Post by melodramatic26 on Aug 22, 2012 9:32:04 GMT -5
awww, guys, seriously. Thank you. I'm getting teary eyed reading all your responses.
I don't really know anyone else that ran through pregnancy so I don't know what is normal and what isn't, but your kind words makes me feel like a total badass. At exercising which I never ever thought I would. So honestly, thank you.
- I 'm also ready for fall. It's my favorite season.
- But, with fall comes my sister's wedding. I'm excited for her, but I'm a little stressed about the road trip, having to give an MOH speech, and the family drama.
- Thanks to advice given to me on the toddler finger foods the other day, I unclenched a little last night and gave DS a dinner he could eat totally on his own, not cut up into microscopic pieces. He loved it, ate it all, and didn't have any problems with the size of anything.
- My work project today is rewording one of our documents into sixth-grade language. I'm having to rewrite every sentence at least twice to find a good fit. I hate this task.
Post by DirtyMartini on Aug 22, 2012 9:43:50 GMT -5
* I am excited to start posting more since I have mainly been a lurker this summer. I am back at work on a "normal" computer rather than my iPad. I hate typing on those.
*I have really cute shoes on from Target (the patent leather red flats) but they are killing the back of my feet.
Frkls- that program sounds amazing! Do you think it'll be well received by your parishioners? I can't remember the name, but a while back Food Network did a special showing how much petfectly good food is wasted simply bc it wasn't pretty enough. We need to learn to eat ugly vegetables.
it's incredible. according to the USDA, americans throw away 263 million pounds of food PER DAY.
sadly, i don't think it will be well-received. our church has been described at the district level as needing a pastor to "administer hospice care" until they eventually have to close down. people are leaving in droves, nobody wants to do anything, there is a very powerful core of people who reject anything new, the fighting is CONSTANT. it's really sad. they won't do anything.
Sounds like the last church I went to. I hated it. The pastor was very outreach-minded, and the congregation was NOT. And xh's family was the core of the congregation. They never wanted anything new, ever.
Post by rupertpenny on Aug 22, 2012 9:47:30 GMT -5
Aw, Tamb, you know my H does the same thing as you and he pretty much feels the same as you do about it (well without the additional stress of the gender roles stuff). I know he feels bad complaining about it because on paper it looks like exactly what he wanted to do with his life, it just turns out that exactly what he trained for ended up being really boring and kind of unfulfilling.
So anyway, I get you. I don't think you should feel bad complaining about the job. Have you started looking for other jobs?
I feel very uncomfortable about everyone's feelings being hurt yesterday, and I didn't have anything to do with it. I wish people would stop responding in that thread and just let it die.
Tamb, I have had huge struggles with work since I had DD, and then DS. There's the reality that we need to have $X to make the life we have/want to have, and then there's the...reality that I want to be able to see my kids and enjoy my life.
There are two things I've come to realize over the past 5 years:
1. I am not a ladder climber. I want to do well at the job I have, but I will not miss my whole life to do so. I am very much a work to live person - my life is outside of my job, and this is okay.
2. If I have to be somewhere all day, every day, I'd better enjoy it.
I think I have finally accomplished these goals with my current job.
Money isn't everything. I could probably make more elsewhere, but I like what I do, and I feel supported in my job. At the end of the day, I am the primary breadwinner still, but I feel good about where I am. I think you should do something like monitor the job postings and keep an eye out for something that is a better fit for you.
Life is too short to be miserable in a job, you know?
That does suck, Tamb, and I agree w LHC about being underutilized.
Honestly, I'd look for a job and just keep being honest w H about what you're feeling. Don't look for a specific title, just be open and I think you'll find things you'll like. The rest will fall into place.
And definitely vent here if you don't feel you can vent to H. It sucks not feeling like you can complain
Post by sunflower22 on Aug 22, 2012 9:54:08 GMT -5
I agree w jaylea - money isn't everything. I mean, you need to pay your bills and be comfortable but being miserable is not worth a bit of extra $ in my opinion. And your husband needs to let you vent and complain w/o AT LEAST-ing you. Just bc he thinks he has it worse doesn't mean your feelings aren't valid. Hope you can find something soon! You seem to have a lot on your plate right now.
Also, I should add that I got a lot of At Leasting from my H too, Tamb. He figured I should just be fine with being miserable since he is at his job, and since I make about double his salary.
But that's just not how I work, so I told him that it was fine that he was willing to settle for misery at work, but that I wasn't so I was doing something about it (and I landed a better job with a salary increase and better benefits, so, yeah... it was a good call).
Tamb, there's never any harm in looking at other opportunities. Set up some key word searches on Indeed.com - it'll email you appropriate listings each day. Then you'll see what's there, and what interests you.
Well....maybe you can work it in on the side. I felt much more fulfilled when I was able to teach yoga on the side. It makes for hectic days but it's worth it.
Tamb- I'm sorry you feel this way, I feel the same about the work I do now. It's scary to me to think I spent so much time preparing for this path, and it's not what I want now - the idea of "starting over" is scary.
I had a dream I burned 837 calories swimming laps and now it makes me realllly want to swim. I'm one of those adults not crazy about the water. I mean, I *know* how to swim but I just don't really care for the water.
1. I hear phantom baby cries a lot. This is only in my house when K is napping and C is off playing somewhere.
2. I'm annoyed that Old Navy stopped selling Marshall University t-shirts. I'm buying one for my nephew's birthday since that is where both my dad and Grandpa went and who he is named after. I can get them elsewhere, I just liked the selection they had.
3. I'm already looking forward to Thanksgiving. We will be heading to Cashiers, NC to spend the holiday with my uncle (dad's brother), cousin and Gran. I could not go last year due to pregnancy complications and it will be the first time my Gran is meeting both C and K.
4. Was NQB someone else from the nest or just a lurker. I feel like I am always out of the loop.
Bravo Melo. You are an inspiration. Going to download Couch to 5K tonight, dust off my running shoes and hitting that pavement.
I'm sorry Tamb. I felt that way and one thing that helped but hurt so much was being forced out of my job. I hated the way it happened, the process nearly put me in a state but something else came along and though it pays terribly, I'm a better person for it. I'm challenged, appreciated and on most days happy to be at work. Making that effort before you are forced to is better. Not sure if that would ever happen in your case, but you never know, you know?
-Tested this morning, BFN. At first I was fine and focused on just working towards next month, but it slowly crept up in my mind and now I'm starting to feel sad again.
-I'm sad because M's class is losing several kids to 4k to the point of only having 3 full time kids her age. 3 including her. I'm pissed because the daycare planned to implement the same 4k curriculum but can't find a place to purchase it. (I'm on the board so I know everything that's going on). I'm trying to justify her staying there. Super small class size, right? Great one on one attention. But the curriculum needs to improve.
-I want a vacation so bad.
-Yesterday, I had a session with my therapist and we talked about how I can improve in snapping out of my worry state/trap. I'm excited as suggestions include meditation and yoga. It was also a suggestion to find something I can wear to remind me to find my "presence." So, I need to find a present for myself which will represent my "presence." da da dum, chi!
-Gotye concert is Saturday and I'm SO excited. Duran Duran is a week from tonight!!!!!!!
I'm starting to get all panicky about my surgery. Maybe I want to stay fat forever...
Nope! You're going to be so happy! The recovery isn't that bad and you'll get used to eating tiny meals. It's one of the best things I've ever done.
Lila - Are you have weight loss surgery?
I had it 5 years ago and it was the BEST thing I've ever done for myself. The first few weeks are a little hard, but seek out support from others who have had or are having the surgery. It helps so, so, so much.
Good luck. If you need support or anything, feel free to PM me.
We lost a dear friend the other night to a motorcycle accident. He was so young. I do not know how to process this.
This might sound a bit creepy but are you from the pacific northwest? My FI just recently had a friend die in a motorcycle crash on Sunday, it has been a rough week for him.
If it's not the same person (unfortunately this kind of stuff seems to happen a lot w/ motorcycles) my condolences for your loss.