My H's older brother is adopted because his parents tried for 10 years and couldn't get pregnant and then they magically got pregnant with my H a few months later (and his twin brothers a few years after). He is a brother just like all of them and no one ever mentions that he's adopted. In fact he and Lily have a special bond because he has curly hair too and so does she. We say she got it from uncle S Sydney will always be special because she was your first baby and made you a mama. Nothing can take that away!
I have more! My sister (10 years older) is my parent's biological child. They had 3 mid to late term miscarriages after her and decided to adopt. They got me I never felt different. Not at all. I do remember having conversations with my parent's when I was younger that were probably a little tough on them, but they reassured me that I was loved and no different than my sister. We were both their children. You and C are such amazing parent's. No way will S feel any different. I am always here to answers any questions!! I am so freaking excited for you!!!
I was hoping you would come in here and help to ease my mind! Thank you for your words of encouragement! I will definitely be asking you questions down the road!
That is what I have been thinking also! When the baby comes, she will be 4 and able to help with more things. She loves taking care of babies, so she is going to love being a big sister.
I am worried about her ever feeling bad because she will be the adopted one and this one will be the biological one. I'm sure that won't actually be the case, but it's an insecurity.
The more I read your responses, the more I cry. I'm just over the moon for you. And I honestly don't think there's any way EVER that S would feel bad. Every time you share a pic of her, oryou with her, you can tell just how much she is loved. She made you a mother! So many congratulations!!
My parents adopted my sister when my brother was 5 because they thought they couldn't have any more children. Then 3 years later I came along. I could never understand when people would comment on how close we were as a family and us as sisters "even though" my sister was adopted. That never factored into the thinking. We are a family, she is my sister, forever and always. You are a family, and S is going to love being a big sister! I'm so excited for you!!
I love being pregnant with Elias this age, he really understands and is so excited. He had no idea last time and didn't know what babies were since he was still a baby himself lol.
I'm so exited for you & your H and for Sidney, this is a wonderful adventure for you guys! Brought tears to my eyes.
You can still eat some fish that isn't high in mercury! I forget what kinds because I don't eat fish but I know you can still have some!
That is what I have been thinking also! When the baby comes, she will be 4 and able to help with more things. She loves taking care of babies, so she is going to love being a big sister.
I am worried about her ever feeling bad because she will be the adopted one and this one will be the biological one. I'm sure that won't actually be the case, but it's an insecurity.
Sydney will never feel insecure about being adopted vs biological. I know this because she has the most amazing parents ever! She has seen more love in her short little life than many children feel in a lifetime--that's not going to change. You will handle any hurdle with grace and poise, just as you have everything else that life has thrown at you.
A good work friend of mine has a similar situation where her oldest is adopted and she went on to have two biological children despite being told that could never happen. The only jealousy (and I use that term loosely) comes from the younger two because the oldest essentially gets two birthday parties a year-a birthday and his chosen day