Post by cuddlyevil on Sept 18, 2015 6:31:59 GMT -5
Are you feeling better?
I have a kidfree night ahead. I have to go to a funeral for someone at work tomorrow so camp grandma said "sure I will watch them, or they can do a sleepover". So they're sleeping over. Nos I gotta figure out what to do.
Post by starrieskies on Sept 18, 2015 8:04:49 GMT -5
Ds climbed in bed with me at about 1 am. Then at 4 he asked if it was time to get up.
I got a phone call from xh's gf yesterday telling me that he is sick and she was taking him to the hospital. In the 13 years we were together, the only time he was sick was when he was using drugs. The symptoms are very similar this time as well. He didn't look that bad on Wednesday night when I picked up ds, but you could tell. As if I needed one more reason to hate this week... at least she's at the hospital with him this time and not me. But it's hard on ds.
I slept like crap last night. Partially due to my next door neighbors have a very loud agreement in their driveway at 2AM, which happens to be right next to my open window. Luckily the argument was short but of course I had a hell of a time going back to sleep.
Back to writing papers today - I know you are all very jealous.
I had a revelation this week. I spent too long being scared and "I'm not good enough for him" that I've potentially let some good things slip by. And regardless of whether or not anything happens with WG, I can't waste my time being afraid.
Ds climbed in bed with me at about 1 am. Then at 4 he asked if it was time to get up.
I got a phone call from xh's gf yesterday telling me that he is sick and she was taking him to the hospital. In the 13 years we were together, the only time he was sick was when he was using drugs. The symptoms are very similar this time as well. He didn't look that bad on Wednesday night when I picked up ds, but you could tell. As if I needed one more reason to hate this week... at least she's at the hospital with him this time and not me. But it's hard on ds.
I can't help but wonder if this ^^ has something to do with DS's recent behavioral issues.
There are so many amazing women on these boards who are single and looking. And so many douchbag exHs with steady girlfriends. How does this happen?
I guess I know 'how'... It just doesn't seem right.
I get caught up in this, from time to time, because my XH never has any issues finding a gf. But what he has isn't real and he is really great at putting on an amazing show, in the beginning. In the end, I'd rather be single and living a true life than living the lie my XH lives with unaware ladies (who always figure it out).
Ds climbed in bed with me at about 1 am. Then at 4 he asked if it was time to get up.
I got a phone call from xh's gf yesterday telling me that he is sick and she was taking him to the hospital. In the 13 years we were together, the only time he was sick was when he was using drugs. The symptoms are very similar this time as well. He didn't look that bad on Wednesday night when I picked up ds, but you could tell. As if I needed one more reason to hate this week... at least she's at the hospital with him this time and not me. But it's hard on ds.
I can't help but wonder if this ^^ has something to do with DS's recent behavioral issues.
This is a good point, but xh was always careful to not use where ds could see. And he'd have to have been using for several months for it to make him sick. The shortest amount of time when we were together was I momths. Ds's behavior is more recent. Although he has been talking about his dad being angry more often.
I can't help but wonder if this ^^ has something to do with DS's recent behavioral issues.
This is a good point, but xh was always careful to not use where ds could see. And he'd have to have been using for several months for it to make him sick. The shortest amount of time when we were together was I momths. Ds's behavior is more recent. Although he has been talking about his dad being angry more often.
Maybe exH isn't being as careful. Maybe B saw something recently. IDK. Seems like they could be related to me.
This is a good point, but xh was always careful to not use where ds could see. And he'd have to have been using for several months for it to make him sick. The shortest amount of time when we were together was I momths. Ds's behavior is more recent. Although he has been talking about his dad being angry more often.
Maybe exH isn't being as careful. Maybe B saw something recently. IDK. Seems like they could be related to me.
Even if he didn't SEE anything, I suspect *if* XH is using, his behavior has probably been changing, which might be why DS is struggling.
Post by starrieskies on Sept 18, 2015 8:50:37 GMT -5
Very true. But proving that requires an admission from xh or someone close to him. I'm doubtful that will happen.
Of course this all comes to light when I'm supposed to be going to San Francisco next week for work. Ds is supposed to stay with his dad while I'm gone. Part of me feels like I need this trip, but how do I leave now??
There are so many amazing women on these boards who are single and looking. And so many douchbag exHs with steady girlfriends. How does this happen?
I guess I know 'how'... It just doesn't seem right.
I get caught up in this, from time to time, because my XH never has any issues finding a gf. But what he has isn't real and he is really great at putting on an amazing show, in the beginning. In the end, I'd rather be single and living a true life than living the lie my XH lives with unaware ladies (who always figure it out).
Me too. That's why I always say that even though I am lonely, I am tons happier than I was even a year ago. I am more me and that's good enough.
starrieskies, B is old enough that even if he didn't see his Dad using he would suspect something.
Very true. But proving that requires an admission from xh or someone close to him. I'm doubtful that will happen.
Of course this all comes to light when I'm supposed to be going to San Francisco next week for work. Ds is supposed to stay with his dad while I'm gone. Part of me feels like I need this trip, but how do I leave now??
That's really tough starrieskies. I don't know if there is any right answer but "follow your instincts".
Post by starrieskies on Sept 18, 2015 9:05:39 GMT -5
It's hard because I know that as long as xh's gf is there, ds is taken care of. It's xh's regular weekend with ds too, so I can't really stop that. But I know how this went in the past, and it wasn't over in a day...
It's hard because I know that as long as xh's gf is there, ds is taken care of. It's xh's regular weekend with ds too, so I can't really stop that. But I know how this went in the past, and it wasn't over in a day...
Do you have a back-up in case XH is "sick" for more than a few days?
I just read an article, on People, about Bristol Palin "slamming" the President. At the end of the article is states "Palin is currently pregnant with her second child. She revealed her pregnancy in June, only a month after canceling her wedding to former U.S. Marine Dakota Meyer."
What does any of that have to do with the topic of the article?
It's hard because I know that as long as xh's gf is there, ds is taken care of. It's xh's regular weekend with ds too, so I can't really stop that. But I know how this went in the past, and it wasn't over in a day...
Do you have a back-up in case XH is "sick" for more than a few days?
Not yet, but I will by the end of the day. He will have both sets of grandparents nearby, so that helps... but I will firm something up, and if I can't I might have to cancel my trip.
I just read an article, on People, about Bristol Palin "slamming" the President. At the end of the article is states "Palin is currently pregnant with her second child. She revealed her pregnancy in June, only a month after canceling her wedding to former U.S. Marine Dakota Meyer."
What does any of that have to do with the topic of the article?
it's People. That's the type of "news" they thrive on.
Do you have a back-up in case XH is "sick" for more than a few days?
Not yet, but I will by the end of the day. He will have both sets of grandparents nearby, so that helps... but I will firm something up, and if I can't I might have to cancel my trip.
Don't cancel the trip! Find back-ups, just in case he's too sick. Cancel only as a last resort.
I just read an article, on People, about Bristol Palin "slamming" the President. At the end of the article is states "Palin is currently pregnant with her second child. She revealed her pregnancy in June, only a month after canceling her wedding to former U.S. Marine Dakota Meyer."
What does any of that have to do with the topic of the article?
it's People. That's the type of "news" they thrive on.
I'm sorry starrieskies. I'm sorry you Ex has a problem and I hope your son is ok. I've never had a parent with a problem but lots of relatives. I remember being a little kid and knowing something wasn't right. I'm sure your son has picked up on that.
I agree with others. Have a back up plan and don't cancel unless you have too.
Post by starrieskies on Sept 18, 2015 10:08:09 GMT -5
Thanks everyone. I appreciate it. I'm just frustrated. Between ds's problems at school, and work stress, and now this I feel like I'm drowning.
On the plus side I made a deal with ds yesterday that if he is good at school and does all of his school work in class like he's supposed to for two days, I'll take him to his favorite fro yo place. I didn't hear a peep from his teacher yesterday, no unfinished work came home, and homework only took us about an hour of arguing to get through. This is a drastic improvement!
It's our anniversary, so we are going out to dinner tonight. I think I will wear the same dress that I wore last weekend. I don't have very many options.