His living situation has been effed up for the last year, he finally cares about it. He is spending his raise on making his room feel like his space, he wants manly leather & wood & bedding. I have time to kill and a decorating background, so I am in charge of narrowing down his options.
Nope, he was pondering moving in with me, but decided he wants to stay closer to his kids. We live about 45 minutes or so apart. It's the right choice for him now. I'm bummed, but dealing with it pretty well. Getting to spend his money on him sure helps, retail therapy is just as good when it's not my money. Maybe better, even.
I'm sure when the time is right, you guys will make the decision that's best for both of you. How long have you been dating? I can't remember.
Happy Tuesday! I have my date tonight, I'm pretty excited about it. We have great conversation, I just hope we have good chemistry. The rain has been bumming me out, too hard to get Buddy out for walks in the random spurts of no rain.
I think, SwimDeep, that you easily cave if your H brings you the slightest bit of kindness after a fight of his making, no matter how throwaway the gesture is.
It's like if a dude brings a girl flowers after he smacks her around. All forgiven, right? Then you feel bad by being angry, because ooh pretty flowers and he spent MONEY.
I think, SwimDeep, that you easily cave if your H brings you the slightest bit of kindness after a fight of his making, no matter how throwaway the gesture is.
It's like if a dude brings a girl flowers after he smacks her around. All forgiven, right? Then you feel bad by being angry, because ooh pretty flowers and he spent MONEY.
Gaslighting. It's not good.
QFT. Gault is spot on, which makes me sad for you SwimDeep.
okay...I can't do the fancy multiple quote thing so I'm going to resort to multiple tags. Please bear with me.
partiallysunny - I read my initial posts multiple times to and I'm not even sure what I was trying to say :?
bullygirl979 - peanuts trump flowers (for me), but just because he bought them for me doesn't mean I'm not still mad at him. I'm irritated that he bought me anything because now I feel like I'm supposed to be nice to him.
gault and tiramisu - yes, I easily cave. But I don't think I've caved in this case. I have backed off because we're in a tough, sad situation. partiallysunny suggested yesterday that once all of this gets resolved H and I need to have a talk about boundaries. That is what I plan to do.
To everyone - We are all very upset about the cat, and I have been very vocal about it here. I feel like if H and MIL had listened to me we would not be in the situation we're in. But they didn't and now we're getting ready to leave to put the cat down.
Post by partiallysunny on Sept 29, 2015 13:59:50 GMT -5
SwimDeep it's possible to be mad at someone and still appreciate a peace offering. It doesn't mean you have to kiss and make up or that you should feel guilty for being upset.
Post by bullygirl979 on Sept 29, 2015 14:01:15 GMT -5
SwimDeep, I'm sorry about the cat. But your H needs to learn that a gift or one kind gesture does not make up for the past. He needs to *listen* to what you are saying and adjust his actions accordingly.
I hope some day you get yourself out of this abusive cycle SwimDeep. I really do. You deserve better than to constantly live in a state of anxiety, fear, depression and confusion.
Post by bullygirl979 on Sept 29, 2015 14:32:43 GMT -5
Vent: if you are going to attend a WebEx presentation, EFFING MUTE YOURSELF.
This vent brought to you by the jackass who put a WebEx call on hold which generated hold music, thus rendering the entire presentation useless because no one could understand the presenter.