I had my first community group meeting last night and it was great. A large group of folks, lots of kids, and just really relaxed. I won't get to go for the next six weeks, but some of them said they'd try and make it to my concert in October
Muddled if you're going to procrastinate, that seems like a great way to go. You'll have yummy cake!
I have a meeting in an hour. Yay. It's already feeling gross in my place because it never really cooled down last night. The scientist agreed to a shorter walk because he didn't know about the heat advisory. Yay!
I have all sorts of fun things happening. My Italian kitchen arrives in port today. My sofa is scheduled to arrive tomorrow and Sunday I'm going to be drinking butter beer in Harry Potter World.
Post by starrieskies on Sept 9, 2015 10:32:48 GMT -5
Last night was rough. Ds is having trouble settling in to school again, and I almost feel like his teacher has unrealistic expectations for a group of first graders who are half way through their second week of school. Today is the 5th day of school, and she's already called me at work and sent 3 notes home saying that he's not sitting quietly at his desk and not following instructions. Mind you, I know my kid can be difficult and I expect that there will be many more conversations about his behavior, but it seems like maybe she is accustomed to dealing with older kids who settle in faster. One of the other moms whose kid is in the same class called me last night complaining about the same thing. I continue to have talks with ds about how I expect him to behave at school, and I do want him to behave, I'm not absolving him of guilt. But I feel like his teacher has already labeled him as trouble and that's not going to help him be successful...
Last night was rough. Ds is having trouble settling in to school again, and I almost feel like his teacher has unrealistic expectations for a group of first graders who are half way through their second week of school. Today is the 5th day of school, and she's already called me at work and sent 3 notes home saying that he's not sitting quietly at his desk and not following instructions. Mind you, I know my kid can be difficult and I expect that there will be many more conversations about his behavior, but it seems like maybe she is accustomed to dealing with older kids who settle in faster. One of the other moms whose kid is in the same class called me last night complaining about the same thing. I continue to have talks with ds about how I expect him to behave at school, and I do want him to behave, I'm not absolving him of guilt. But I feel like his teacher has already labeled him as trouble and that's not going to help him be successful...
I'd ask to meet with her and come up with creative ways to help DS in class. Can he bring things to mess with during the "sit still" stuff in class? I've had teachers like before...even one telling me she was going to "fix" DS. Dude, he doesn't need fixing. I'd come in with some suggestions for her and try to avoid the "burn her at the stake" if you can, since you're stuck with her for a year.
That's terrible starrieskies. Maybe a one on one meeting with her to discuss the situation?
I am having trouble deciding if this is conference worthy, or if I'm just in "mama bear mode". Like I said, my kid is a handful sometimes. This just seems excessive, and I would think that a teacher would give these young kids a little more grace the first few days...
That's terrible starrieskies. Maybe a one on one meeting with her to discuss the situation?
I am having trouble deciding if this is conference worthy, or if I'm just in "mama bear mode". Like I said, my kid is a handful sometimes. This just seems excessive, and I would think that a teacher would give these young kids a little more grace the first few days...
because you think he's being unfairly labeled, I think it would help change the teachers mind if you showed you were being proactive about the incident. Even a five minute meeting would be something. Maybe even show DS that you and his teacher are a team.
I am having trouble deciding if this is conference worthy, or if I'm just in "mama bear mode". Like I said, my kid is a handful sometimes. This just seems excessive, and I would think that a teacher would give these young kids a little more grace the first few days...
because you think he's being unfairly labeled, I think it would help change the teachers mind if you showed you were being proactive about the incident. Even a five minute meeting would be something. Maybe even show DS that you and his teacher are a team.
I'm here too....but make sure it's clear it's a "we're a team so DS succeeds" vs. "my kid is a special snowflake!"
My sentence structure is terrible, but you get what I'm trying to say!
I guess I don't feel so much like he is being singled out, especially after getting a phone call from another parent. And I don't doubt that he was not behaving 100% of the time. I guess I feel like at this age it should be expected, especially 5 days in... I'm all for enforcing results and expecting good behavior from kids, but if my son feels like he is getting in trouble let every day for doing something that the other kids are doing too, he's going to get discouraged and not want to even try. He doesn't see the consequences the other kids may have, so he feels targeted and frustrated.
I don't feel like I'm explaining this well... but I kind of just want to tell the teacher to back off a bit and let the kids find their groove before sending notes home every day...