My sentence structure is terrible, but you get what I'm trying to say!
I guess I don't feel so much like he is being singled out, especially after getting a phone call from another parent. And I don't doubt that he was not behaving 100% of the time. I guess I feel like at this age it should be expected, especially 5 days in... I'm all for enforcing results and expecting good behavior from kids, but if my son feels like he is getting in trouble let every day for doing something that the other kids are doing too, he's going to get discouraged and not want to even try. He doesn't see the consequences the other kids may have, so he feels targeted and frustrated.
I don't feel like I'm explaining this well... but I kind of just want to tell the teacher to back off a bit and let the kids find their groove before sending notes home every day...
You said you were afraid he was being labeled. That's what I ment by "singled out".
Maybe if he doesn't settle in by xx amount of time, then talk to the teacher?
Post by starrieskies on Sept 9, 2015 12:45:03 GMT -5
Yeah, I did say that, and I suppose I do kind of feel like that, but I think that's just my "my kid is a special snowflake " syndrome. I just want her to chill out for a little bit, let him settle into a new routine, and then work on perfecting it. I don't want him to hate school yet, it's too early for that.
Parent teacher conferences are the first week of October, so I will most likely observe until then and see how it goes.
Last night was rough. Ds is having trouble settling in to school again, and I almost feel like his teacher has unrealistic expectations for a group of first graders who are half way through their second week of school. Today is the 5th day of school, and she's already called me at work and sent 3 notes home saying that he's not sitting quietly at his desk and not following instructions. Mind you, I know my kid can be difficult and I expect that there will be many more conversations about his behavior, but it seems like maybe she is accustomed to dealing with older kids who settle in faster. One of the other moms whose kid is in the same class called me last night complaining about the same thing. I continue to have talks with ds about how I expect him to behave at school, and I do want him to behave, I'm not absolving him of guilt. But I feel like his teacher has already labeled him as trouble and that's not going to help him be successful...
I am in the same boat as you. The second week of school I received a note from the principal's office about DD being defiant. Yes, I know..... I told you this before school started back plus we had meetings at the school late last year about all of DD's disorders, give her some slack or a IEP. I expect many more even though I have documentation that DD has disorders and the school should help here but refuse because is not failing.
What if we just got out to the beach for a weekend and just slept for two three days straight? Nothing but take out, walks on the beach, TV, and sleep. How does that sound?
What if we just got out to the beach for a weekend and just slept for two three days straight? Nothing but take out, walks on the beach, TV, and sleep. How does that sound?