s/o - Any regrets?

[ondaflipside]

I wish I got pregnant with my past relationships. I feel like I'm running out of time.

[Deleted]

I wish I hadn't felt I 'had' to go to college. I really wasn't given any options by my parents or advisors; they just felt with my grades I would surely get more scholarships. Going to a state school meant there really weren't many academic-based scholarships, and my parents had no savings for my expenses. I am footing the entire bill for a few more decades For what I do after getting my MA, I easily could have taken our state CSEA exams and made my way up the ladder. I'd be making exactly the same pay by this point.

[bbaggins]

I wish I had stayed in college for more than one year and become an RA and graduated with my then friends. But then I wouldn't be where I am now, blah blah blah.

[dexteroni]

Not really regrets, but sometimes I have "what if" moments regarding my education. My parents and teachers had a much loftier path in mind for me than the one I ended up taking. I was tired of doing nothing but schoolwork and wanted to live a little in college. I definitely don't regret doing that - I loved my college and early 20s - but sometimes I wonder what my life would be like if I had followed that path. But then at the same time I'm glad I didn't because I wouldn't have met DH. So it's tricky.

[Deleted]

BTW--I work in a study abroad office (lived in Edinburgh and London during college and grad school), and seeing how many people say 'I wish I had studied abroad' is a little heartbreaking. While a good portion of my debt is from living/studying abroad and I sort of regret that, it is nice to know that is something I did before meeting DH, having C and being 'responsible.'

[sometimesrunner]

I wish I would have studied abroad in college. I could have knocked out my desires to live in a foreign country and a big city in one fell swoop.

[Deleted]

I wish I'd invested more in experiences. I missed out on doing a lot of fun things because I was afraid to spend money. I think if I'd seen the big picture, I would have taken advantage of some great, once in a lifetime opportunities (like traveling with friends or on school trips)

I still struggle with this.

[orangeblossom]

Wish I would have gone to nursing school or stayed in a allied health field (started off doing PT)

Wish I would have taken a year off between grad school

Wish DH and I would not have bought our house when we were engaged. Moreso, because I feel like that anchored us location wise in ways that we didn't need to be at that time

Wish I would have taken advantage of some great opportunities I've had and stop letting the perfect get in the way of good.

[Deleted]

I wish I had given painting a shit. I was really good, could have been at least noteworthy. I dropped it like a bad habit one year after earning my BFA & it still pissed me off. I will NEVER have that momentum again.

[evynsmama]

My one true regret was hiding in a tent at 8 years old and missing Haley's Comet because I was scared, I may never get to see it again and I regretted it the very next day.

[mskitkat]

I regret not having more fun when I lived in Los Angeles. OTOH, that regret gave way to DH's and my resolve to have no regrets when we eventually move from NYC. I don't think we would have had some of the most amazing nights ever without that. Sometimes it's fun to look back and trace "how the hell did I get here?" If I hadn't screwed up on my financi aid, I would have been able to afford to teach English in China for a year ad I had planned. If I had gone to China, I wouldn't have worked at my first job in LA. I wouldn't have had the experiences with those coworkers that fundamentally changed how I view life.

[badtzmaru22]

I wish I knew more about medical careers not involving blood when I was picking a major. That's not really a regret though.

I do regret wearing an outfit I didn't really like on my last day of being pregnant. I was overdue, so it's not like I didn't know the end was coming. I had some really cute maternity clothes. This is a lame regret as well. Sorry.

[thatgirl2478]

I have one regret. I wish I had not dated one guy exclusively in college. Specifically, I wish I had just gone for it and made out with this one guy (who was a sculpture artist and a bike enthusiast, so he had amazing muscles from USE not 'exercise' - makes a big difference to me looks wise). I found out recently that he had a MAJOR thing for me back then - and I was too busy with a bone head frat guy who didn't want to DO anything with his life except sponge off Mom & Dad.

Ahhh - but we're both married now and he lives on the other side of the country. I even took my DH to his engagement party. He's a real sweetheart and so is his new wife.

[Deleted]

I wish I would have waited to get married and have kids. I was 21 when I got married and 22 when we had DS. I would still want my DH and my DS, but I wish I could have had them many years later.

I will never know what it is like to just focus on my career, without the thought of my child in the back of my head.

That said, I am lucky to have the job I have and the relationship I have with DH. I could have it much worse.

[Deleted]

I wish I had gotten diagnosed with dyslexia & gotten help in early elementary school. I wish I had picked a different undergrad school. I wish I got a recommendation from someone in my past. I wish I had taken the ARE before having a kid. I wish DH & I got married a year earlier like we wanted to (but our venue was booked).

[explorer2001]

I'm divorced and those with long memories will remember the surrounding drama, so yes! But then again I can't change the past so I focus on learning from it and doing better now and in the future.

[ejpint]

I'm mostly pleased with the adventures I've had. My only regret is that I never did the Peace Corps. I started to apply for it several times in my 20s. The last time, I had completed my application and was ready to submit when I met H. Things progressed, and I just never sent it in. It most likely will never happen, now. I can't really imagine doing it in my retirement years, but who knows?

[phoenixrising]

I wish that when my STBXH and I broke up in 2001, I had stayed broken up and not allowed fear to tell me that if I lost him, I would never be happy. Eleven years later, I "lost" him, as the result of his affair, and my life could have turned out very differently if I didn't spend so much time making that relationship work.

I kind of wish I had gone to a college that had a nursing school because I would have become a nurse at 22 instead of at 30. However, I might not work in the NICU I work in now, which means I would never have met the AMAZING friends who have seen me through the past year and a half of horrible stuff (my mom's cancer and the break-up of my marriage), and I would not trade them for anything.

I really wish that I would not let fear have such a role in my decision making. But I am working on that!

Oh, smaller things...I wish I had never quit Girl Scouts when I was in middle school. I ended up getting involved in it again as an adult and would have loved to have been able to say I earned my Gold Award! And I wish I had never quit dancing in elementary school. I went back to it in high school, but I could have been a much better tap dancer if I stuck with it.

[Awkward]

Aug 22, 2012 15:42:49 GMT -5 phoenixrising said:

Oh, smaller things...I wish I had never quit Girl Scouts when I was in middle school. I ended up getting involved in it again as an adult and would have loved to have been able to say I earned my Gold Award! And I wish I had never quit dancing in elementary school. I went back to it in high school, but I could have been a much better tap dancer if I stuck with it.

Aw man. I stayed in Girl Scouts all the way through high school. I did all the preliminary work for my Gold Award. All I had to do was the project! Aaaaand I didn't. By the time I would have finished it all of my college applications would have been sent, so it wouldn't have mattered anyway. I regret this too!

[Deleted]

I wish my dad were alive to see me get my PhD.

[iheartbanjos]

I wish I would have spent more time with my girlfriends and less time with my boyfriend in high school and college.

[childofhiphop]

No regrets. I did what many pp are ruing. I lived on my own. Travelled the world. Had an awesome time. Had mega-rich BFs (some with private jets a la the other post). Married an amazing man who loves me like no one else has.

I've had fabulous and diverse jobs. I probably could have managed my financial life better but nothing worth doing over again.