And OMG it's so HARD when the weatherman is wrong and you don't go to the beach but then it's nice out so you should have!
Also, the effing teachers I know. Get a grip. You had all summer off, even with your 1 week of work you had to do.
ETA: I am not slamming SAHMs. I would love to be one - because I think it *is* a pretty sweet gig! Which is why I hate seeing people bitch and moan about it all the time.
I find 98% of the comments in the OOTD threads to be extremely fake. It makes me wonder if any of the participants actually feel flattered when they're smashed in the middle of a huge list of "compliments".
I don't get the appeal of eating cheese on its own. (<-- this one makes me kind of sad. I feel like I'm missing out lol.)
Sorry, I dont know what that means, but obviously I dont want you to feel bad about it It's just how I feel based on my own experiences as a SAHM (for 7 years).
I should have probably said that I dont understand how people can be "completely fulfilled" (as in, it's their entire identity and they're ok with that) by being a SAHP.
Thanks, Emilie. I don't really know how to explain it without sounding whiny :/ I guess...I love being a SAHM. And I do feel fulfilled. I am "wasting" 3 degrees to be home with my kids, and I felt like I was doing something worthwhile. I work hard at what I do. I just felt devalued. And I like you, so it gave me the sads.
((hugs)) I'm "wasting" my degrees as well. And the constant assumption that it's NOT worthwhile is hard. I do think it's worthwhile. I just hate seeing people have their entire identity dependent on their child(ren) and are then lost when their children grow up. I dont think that's what you meant by fulfilled, though. And it's GOOD to feel like you're doing your best for your kids. I admire any parent who does that- whether that means SAH or working.