Post by starrieskies on Sept 16, 2015 8:46:19 GMT -5
I'm struggling. DS hates school. Every night it's a fight to get him to do his homework, not to mention the work his teacher sends home that he didn't finish in class. Since the school year has started, he's turned into a completely different child. Rude, defiant, and at times violent. Last night's fit included throwing various items in the house, biting, writing on the table, and lots of tears. I don't know what to do. If he's behaving like this for me, how can I expect him to behave for a teacher? It took us 3 hours to fight through one and a half assignments last night. His teacher isn't helping matters, but I can't really blame it all on her, as much as I'd like to. I asked for a meeting with the principal to discuss his issues at school, but with his issues at home, I'm on my own. I feel like I'm failing miserably at this parenting thing.
Can you contact the school counselor? You're not failing, this is a weird turn on the road that is parenthood but you're a great Mom--never doubt that.
starrieskies, I agree with the others, you are not a bad mother. It sounds like a combination of lots of things happening and the school should be working with you. I'd request a meeting with the teacher, counselor and principal to try and determine how to help B best.
((((starrieskies)))) You're not a terrible mother. No one expects that their child will have these kids if reactions to school and schoolwork. I think talking with the counselor and the principal are both really good ideas.
I'm going to send you those resources, I'm sorry I haven't yet. I think some feelings identification when you notice he's getting frustrated/agitated/whatever plus helping him learn to deal with those feelings when they're lower level could help.
Post by cuddlyevil on Sept 16, 2015 9:52:26 GMT -5
I remembered my lunch today!
Last night's rehearsal was great. We hit a bar after and I got to meet/chat up some really fun people--it's this really cool mix of people that are bonding over choral music. The next six weeks are going to be so, so busy but OMG so fun.
Post by starrieskies on Sept 16, 2015 10:12:38 GMT -5
Sorry for the post and run. I left my phone at home and can't be on the boards on my computer at work. I will answer all after I go home and get my phone. I just don't know what to do anymore. DS is really a completely different child since starting school, and I'm at a loss for how to help him. But I can't allow this behavior to continue... So frustrating!
Post by margarita on Sept 16, 2015 10:53:00 GMT -5
Hugs and lysol wipes for partiallysunny. You need some soup and a movie day!
(((starrieskies))) You are an amazing mom. I have always thought so. This is just a bump in the road for B (an adjustment period.) It will get better, but I know it must be so frustrating right now. I'm sorry.
Post by udscoobychick on Sept 16, 2015 10:56:39 GMT -5
((starrieskies)) You're a great mother for being proactive and taking steps to get things figured out.
I'm going to try to be more consistent and less sporadic about posting on here, now that my busy season at work plus my travel season are over.
I am ridiculously sore today...I taught two hour-long classes (pole and lyra) and took another hour-long lyra class last night...I forgot how exhausting it is to have three back-to-back classes!
Post by partiallysunny on Sept 16, 2015 11:10:54 GMT -5
The dumpster company tried to charge me $100 for "contamination". Basically, anything not concrete. I disputed the charge, because, no, there was nothing in that dumpster but concrete block. I was ubber careful.
I started the emdr therapy again yesterday. We went through my phone phobia. lolol. I'm one of those introverts who ABHORS talking on the phone, both in my personal life and at work, and it can interfere with things. It made me laugh during the session because, WHUT? Therapy about the fucking phone?
But it went really well and I'm glad we did it.
ETA: ALSO, I finally heard back about a second interview for an HR job. It's on Monday. Cross all the things.
H made a comment about MIL and I possibly having allergy issues because we've been going out to pull weeds lately while he's cutting grass. I respond with a comment about how bad the ragweed has been lately and how susceptible I am to it.
He comments that he doesn't think my allergy issues have anything to do with being outside.
The older I get the less I want to talk on the phone, outside of work. It's strange, since I like chatting with the people who call, but I still get all weird and try to avoid it.
I'm still tired...I think I must be suffering from some allergy something or another. I just want to have a restful nights sleep!
I am so excited my brother and I are about to make my parents super happy. I sent off some photos to be printed from our weekend trip. He picked them up and framed some of them and put the others in an album. My Dad always goes "I never see any of the digital pictures." Now when they get home this weekend they will have some framed and some in an album to see. I wish I could see there faces.
H made a comment about MIL and I possibly having allergy issues because we've been going out to pull weeds lately while he's cutting grass. I respond with a comment about how bad the ragweed has been lately and how susceptible I am to it.
He comments that he doesn't think my allergy issues have anything to do with being outside.
Post by starrieskies on Sept 16, 2015 14:35:47 GMT -5
Just got home and found my phone.
I emailed ds's principal yesterday about his issues in school and the feedback (or lack thereof ) I've been getting from his teacher. I haven't gotten a response. I did get an email from his teacher that was a bit more detailed and gave me some good feedback. It seems from what I'm getting that math is the major catalyst. He does fine until they transition to math. Consequently, the only homework they send home is also math. She also said that he is chewing on everything and she wonders if it's a coping mechanism. She asked if I'd considered taking him to see his pediatrician. Honestly I hadnt. I guess I think of the pediatrician for fevers and physical illness. I don't usually think of the pediatrician for behavioral issues... I suggested that maybe we could talk to the school counselor and see if we could come up with any ideas that way as well and she replied that she has already set up a meeting for herself and the counselor to discuss his behavior. I'm a little bothered that I am not included in this meeting, but I'm guessing that will come later?
Post by cuddlyevil on Sept 16, 2015 14:58:17 GMT -5
It's possible she's meeting with the counselor to get some ideas of things she can do in the classroom starrieskies. I'm glad the teacher is being responsive and more detailed. I hope you guys can figure it out.