Post by cuddlyevil on Sept 22, 2015 9:33:56 GMT -5
Quite honestly, if a kid his age came to my door without a costume on they'd still get candy. At his age, it's all good in my book. For all I'd know, he was wearing a mask and chucked it in a bush. I'm not going to short the kid on candy just because he's not wearing a costume.
Plus, you can make a game out of it--like a scavenger hunt or something.
partiallysunny that is a tough call. Maybe he'll decide on something soon.
I feel like I got a good night's sleep last night and my fancy alarm clock (with the light) definitely helped me wake up. It's nice to start off the day this way. Let's hope it stays! Yesterday was nuts again, in a different way than last week.
Screw the rules...if he doesn't want to dress up, take him out and cheerfully tell people he's dressed as Bubby.
I'm really torn on this. I don't want to be all "special snowflake" about it and let him TOT sans consume. But I feel bad he might miss out.
I'm a big fan of embracing each kid's uniqueness. And there is no rule that says kids HAVE to dress up in order to TOT.
FWIW, my DS is a bit of a special snowflake, but in the most fun way possible! He's always marched to the beat of his own drum...which has included believing he was a cat named Twilla for weeks (this included rubbing up against people's legs, meowing instead of talking and eating food on the floor) and rocking pink finger nails (in 4th-5th grade) telling everyone "a real man can wear nail polish." I think it's helped his self-esteem to let him do him, kwim?
partiallysunny that is a tough call. Maybe he'll decide on something soon.
I feel like I got a good night's sleep last night and my fancy alarm clock (with the light) definitely helped me wake up. It's nice to start off the day this way. Let's hope it stays! Yesterday was nuts again, in a different way than last week.
So H and I talked last night. It was calm, respectful, and not quite successful but overall good.
He voluntarily admitted acting like a jerk about the dishes and chores, and he apologized. He also agreed that we needed to rethink how we handled housework. Once we started talking about expectations though we got off track. Instead of talking about chores we ended up talking more about general expectations in our relationship. We ended up on family again.
So we didn't quite get the chore issue worked out, but we did have a really good talk about our relationship and how each of us felt about it and each other. It left both of us a bit melancholy, but it didn't turn into a fight.
Thank you everyone for the advice and encouragement yesterday. It really did help me stay calm and focused. It's amazing what validation will do for my confidence Thank you!
partiallysunny that is a tough call. Maybe he'll decide on something soon.
I feel like I got a good night's sleep last night and my fancy alarm clock (with the light) definitely helped me wake up. It's nice to start off the day this way. Let's hope it stays! Yesterday was nuts again, in a different way than last week.
Tell me about this magical device.
Verilux Rise & Shine alarm clock. I flove it. The center ring brightens slowly to help stimulate sunrise and wake you up. I can also use it to slowly dim to stimulate sunset. It does have sounds as well.
Verilux Rise & Shine alarm clock. I flove it. The center ring brightens slowly to help stimulate sunrise and wake you up. I can also use it to slowly dim to stimulate sunset. It does have sounds as well.
This has been on my wishlist for a very long time now. It just sounds like such a wonderful way to wake up
Verilux Rise & Shine alarm clock. I flove it. The center ring brightens slowly to help stimulate sunrise and wake you up. I can also use it to slowly dim to stimulate sunset. It does have sounds as well.
This has been on my wishlist for a very long time now. It just sounds like such a wonderful way to wake up
It really is. So much more gentle than a regular alarm. It was a gift from my mom.
Post by cuddlyevil on Sept 22, 2015 10:25:15 GMT -5
I'm glad you guys had a good, adult discussion--even if it didn't quite cover everything. Now you both know you can have a discussion like this and not devolve into an argument. Good job SwimDeep!
I'm glad you guys had a good, adult discussion--even if it didn't quite cover everything. Now you both know you can have a discussion like this and not devolve into an argument. Good job SwimDeep!
This is what I'm focusing on right now. I woke up with so much confidence this morning! When I walked in to my psychiatrist's office this morning she took one look at me and said "You look great!"
Because we're finally sober enough to realize how much damage we've done to ourselves and our relationship.
H asked if I loved him unconditionally (this comes from a book we've been reading "Daring Greatly"), and I told him that I try to. The he asked me if I thought he loved me unconditionally. I said no.
It was just things like that...I feel like the conversation brought us closer, but because we were talking about some painful things, left us a little sad.
Post by bullygirl979 on Sept 22, 2015 10:51:35 GMT -5
I get that, SwimDeep. But you know burying your head in the sand doesn't solve anything. Even though those conversations are painful, it's important to be honest about how you are feeling about each other, yourself and the relationship so you can decide where to go from there.
bullygirl979 - ordinarily I would bury it all inside and drown it in alcohol. If H had asked me that question even one month ago, I wouldn't have given him an honest answer. I'm okay with feeling sad about it right now. We might be able to rebuild our relationship. Or we might be able to part on honest, amicable terms.
Either way, I'm more at peace now than I've been in a very long time. My goal is to move forward with kindness and honesty
Post by bullygirl979 on Sept 22, 2015 11:14:05 GMT -5
Here is a funny for everyone:
my moms calls last night and says, "I have a question for you" and then follows it up with "how much does pot cost?" I nearly peed my pants from laughing. My mother is the quintessential gray haired, straight laced, church going woman.
I think the interview went well. I was confident, which was good. You just never know, and I always second-guess a bunch of answers I gave or wonder if my explanation made enough sense, since I'm more big-picture and explaining too many details means I GO OVER ALL THE DETAILS EVER.
I'll know this weekend about a potential second in-person interview.
Also have a phone interview on Thurs for another non-profit
my moms calls last night and says, "I have a question for you" and then follows it up with "how much does pot cost?" I nearly peed my pants from laughing. My mother is the quintessential gray haired, straight laced, church going woman.
I know what we used to buy is expensive and worth it