tamb, i'm so so sorry. my thoughts are with your family. i hope that your dad goes to mayo and that they are able to figure out a good course of treatment.
i'm sure that you WILL handle all of this with your usual equanimity, even though right now you're feeling like you're about to implode. hug your girl extra tight. they're good for that.
Post by revolution on Aug 22, 2012 20:13:13 GMT -5
Listen to me. You do not suck at this. This is hard on a daughter and I don't care if you are 5 or 55, dealing with this shit is hard and sucks.
I agree with getting him someone to talk to. Keep thecommunication lines open with all of you and if it helps you, be there when the drs are there and fire away questions you have.
I'm sorry Tamb. We went through something similar with my dad- after two years of chemo, when it came back in his liver, he wouldn't go to Mayo, and he wouldn't do chemo again, he just wanted A Lot of opiates and to see his family. And it was awful but there's a point at which the decision was his to make. It is so awful though . . . And especially with your new baby, this must be so hard.
Post by meadowlark on Aug 22, 2012 22:40:37 GMT -5
Dear Tamb, I am so sorry. You are loved here. I hope you feel that love like a warm blanket today. Please take care of your sweet self. Your little family needs you too. I hope you get some good news about Dad.
Post by gretchenindisguise on Aug 22, 2012 23:51:31 GMT -5
Well shit Tamb, I'm so sorry.
And I agree with LHC, there is no manual, you are handling things fine. It's ok to be feeling sad, angry discombobulated, confused, etc all at the same time.
Oh, Tamb. Your update made me tear up. The only thing I can say is that there is no "right" way to handle any of this. You just do what you can, and take care of yourself too, okay?
“Life is not orderly. No matter how we try to make it so, right in the middle of it lose a leg, fall in love, drop a jar of applesauce.” - Natalie Goldberg