“Life is not orderly. No matter how we try to make it so, right in the middle of it lose a leg, fall in love, drop a jar of applesauce.” - Natalie Goldberg
Talk to your doctor. You don't have to go on medicine just because you're having the conversation. They can help you determine what's going on and suggest ways to help. And if you do go on medicine, know that it's not forever. You may just need something for a short period of time. I'm sorry you're struggling.
Is there a reason you don't want to try meds? They don't have to be long term.
If you're 6 months postpartum and still feeling this way, I think it's time for some professional help.
Lots of hugs to you.
I am nursing and worried about all of that.
I understand. There are meds you can take while nursing, which I'm sure you know. If you still aren't comfortable with it, I would consider seeing a therapist.
“Life is not orderly. No matter how we try to make it so, right in the middle of it lose a leg, fall in love, drop a jar of applesauce.” - Natalie Goldberg
Call your ob. A lot of relief comes from making the call, and more from going. They can probably see you within a day.
Meds can be very safe for breastfeeding. Milk donations are permitted to have zoloft, for example. Please don't worry about that. If meds are what you choose, the benefit greatly outweighs the risk, which is nearly nonexistent anyway.
You have every reason to feel amazing. It can be hard to reach out, but it really helps. A lot. I bet you a million bucks that if you confide in a friend or family member, they'll move mountains to help you. They can babysit while you workout. I sought treatment very early, and several women told.me they regret not seeking help and said that calling was most definitely the right thing to do.
See a doctor. They will help you find a plan that works for you. If you mention what is going on they will get you in asap. You don't need to feel like this. ((hugs)) It sucks, but you'll feel so much better after that dark cloud is lifted.
I sobbed uncontrollably on the way to kohl's when lucy was a few weeks old...... Because I was sad to be exchanging gifts we didn't need for something she could wear in the future. And I was just so happyyyyyy to have two little girls that I couldn't stop crying.
Post by speckledfrog on Oct 5, 2015 23:03:28 GMT -5
I agree that just calling my OB was a boost to my spirits. I didn't want to be on meds, either. I think I was so used to feeling the way I was feeling that I forgot how really great it felt to be normal again. Sometimes I would think, "Well, this is just what life is like now. I'll just have to deal with it." Nope! Life was really so much better when I got on them. Zoloft is fine for breastfeeding. Neither of my doctors (ob or primary) batted an eye about me being on them and nursing.
Post by speckledfrog on Oct 5, 2015 23:09:13 GMT -5
I was about 7 months when I called my OB after W was born. They got me in the next day. They really want to make you feel better. With him I felt a lot of super rage. With C there was some of that but there was a greater feeling of worthlessness. Like I wanted to quit my moms' club weekly because I was sure that no one liked me and that I totally sucked at my (volunteer) job. PPD can really manifest itself in different ways. Really, if you aren't feeling like yourself make an appointment with your OB. Mine didn't push drugs, just presented them as an option. She also gave me the name to a therapist and we talked about different ways that I could make some time for myself.
Yes. I have time! This is total mom cliche bull shit, BUT, I just havent really been taking care of me. I can hear Shirly Mclane saying something along the lines in Terms of Endearment. hahaha
I feel you and mine are 8 and 6. I want to, I need to, but I don't want to.
My appointment is on Wednesday to get back on meds, it worked before and I should have never stopped.
Yes. I have time! This is total mom cliche bull shit, BUT, I just havent really been taking care of me. I can hear Shirly Mclane saying something along the lines in Terms of Endearment. hahaha
Ok. At six months, the gym day care will watch tater tot. Go exercise.
I was about 7 months when I called my OB after W was born. They got me in the next day. They really want to make you feel better. With him I felt a lot of super rage. With C there was some of that but there was a greater feeling of worthlessness. Like I wanted to quit my moms' club weekly because I was sure that no one liked me and that I totally sucked at my (volunteer) job. PPD can really manifest itself in different ways. Really, if you aren't feeling like yourself make an appointment with your OB. Mine didn't push drugs, just presented them as an option. She also gave me the name to a therapist and we talked about different ways that I could make some time for myself.
THE RAGE. Omg. Only its directed at my H. and I just dont feel like me. Blah
Yes. MH got the brunt of my rage. I think I just held it together as best I could all day and then he'd come home and .
I got PPD with all my kids, and my crunchy hippy midwife put me on Zoloft while I was pregnant with the last one. She's the sweetest, calmest, most adventurous baby I have.
Seriously, PPD stole at least a year and a half from me with my first two kids. It *can* be better.
I know it can be scary because you're in mama bear protective mode and there is always some doubt/guilt with almost any decision you make pp, but at least make an appt to voice your concerns. there is no harm or shame in whatever you decide is best for you and baby.
Post by ProfessorArtNerd on Oct 6, 2015 4:39:29 GMT -5
Honey, you helped take care of me, and now I'm returning the favor. Go talk. My therapist didn't even mention Zoloft til session 3. I'm starting to feel more like me again, and I wish that for you as well. Ok?
Post by balletofangels on Oct 6, 2015 9:12:33 GMT -5
Take care of you. You are one of the most empathetic people in this joint and you deserve to be happy as well. Calling your doctor is the toughest step, but you can do it.