Awesome! Drove over to my parent's house Friday night. Saturday morning my mom and I went to the beach. We sat for two hours just chatting. She left to go shower and have lunch and I stayed for another two hours. I went back to the house and watched my Hokies beat up on Purdue. Saturday night we went to a BBQ place on the water. Got ice cream and walked on the beach after.
Sunday I spent at the beach and then drove back to Tampa. Sat down to do some work and promptly got an email saying my Tuesday meeting was cancelled. I'd have gone home last night if not for that meeting. I can't fly home today because I have meetings all day and all the flights tonight are booked. So, I'm staying tonight and going home tomorrow as planned. It means I can keep my dinner date with my sister and cousin so I'm not complaining.
The weekend was great! I went on an art tour with H. There were a lot of painters and sculptors presenting their work, as well as a few woodworkers. It was a really neat experience.
The weekend was great! I went on an art tour with H. There were a lot of painters and sculptors presenting their work, as well as a few woodworkers. It was a really neat experience.
Basically "I'm the sister of the former owner. It's looking nice BUT you did know the garbage men won't pick up those (bagsters)". Which I'm taking to mean is the little old lady way of saying "it's an eyesore, when are you going to take care of them".
What is with all the nosy little old ladies in this neighborhood! The house is a work in progress. Sorry if the dumpsters/debris/construction material annoys you. Fuck.
The weekend was great! I went on an art tour with H. There were a lot of painters and sculptors presenting their work, as well as a few woodworkers. It was a really neat experience.
Basically "I'm the sister of the former owner. It's looking nice BUT you did know the garbage men won't pick up those (bagsters)". Which I'm taking to mean is the little old lady way of saying "it's an eyesore, when are you going to take care of them".
What is with all the nosy little old ladies in this neighborhood! The house is a work in progress. Sorry if the dumpsters/debris/construction material annoys you. Fuck.
:? Sounds like she needs a hobby. Mind your own damned business, lady! Yeesh. We have a bit of a "neighborhood watch" thing going on where we are too. It has its advantages, but it's also a little annoying.
I didn't buy any art this year, no. It's probably just as well. I saw a lot of art I liked, but nothing I loved enough to buy.
Post by cuddlyevil on Sept 21, 2015 8:52:22 GMT -5
LOL. partiallysunny, our old street was full of ladies like that. Except they called the cops on the ne'erdowells and knew ALL the gossip--even the stuff you thought no one knew. There was a couch on the curb on my route home, someone put a sign up that read "The City has already been called to pick up this couch. They will come for it in the next two weeks!" maybe you should do that?
Weekend was good. Was tackled by DS#1 when they came home Saturday afternoon, he couldn't get to me fast enough and was actually crying because he missed me.
My weekend was full of hanging outside with friends eating and drinking. It was good times. The only crap thing is my face is swollen from my root canal and it hurts. I called the Dentist this morning and he sent in an RX for me. I need some relief I hurt.
LOL. partiallysunny, our old street was full of ladies like that. Except they called the cops on the ne'erdowells and knew ALL the gossip--even the stuff you thought no one knew. There was a couch on the curb on my route home, someone put a sign up that read "The City has already been called to pick up this couch. They will come for it in the next two weeks!" maybe you should do that?
"The dumpster company I had was shady. I'm researching other companies. Also, there was a wedding, I was sick, my child was sick, family zoo trip and a holiday I needed to celebrate. Sorry you care about my debris this much."
My weekend was full of hanging outside with friends eating and drinking. It was good times. The only crap thing is my face is swollen from my root canal and it hurts. I called the Dentist this morning and he sent in an RX for me. I need some relief I hurt.
Still don't want to go to work. Had a great weekend though! Unfortunately, both my teams lost yesterday. Fortunately, I was hanging out with a friend and we made a plan to do this every week.
Saturday I ended up hanging out with the Dr most of the day. It was nice confirmation that feelings there are done for me and he can be just a friend. Also, he got high in front of me at one point and it was irritating as hell. It confirmed that I can't be with someone who does that. Friends with them, yes, because I can avoid them when they're smoking.
I feel like I had a pretty good weekend. Got a lot done on Saturday (vacuumed, changed out the litter boxes, steam mopped the bathroom, baked cookies, cooked dinner, and still had time to take a nap and rest). Sunday we took it easy. Ordered take out, watched foot ball, napped...nice and relaxed
Now it's Monday. And H managed to make me feel like shit about not getting the dishes done over the weekend. And he's moping around now because he didn't mean to upset me and doesn't want to be the chore police. Oh and he feels guilty for resting on his days off because he feels like he should be doing something around the house.
Post by bullygirl979 on Sept 21, 2015 9:45:04 GMT -5
Weekend was awesome!
I was in Lake Placid since Wednesday. We had a great time! I actually got P on a horse and we did a trail ride. We also did SUP and swam in the lake, drank lots of beer, wandered around town, ate lots of good food, sat around the fire pit and relaxed.
The only snafu was that we wanted to stay right next to the brewery as 1) the brewery. Duh and 2) it's super close to town. As we were driving there, I realized I booked the wrong hotel and we were a mile outside town. Oops. I was so incredibly pissed at myself but P was awesome about it and kept saying, "it's okay, it's not going to ruin our vacation." Needless to say, I was able to change the reservation and we only stayed there one night, and checked in to the right (and way more expensive!) hotel the rest of the trip. It was totally worth it, though.
Oh and he feels guilty for resting on his days off because he feels like he should be doing something around the house.
Like the dishes, maybe?
Have you guys considered a chore chart of sorts?
It helped H and I to list the chores that needed done "daily" and "weekly" and to break up who did what on what days.
I've brought this up in the past, but when we discuss it we always come back to what we decided at the beginning of our marriage which was if one of us thought something needed to be done that was the person who should do it. Unfortunately that has translated to me doing most of the basic stuff and him doing the 'big' stuff like steam cleaning the carpets. And when I get busy and drop the ball on some of the basic stuff he carries on about how important it is that we don't live in filth.
I will admit that I have been petty in the past and let things go just to see if he would ever notice/care. It got disgusting. I think that's why I'm so frustrated.
It helped H and I to list the chores that needed done "daily" and "weekly" and to break up who did what on what days.
I've brought this up in the past, but when we discuss it we always come back to what we decided at the beginning of our marriage which was if one of us thought something needed to be done that was the person who should do it. Unfortunately that has translated to me doing most of the basic stuff and him doing the 'big' stuff like steam cleaning the carpets. And when I get busy and drop the ball on some of the basic stuff he carries on about how important it is that we don't live in filth.
I will admit that I have been petty in the past and let things go just to see if he would ever notice/care. It got disgusting. I think that's why I'm so frustrated.
That doesn't seem to be working, though? Might be time to revisit.
I was the one to resist a chore chart (because we're not children! Lol) but it really helped to have clear expectations.
Post by cuddlyevil on Sept 21, 2015 10:47:38 GMT -5
DD asked for a chore chart last night I've already joked about making DS#1 mow the lawn (he loves to do it and my mower is a reel mower, so not dangerous for him to use).
In the last 4 days, I've added 6 or 7 new people on FB. It's entertaining to say the least.
Post by spindle92 on Sept 21, 2015 10:54:28 GMT -5
Weekend was great but today did not start out the best.
I turned on my computer and the screen is almost black. If you turn it just the right way you can faintly see the logo. Luckily I have the protection plan but I just called and it looks like I am going to be without my laptop for a good two weeks.
At least I have my desktop to work on but that also means I am stuck at my desk for the next two weeks. This time of year I love working outside and have even gone to a park on really perfect days. Guess I am home bound for a while. grrrr
It helped H and I to list the chores that needed done "daily" and "weekly" and to break up who did what on what days.
I've brought this up in the past, but when we discuss it we always come back to what we decided at the beginning of our marriage which was if one of us thought something needed to be done that was the person who should do it. Unfortunately that has translated to me doing most of the basic stuff and him doing the 'big' stuff like steam cleaning the carpets. And when I get busy and drop the ball on some of the basic stuff he carries on about how important it is that we don't live in filth.
I will admit that I have been petty in the past and let things go just to see if he would ever notice/care. It got disgusting. I think that's why I'm so frustrated.
So if your H decided the dishes needed to be done, why didn't he do them himself?
I've brought this up in the past, but when we discuss it we always come back to what we decided at the beginning of our marriage which was if one of us thought something needed to be done that was the person who should do it. Unfortunately that has translated to me doing most of the basic stuff and him doing the 'big' stuff like steam cleaning the carpets. And when I get busy and drop the ball on some of the basic stuff he carries on about how important it is that we don't live in filth.
I will admit that I have been petty in the past and let things go just to see if he would ever notice/care. It got disgusting. I think that's why I'm so frustrated.
So if your H decided the dishes needed to be done, why didn't he do them himself?
I'm a little concerned that if we try to apply logic to this situation my head might explode...
I'm a little concerned that if we try to apply logic to this situation my head might explode...
Don't give in to avoid an issue. If you are upset about the situation, you need to say so. Keeping it bottled up isn't going to help.
This is a really good point. I know I'm avoiding it because I'm still scared of the fights we used to have while we were drinking. (My therapist actually suggested I might have PTSD...I'm still trying to wrap my head around that.)
I do want to bring it up. And I want to change the way we handle housework. I just want to make sure I bring it up like an adult.
I honestly don't know what gets up his butt sometimes. We'll be doing great and then all of the sudden nothing is good enough.
But you need to have a conversation about this.
P has OCD and is a total neat freak. Sometimes, he gets a little ridiculous with his expectations. He expects me to be like him, and I'm not. When he gets going about stuff, I have to say to him "I'm not you and you need to recognize this. I'm doing the best I can and I feel like my actions aren't good enough for you." He will then realize he is being a little ridiculous and either A) get off my back or B) do it himself, up to his standards.
I honestly don't know what gets up his butt sometimes. We'll be doing great and then all of the sudden nothing is good enough.
But you need to have a conversation about this.
P has OCD and is a total neat freak. Sometimes, he gets a little ridiculous with his expectations. He expects me to be like him, and I'm not. When he gets going about stuff, I have to say to him "I'm not you and you need to recognize this. I'm doing the best I can and I feel like my actions aren't good enough for you." He will then realize he is being a little ridiculous and either A) get off my back or B) do it himself, up to his standards.
Weekend was really good! turtle1120 and her mini me were at my place for the weekend. Her DD is so stinking cute! gault came over on Saturday and took some pics of us doing a mud run (which had a billion insane hills). Then we cleaned up and went out to dinner and had a few drinks.
I'm trying to figure out what to do about Christmas presents for the kids. Neither need anything and I had considered a trip, but maybe I should wait and do a big one next year for DD's last year at home. DD was talking about wanting a nice camera or a ipad. I hate to say it, but I'm considering getting them both ipads since neither *needs* anything this year. They're pretty much only get one gift if I do that, though.
I spent hours looking at different options for zombie costumes and Halloween costumes.
P has OCD and is a total neat freak. Sometimes, he gets a little ridiculous with his expectations. He expects me to be like him, and I'm not. When he gets going about stuff, I have to say to him "I'm not you and you need to recognize this. I'm doing the best I can and I feel like my actions aren't good enough for you." He will then realize he is being a little ridiculous and either A) get off my back or B) do it himself, up to his standards.
I am P
He hates the fact that he has OCD. He tries to control it and I have to say, he has been pretty great so far in recognizing when his expectations are too high.
I feel like I had a pretty good weekend. Got a lot done on Saturday (vacuumed, changed out the litter boxes, steam mopped the bathroom, baked cookies, cooked dinner, and still had time to take a nap and rest). Sunday we took it easy. Ordered take out, watched foot ball, napped...nice and relaxed
Now it's Monday. And H managed to make me feel like shit about not getting the dishes done over the weekend. And he's moping around now because he didn't mean to upset me and doesn't want to be the chore police. Oh and he feels guilty for resting on his days off because he feels like he should be doing something around the house.