Post by timorousbeastie on Sept 28, 2015 11:00:32 GMT -5
I SAH. H has a very demanding job and therefore can't help out much. I had a babysitter come for a few hours a week over the summer, but she's away at school now. I try leaving her in the gym daycare, but she melts down and they come get me after 20 minutes.
Yeah, I could do with a little less time with her. Love her to pieces, but the occasional break would be nice.
I wish I had more time during the week. Like @vicmo said, mornings are rushed and not really quality time, and evenings are all business (dinner, bath, bed) by the time I get home from work. Honestly, I just wish I had a job with less of a commute (an hour each way currently) and then I feel like the time would be perfect.
I wish the work day ended at 3:30 a couple of days a week. It would be nice for evenings to be more than just bike home, dinner, clean up, get ready for bed, with maybe 15-30 minutes of playing where V's too tired to do anything that requires attention span.
As a SAHM I spend every waking moment with at least 1 kid, usually 2. I wish I could spend more quality time with DD. Poor second child gets marginalized a lot. She gets toted to DS's activities, gets put in the RnP while I cook, clean, or play with DS. I spent so much time with DS (since he was an only child) reading, doing tummy and naked time, long walks in the park, cuddling him for naps etc. I haven't been able to do that at all with DD.
It varies, but I say it's a good amount for the most part. There are weeks where it is too much/too little. Everyone seems happy enough, so I'll call it a success.
I wish that I had both more time with my kids and more alone time. There simply aren't enough hours in the day. The only way I can see any improvement happening is if I drop to working 6 hours/day instead of 8, but I'm not ready to make the leap yet.
I spend the right amount of time because it could not possibly be more while working full-time. I wish it could be distributed a little differently though. Right now we have about 2 hours on the weekdays (6-8 pm) and alllll days Saturday and Sunday usually. I wish I could have a little more "me" time on Saturdays and Sundays.
Post by aspentosh on Sept 28, 2015 14:11:21 GMT -5
I'm a SAHM so guess my answer
But really, I try and do hands-off time with her every day where she can play in a different room alone and I can GBCN or read news articles. That helps a lot. But I still spend most of her waking hours with her... which is a lot. Thank goodness for preschool now.
Post by wanderlustmom on Sept 28, 2015 14:22:07 GMT -5
Mine varies. I've always worked part time and when they were little--my two evenings a week at work were no big deal. I treasured my break.
Now that they are school age, I do wish I had just one evening away from them but being in private practice, I need to work two nights in order to generate enough income. And to be honest, hours are just hours. I sometimes feel I piss the time away so I want to be present with them when we are together. DH works long hours and travels for work. But he's still better than me with being present.
Post by cricketwife on Sept 28, 2015 16:45:48 GMT -5
It's pretty close to perfect. I'd like maybe an hour more with him each weekday. We get an hour in the morning and then 4:39-7 pm. But I get weekends, school holidays, all summer with him, which I love.
Post by SallySparrow on Sept 28, 2015 16:51:27 GMT -5
Now that I'm working part time, yes. I see her every night from 3:30-7:30. And I keep her home most of the time when I'm off. So 6a-730p three-four days a week.
Every once in a while I'll pick up extra hours and work a 12. I don't see her at all those days. I don't love it, but it's maybe one day a week, so it is what it is.
I put "too much", but that's mostly because the separation anxiety is wearing on me. If I could leave the room for two minutes to start a load of laundry or whatever without her having a meltdown I probably wouldn't feel so desperate for alone time.
Pretty much this exactly. Although now that I'm working two days a week I am feeling a little better in general.
I'm on the app so I don't know the choices. My weeknight time together with DD1 is not really quality. Probably for DH it is more so since I tend to be the one cooking and dealing with DD2. These days, I prefer DD2 since she doesn't know how to talk yet, and she thinks everything I say is hilarious. I'd prefer the time I have with both girls to be a different time of the day, not witching/cranky hour. We spend all weekend together and I do feel as though that time is mostly quality, aside from some chores in the morning.
Post by booboo173 on Sept 28, 2015 19:28:16 GMT -5
More time. I can't help it. I have mom guilt about working full time with a decent commute. I think I would be happier working less so I didn't feel like I always was sacrificing time for him or time for myself ever
Post by lindsaymg on Sept 28, 2015 19:37:37 GMT -5
Seeing as though DD is attached to me 24x7 right now (literally, she hates the stroller so she is worn everywhere and sleeps in a bassinest 4 inches from me) I would say I spend too much time with them.
Post by andthentherewere10 on Sept 28, 2015 19:44:11 GMT -5
I saw my kid for less than an hour today. And it pisses me off that people think teachers get "ALL THIS TIME" with their kids since we "are done working at 3pm."
No. Not enough time. Never enough. My husband spends more time with him than I do (when he's not out of state).
I don't wish for more hours necessarily, but I would take a better quality of time together. I feel like I get the cranky parts of his day (morning and evening) and miss out on the times when he's happy and sweet. I